Anonymous
Post 08/18/2021 23:54     Subject: Re:Is there any nice way to say this?
Anonymous wrote:Christine, before you head out tonight, I just wanted to chat quickly. First, I think you are doing a great job with Larla. She seems to really enjoy your presence and you are teaching her so many new things. We are so happy that you are becoming a part of our family. One quick thing - and I am not sure exactly how to say this because I don't want to risk offending you - but the perfume that you wear is a lovely scent, but for whatever reason even after I give Larla a bath at night she continues to smell like the perfume and I miss her amazing baby scent so much. I know, I probably sound a little nutty about my baby, but it's one of my favorite things in the evening is just to sit with larla and enjoy her baby stage and her smell and cuddle. Would it be possible for you not to wear perfume on days you are here helping us?


I’ve been a nanny for 15 years and I can tell you truly would not want to hear this paragraph. It’s just silly and has nothing to do with my job performance. If your nanny is kind and reliable and fun, focus on that. Perfume doesn’t have anything to do with job performance. If it clearly gave your baby a rash etc. that is one thing. If not, I agree with those who suggest letting it go. You’re asking a person to change their personal grooming habits for your preference. It’s not appropriate.
Anonymous
Post 08/18/2021 23:49     Subject: Re:Is there any nice way to say this?
I agree with those who suggest letting it go. You don’t like this person’s perfume, but it doesn’t seem to be bothering your child. This doesn’t have anything to do with job performance. If they’re a wonderful caring nanny who makes your life easier, focus on that. That is hard to find.
Anonymous
Post 02/28/2015 05:39     Subject: Is there any nice way to say this?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:If your nanny is a great nanny in all other respects, I would let this issue go.

And I say this only because in principle, if you mention it....It will not bode well. While she may be polite and abide by your wishes, it may also set the bar that you will be one of those nit picking/micro-managing type bosses and she will most likely have her guard up around you and this may be a potential red flag.

Do you want to take this risk? Again, if she is an awesome nanny, I wouldn't want to risk losing her.


If her nanny is an awesome nanny, she will understand the desire of a mother for her baby to smell like her baby at the end of the day, and not another woman.


Are you truly serious....??!

This cannot be a real response.
Anonymous
Post 02/27/2015 23:25     Subject: Re:Is there any nice way to say this?
my nanny tends to wear a lot of perfume and it definitely ruined the baby smell for me. i told her DH was allergic so she toned it down but sometimes her scented lotions are too strong. dh hates scents also so he didn't mind my using him as the reason.
Anonymous
Post 02/27/2015 15:33     Subject: Is there any nice way to say this?
Anonymous wrote:Our nanny takes care of our preschooler and baby part time during the week. We've only been working together about a month or so and I noticed that she wears perfume which I don't mind since it's a nice scent. What has started to bother me is that baby DD always smells strongly of perfume and even after her bath I can't get rid of the smell. My favorite thing in the world is the sweet smell of baby, and I don't want it covered up with perfume. Is there any possible way I can kindly bring this up with our nanny without seeming either crazy or super controlling?


my eyes are itching already. have bad allergies, even cheap perfumated lotion is too much for me - and not allowed in the house. grandparents, friends and nanny understand.
Anonymous
Post 02/27/2015 00:09     Subject: Re:Is there any nice way to say this?
Anonymous wrote:Christine, before you head out tonight, I just wanted to chat quickly. First, I think you are doing a great job with Larla. She seems to really enjoy your presence and you are teaching her so many new things. We are so happy that you are becoming a part of our family. One quick thing - and I am not sure exactly how to say this because I don't want to risk offending you - but the perfume that you wear is a lovely scent, but for whatever reason even after I give Larla a bath at night she continues to smell like the perfume and I miss her amazing baby scent so much. I know, I probably sound a little nutty about my baby, but it's one of my favorite things in the evening is just to sit with larla and enjoy her baby stage and her smell and cuddle. Would it be possible for you not to wear perfume on days you are here helping us?
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+1 Seems well rounded to me.
Anonymous
Post 02/26/2015 23:50     Subject: Re:Is there any nice way to say this?
Anonymous wrote:I am a nanny and I would not be offended if my employers asked me not to wear perfume to work. Just talk to her, OP.


I agree.

I'm a nanny, and I know the conversation might be awkward but I'd understand. I have allergies and migraines that are triggered by perfumes. I can relate.
Anonymous
Post 02/26/2015 23:30     Subject: Is there any nice way to say this?
This is becoming the norm in many places, it is perfectly reasonable to ask her not to where fragrance or scented products during work.
Anonymous
Post 02/26/2015 20:41     Subject: Is there any nice way to say this?
19:53 this has to be a joke, right?
Anonymous
Post 02/26/2015 19:53     Subject: Is there any nice way to say this?
My MB asked me to wear perfume because of my B.O. Initially I was offended but now I really don't care. So I don't see why your nanny would be offended if you asked her NOT to wear perfume.
Anonymous
Post 02/26/2015 19:31     Subject: Is there any nice way to say this?
My boss asked me to stop wearing perfume and it wasn't a big deal at all.
Anonymous
Post 02/26/2015 18:24     Subject: Is there any nice way to say this?
The nanny should know better than to wear perfume around small children all day. That's just common sense. Plus, who is she trying to impress? I'd ask her to stop.
Anonymous
Post 02/26/2015 11:36     Subject: Is there any nice way to say this?
On the bright side at least you know that she is being held and cuddled during the day. That's always a good sign
Anonymous
Post 02/26/2015 10:28     Subject: Is there any nice way to say this?
I'm a nanny and mother of an extremely sensitive 2 year old. I haven't worn any fragrance since he was born; but even before I became a mother, I never wore perfume to work. Babies tend to be sensitive to fragrances and I wouldn't like for my baby to smell like someone else either. The above pp gave good advice. I also think that any good caregiver should already know this. I wear deodorant and take frequent showers, why would I need to wear perfume around babies?
Anonymous
Post 02/26/2015 10:15     Subject: Re:Is there any nice way to say this?
Christine, before you head out tonight, I just wanted to chat quickly. First, I think you are doing a great job with Larla. She seems to really enjoy your presence and you are teaching her so many new things. We are so happy that you are becoming a part of our family. One quick thing - and I am not sure exactly how to say this because I don't want to risk offending you - but the perfume that you wear is a lovely scent, but for whatever reason even after I give Larla a bath at night she continues to smell like the perfume and I miss her amazing baby scent so much. I know, I probably sound a little nutty about my baby, but it's one of my favorite things in the evening is just to sit with larla and enjoy her baby stage and her smell and cuddle. Would it be possible for you not to wear perfume on days you are here helping us?