Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You're sure this ad hasn't been posted for awhile and she forgot to take it down?

OP here: yes, I'm sure. She found me on sittercity and also, it says the job was posted at 8:59pm on Tuesday the 24th.

Care.com doesn't provide that info. Did you seriously just make this whole thing up? Wtf.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was thinking maybe they want a nanny just for the baby

OP here: I don't get that from her job posting at all. She posted "looking for a nanny for our toddler son and soon to be born newborn son." Also, she had told me that they hired me spefically because of my years of infant experience as they wanted someone who would be able to handle a newborn.

I would just email her saying, Hi XXX, I saw your ad for a new nanny while I was looking for additional jobs to supplement my income. I was hoping you could let me know my termination date and when I will be receiving my final pay check so I can plan accordingly.

I like this. Direct and no room for doubt.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was thinking maybe they want a nanny just for the baby

OP here: I don't get that from her job posting at all. She posted "looking for a nanny for our toddler son and soon to be born newborn son." Also, she had told me that they hired me spefically because of my years of infant experience as they wanted someone who would be able to handle a newborn.

I would just email her saying, Hi XXX, I saw your ad for a new nanny while I was looking for additional jobs to supplement my income. I was hoping you could let me know my termination date and when I will be receiving my final pay check so I can plan accordingly.

SO passive aggressive

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You're sure this ad hasn't been posted for awhile and she forgot to take it down?

OP here: yes, I'm sure. She found me on sittercity and also, it says the job was posted at 8:59pm on Tuesday the 24th.

Care.com doesn't tell you the time anything was posted. Troll

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was thinking maybe they want a nanny just for the baby

OP here: I don't get that from her job posting at all. She posted "looking for a nanny for our toddler son and soon to be born newborn son." Also, she had told me that they hired me spefically because of my years of infant experience as they wanted someone who would be able to handle a newborn.

I would just email her saying, Hi XXX, I saw your ad for a new nanny while I was looking for additional jobs to supplement my income. I was hoping you could let me know my termination date and when I will be receiving my final pay check so I can plan accordingly.

She probably wants something cheaper. Get yourself a new job asap.

I had this happen a couple of times over the years. Once waas three days into a job I knew was a bad fit on the first day so I wasn't suprised. I emailed the mom and was very polite but direct about it. She apologized and we parted ways politely. They offered me to work for them for 2 wks but I declined. It truly was a bad fit (17 mo old twins, 2 mo old baby, 2 dogs, tiny backyard paved with big rocks instead of grass, couldn't go anywhere, couldn't feed baby on demand etc.)

The other one was last summer for a family who had just moved to my city. It was a temporary gig as they were planning to move in 3 months. The pay was low but my FT family was moving so I was just trying to save up extra money in case there was a gap. This family needed me one evening a week and Saturdays. 4 kids, (3 adopted) 3 dogs, 2 cats. Also not the best fit, the two little boys were allowed to snack on fruit loops all day, put to bed w/ bottles of chocolate milk etc. They said I wouldn't have all 4 kids all the time and the mom would be around too etc. You know how that always works out. Anyway I had been working for them for around a month or 6 wks and saw the ad. I texted, told them I saw the ad and asked if there was something they needed to tell me. Basically, they wanted someone cheaper and as far as I can tell they never found anyone. They kept the ad up for ages, kept changing things, the wording etc to try and make it sound better, but I'm not sure they ever did.

All told, everyone doesn't like you and you don't like everyone. It sucks but there it is. My thought is to be direct but polite. "I saw your ad on care.com, are you not happy with me?" Or "are you planning to make a change?" Or "are your needs changing?" Just send an email, make a call, reply to the ad, etc and just be direct.

Anonymous wrote:I would email her and ask her if everything is ok as you found her ad while looking for extra hours. (and I would start looking for another job)

Wrong. Do this face-to-face so she cannot bsvk doen or ignore you and start looking for a new job, no matter what she says because she is going to screw you, no matter what excuse she gives. Do not feel that you have to give any notice because she wasn't going to any to you.

I think you are spot on correct. They most likely are having second thoughts about keeping you on full-time until June 1st when your Mom Boss goes back to work again + for some odd reason are choosing not to tell you. Perhaps they feel bad because they have already promised you a 40-hr workweek and feel guilty for having to go back on their word. So they are going to try to make up some lame excuse later on like they have to go out of town unexpectedly, etc., then hire a new nanny.

That is how they plan on getting out of it, I bet.

I think the way they are handling this is a little weird and shady. I don't know why they cannot just approach you and tell you that they had a change of plans and that they realized that they do not want to or cannot give you a 40-hr workweek until June 1st. Maybe since it was in the contract, they are afraid you may take them to court...??

Anyway, you CAN tell them that you saw the ad on Care.com, but I guarantee you it will be totally awkward. If you can handle the awkwardness then go ahead.

Otherwise, I would just write this family off and look for another job.

In all honesty, I am not sure I would want to work for a family who would do something this deceptive. They sound very disloyal, flaky and sneaky to me.

You can do much better. Good luck.

Maybe it's an old ad?

Maybe someone she knows told her you still have your profile up and she got worried not realizing you are just looking for part time work.

Anonymous wrote:I was thinking maybe they want a nanny just for the baby

OP here: I don't get that from her job posting at all. She posted "looking for a nanny for our toddler son and soon to be born newborn son." Also, she had told me that they hired me spefically because of my years of infant experience as they wanted someone who would be able to handle a newborn.

Anonymous wrote:You're sure this ad hasn't been posted for awhile and she forgot to take it down?

OP here: yes, I'm sure. She found me on sittercity and also, it says the job was posted at 8:59pm on Tuesday the 24th.

I was thinking maybe they want a nanny just for the baby

You're sure this ad hasn't been posted for awhile and she forgot to take it down?