I would love to have your nanny, OP. Holy hell, a nanny who actually wants what is best for my kid?!!!


A lot of nannies here today trying to justify their lazy-assed ways.

OP, is your nanny named Sarah?

Anonymous wrote:It sounds like nanny is being a bit passive aggressive. Any truly experienced nanny could deal with the Big TV watching situation with little to no tantrums.
Nanny is no TV. She though you were at interview, but as you have grown into you parenting you have changed your mind.
Nanny is asking so she can feel she has a partial "win".
Watch her.

Exactly she is making you guys the "bad guys"
LO asks for TV " Sorry honey mama and papa have it with them at work." " Lets go blow bubbles"
As opposed to LO asking for TV and she says "TV stays off when nanny is here." or something like that " Lets go for a nature walk."


OP I would tell her no. Just to see how she reacts. Has she ever received any pushback from you on any of her suggestions or requests?

There is nothing wrong with wanting no or limited screentime or to work for a family that has that same value. I love it when nannies speak up and offer solutions, but there is something about this that is pinging my radar.

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Anonymous wrote:We have a pretty great and experienced nanny who is against any toddler watching TV at all. She was hoping we would wait until DD was 4 or 5. We have waited until DD turned two but now want to introduce a few programs to her. Nanny has asked us NOT to let her watch on actual big TV (we only have the one in the living room) but rather let her watch on our laptops which we then take to work with us. Nanny said she doesn't want DD asking her to watch TV all day or throw a tantrum because she can't watch TV.

Does this seem the best way to handle it?

I think it's pretty easy to get through a day of no TV with a big TV being in the house and without tantrums. She could just as easily have a fit about the laptops. 2 is beyond the out of sight out of mind aspect. Children are pretty good at understanding boundaries and rules related to certain caregivers. I could understand the point being made if she was against all screens from a developmental stand point.
But she's not and it sounds to me that she may not be as "experienced" as she claims.

If you want to try it try it., but I don't think this is a mark of wisdom, experience, or being good nor do I think it's her attempting to be controlling.

OP here and our nanny IS against all screens until a child is in elementary school. We don't agree and want to allow our child some limited screen time when with us.

But if it makes you feel better to try to put down our nanny - go ahead. I know what I know and she is a gem in all ways.

So you are the nanny posting. Nice try slick. Yes if you want to ask your employers to limit screen time to laptops do it? It's worth a try. If they agree great and if they don't don't take it personally.

OP here and no, I am not a nanny. I simply respect and appreciate our nanny.

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Anonymous wrote:We have a pretty great and experienced nanny who is against any toddler watching TV at all. She was hoping we would wait until DD was 4 or 5. We have waited until DD turned two but now want to introduce a few programs to her. Nanny has asked us NOT to let her watch on actual big TV (we only have the one in the living room) but rather let her watch on our laptops which we then take to work with us. Nanny said she doesn't want DD asking her to watch TV all day or throw a tantrum because she can't watch TV.

Does this seem the best way to handle it?

I think it's pretty easy to get through a day of no TV with a big TV being in the house and without tantrums. She could just as easily have a fit about the laptops. 2 is beyond the out of sight out of mind aspect. Children are pretty good at understanding boundaries and rules related to certain caregivers. I could understand the point being made if she was against all screens from a developmental stand point.
But she's not and it sounds to me that she may not be as "experienced" as she claims.

If you want to try it try it., but I don't think this is a mark of wisdom, experience, or being good nor do I think it's her attempting to be controlling.

OP here and our nanny IS against all screens until a child is in elementary school. We don't agree and want to allow our child some limited screen time when with us.

But if it makes you feel better to try to put down our nanny - go ahead. I know what I know and she is a gem in all ways.

So you are the nanny posting. Nice try slick. Yes if you want to ask your employers to limit screen time to laptops do it? It's worth a try. If they agree great and if they don't don't take it personally.

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Anonymous wrote:We have a pretty great and experienced nanny who is against any toddler watching TV at all. She was hoping we would wait until DD was 4 or 5. We have waited until DD turned two but now want to introduce a few programs to her. Nanny has asked us NOT to let her watch on actual big TV (we only have the one in the living room) but rather let her watch on our laptops which we then take to work with us. Nanny said she doesn't want DD asking her to watch TV all day or throw a tantrum because she can't watch TV.

Does this seem the best way to handle it?

I think it's pretty easy to get through a day of no TV with a big TV being in the house and without tantrums. She could just as easily have a fit about the laptops. 2 is beyond the out of sight out of mind aspect. Children are pretty good at understanding boundaries and rules related to certain caregivers. I could understand the point being made if she was against all screens from a developmental stand point.
But she's not and it sounds to me that she may not be as "experienced" as she claims.

If you want to try it try it., but I don't think this is a mark of wisdom, experience, or being good nor do I think it's her attempting to be controlling.

OP here and our nanny IS against all screens until a child is in elementary school. We don't agree and want to allow our child some limited screen time when with us.

But if it makes you feel better to try to put down our nanny - go ahead. I know what I know and she is a gem in all ways.

Not putting her down speaking from actual experience. Been in the nanny game many years. Been around many nannies and families.

It sounds like nanny is being a bit passive aggressive. Any truly experienced nanny could deal with the Big TV watching situation with little to no tantrums.
Nanny is no TV. She though you were at interview, but as you have grown into you parenting you have changed your mind.
Nanny is asking so she can feel she has a partial "win".
Watch her.

Anonymous wrote:Our lazy nanny asks us nearly every day if the kids can watch TV. It would give her more free time to text on the phone and ignore my kids.


