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Anonymous wrote:I find it inappropriate to meddle.

I agree. No matter if you are saying something nice, OP, you are still a butinsky. No doubt you also would tell if you THOUGHT you witness her doing something of which you do not approve.

Not necessarily. When I see some one being short with the kids, I don't automatically assume it's like that all day. Everyone caring for a three year old who asks why why why all day long + a reflux baby is going have some not so perfect moments, like when loading the kids in & out of the car and trying to get to drop off on time. Kinda stressful, no? So if I hear a harsh tone "stop running and get over here!", I don't automatically assume that I know everything I need to know in order to report it to the parents. If I see abuse, then sure I would report that but a general lack of warmth? I can't assess that with a single snapshot without further context.

Conversely, when I see the nanny handling a stressful situation with warmth and kindness, that says a lot IMO. I would have given her the benefit of the doubt if she got frustrated with the kid's meltdown, but she didn't. That's notable.

No, it is not inappropriate to do so. By all means, go ahead + let the parents know.

They will most likely appreciate the feedback and it will absolutely restore confidence that they have made the right choice overall!

Anonymous wrote:No. It is patronizing To the nanny.

I strongly disagree.

When I was a nanny, a few neighbors who routinely saw me out with the kids praised me to MB & DB, who then relayed what the neighbors said to me. I really appreciated getting the positive feedback & I'm guessing it helped to reassure the parents that their kids were being well cared for while they were at work.