You have the nanny I wish we had, OP. We are looking for a new nanny now...

+1 BIG TIME. Our nanny wants the kids to watch TV all the time and always has excuses for why she said yes. I look on the monitor and the nanny is texting away furiously while my kids rot in front of the TV.

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Anonymous wrote:We have a pretty great and experienced nanny who is against any toddler watching TV at all. She was hoping we would wait until DD was 4 or 5. We have waited until DD turned two but now want to introduce a few programs to her. Nanny has asked us NOT to let her watch on actual big TV (we only have the one in the living room) but rather let her watch on our laptops which we then take to work with us. Nanny said she doesn't want DD asking her to watch TV all day or throw a tantrum because she can't watch TV.

Does this seem the best way to handle it?

I think it's pretty easy to get through a day of no TV with a big TV being in the house and without tantrums. She could just as easily have a fit about the laptops. 2 is beyond the out of sight out of mind aspect. Children are pretty good at understanding boundaries and rules related to certain caregivers. I could understand the point being made if she was against all screens from a developmental stand point.
But she's not and it sounds to me that she may not be as "experienced" as she claims.

If you want to try it try it., but I don't think this is a mark of wisdom, experience, or being good nor do I think it's her attempting to be controlling.

OP here and our nanny IS against all screens until a child is in elementary school. We don't agree and want to allow our child some limited screen time when with us.

But if it makes you feel better to try to put down our nanny - go ahead. I know what I know and she is a gem in all ways.

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Anonymous wrote:We have a pretty great and experienced nanny who is against any toddler watching TV at all. She was hoping we would wait until DD was 4 or 5. We have waited until DD turned two but now want to introduce a few programs to her. Nanny has asked us NOT to let her watch on actual big TV (we only have the one in the living room) but rather let her watch on our laptops which we then take to work with us. Nanny said she doesn't want DD asking her to watch TV all day or throw a tantrum because she can't watch TV.

Does this seem the best way to handle it?

I think it's pretty easy to get through a day of no TV with a big TV being in the house and without tantrums. She could just as easily have a fit about the laptops. 2 is beyond the out of sight out of mind aspect. Children are pretty good at understanding boundaries and rules related to certain caregivers. I could understand the point being made if she was against all screens from a developmental stand point.
But she's not and it sounds to me that she may not be as "experienced" as she claims.

If you want to try it try it., but I don't think this is a mark of wisdom, experience, or being good nor do I think it's her attempting to be controlling.

Not OP but I disagree about it being easy to avoid tantrums. My mother gave DS a cookie ONCE and for two weeks he screamed and pointed to the cabinet where we keep the cookies. I can only imagine what he would do if he had to pass a large TV hanging on the wall and not be allowed to watch it.

I do think that OP's nanny has come up with a great solution. The only "television" that her child knows is going to work with Mom and Dad.

We don't allow any TV ever so we aren't faced with this issue. DS has no idea what that big black thing on our wall is or what it does.

OP here. I think a few of you may want to reread my original post. We do not agree with our nanny on no TV and are abdicating nothing. No one wants my child to watch TV during the day regardless of how much TV I may allow in the evenings and weekend. We respect our nanny's opinion and want to make our child as happy as possible when with her (hence the no introduction of programs on the big TV) and one way to make our child happy is to avoid tantrums.

I have never hired a "Yes Man" either in my home or my job and never will. I ask opinion of all my employees - that is why I hired them. If that is not how you other mothers live or work - fine.

Again, I simply asked if limiting viewing to laptops that leave the house when we do sounded viable and a good solution. Thank you to those who answered my question.

Anonymous wrote:We have a pretty great and experienced nanny who is against any toddler watching TV at all. She was hoping we would wait until DD was 4 or 5. We have waited until DD turned two but now want to introduce a few programs to her. Nanny has asked us NOT to let her watch on actual big TV (we only have the one in the living room) but rather let her watch on our laptops which we then take to work with us. Nanny said she doesn't want DD asking her to watch TV all day or throw a tantrum because she can't watch TV.

Does this seem the best way to handle it?

I think it's pretty easy to get through a day of no TV with a big TV being in the house and without tantrums. She could just as easily have a fit about the laptops. 2 is beyond the out of sight out of mind aspect. Children are pretty good at understanding boundaries and rules related to certain caregivers. I could understand the point being made if she was against all screens from a developmental stand point.
But she's not and it sounds to me that she may not be as "experienced" as she claims.

If you want to try it try it., but I don't think this is a mark of wisdom, experience, or being good nor do I think it's her attempting to be controlling.

Anonymous wrote:Nanny is weird. I don't watch tv with my charges. I don't really approve of tv before age 3 or so and even at that age, it would be a very limited (like 1-2 hours per week) amount of carefully curated shows. BUT, I also know that my opinion is not the one that matters and I can and have maintained "no tv on my watch" even in households where the kids regularly watch tv with other caregivers.

Pretty much this. But this isn't likely a real poster anyway.
My role as a nanny is not to do the parents thinking for them no mater how much experience I have. Some nannies make this mistake. Some parents make the mistake of believing they have hired someone good if they can abdicate the thinking aspect of parenting to the nanny.

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Anonymous wrote:Do you want your dd to watch tv with her? If so say nanny I understand your perspective on this but we have decided de will watch X at 8:30am everyday. We expect you to follow our wishes on this and yes it will be on the tv. If she refuses fire her on the spot

OP here and no - I do NOT want our nanny to watch TV with our child at all during the day!!! Who does?!!

My employers tell me to keep it on all day. I follow their direction.

Sounds like a great idea to me, OP!

You have "thinking" nanny interested in solutions. The best kind to have.