Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is there a reason you don't want to look outside of family and friends?

Grandmas are great, but I wouldn't want to have to rely on a 60 year old for full time care of infants.

Then there is the issue of making sure your mom will comply with your wishes and not want to do everything old school.

As I said before family can be a great help, but it is sometimes easier to go outside the family for regular care.

Actually I am registered with Cultural Care Au Pair as well been looking to hire a US nanny but my family is so against that. THey keep saying how can I hire a stranger to take care of the babies. I think it is because in my family no one has hired any outside help only rely on family members. My grandmother took care of me when I was a child. In our family only family members or family friends have watched the kids. I am not apposed to hiring an outside person at all and that i why I have registered for Au Pair. Just have been getting so much backlash from my mom and family for going that route. She is actually offended that I would choose an Au Pair over her but I would do that because I think it is too much work for her.

Oh, OP, you are making the worst possible choices! Even Au Pair contractors tell you that Au Pairs are NOT for infants and newborns - especially twins!!! JUST HIRE AN EXPERIENCED NANNY OR USE DAYCARE. All of us have weird cultural and family issues we have to overcome. The health and welfare of your soon-to-be newborn babies is all you need to worry about. This inexperienced family friend, an Au Pair and your mother are all TERRIBLE choices for twins!!!

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is there a reason you don't want to look outside of family and friends?

Grandmas are great, but I wouldn't want to have to rely on a 60 year old for full time care of infants.

Then there is the issue of making sure your mom will comply with your wishes and not want to do everything old school.

As I said before family can be a great help, but it is sometimes easier to go outside the family for regular care.

Actually I am registered with Cultural Care Au Pair as well been looking to hire a US nanny but my family is so against that. THey keep saying how can I hire a stranger to take care of the babies. I think it is because in my family no one has hired any outside help only rely on family members. My grandmother took care of me when I was a child. In our family only family members or family friends have watched the kids. I am not apposed to hiring an outside person at all and that i why I have registered for Au Pair. Just have been getting so much backlash from my mom and family for going that route. She is actually offended that I would choose an Au Pair over her but I would do that because I think it is too much work for her.

Anonymous wrote:Is there a reason you don't want to look outside of family and friends?

Grandmas are great, but I wouldn't want to have to rely on a 60 year old for full time care of infants.

Then there is the issue of making sure your mom will comply with your wishes and not want to do everything old school.

As I said before family can be a great help, but it is sometimes easier to go outside the family for regular care.

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Anonymous wrote:If you cannot afford an experienced nanny, OP, then look at daycare options. There are some great daycare facilities that would be a much better fit for you as you could use your Mom for occasional back-up care.

+ I agree. But I disagree that 60 is too old to be a nanny! But twins are difficult for anyone of any age.

Anonymous wrote:OP here My other option is my mom who has also offered to take care of them as well. My mom would not be expected any pay but she is 60 and I think that is a lot for her at her age.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, hire someone to whom you are not related, with whom you do not have a personal relationship.

It will make life infinitely easier in so many ways.

Unless this is an issue of resources (cash to pay someone) I STRONGLY recommend against hiring friends or family. Use them for other levels of support, backup care, etc... but hire a nanny.

Otherwise you will burn up relationships (even with your mother) and still be looking for a formal hire in 6 months, with lots of stress/anxiety/damaged relationships to show for it.

-MB and mother of twins

Bad advice from someone who obviously doesn't value longterm stability.

Anonymous wrote:If you cannot afford an experienced nanny, OP, then look at daycare options. There are some great daycare facilities that would be a much better fit for you as you could use your Mom for occasional back-up care.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, hire someone to whom you are not related, with whom you do not have a personal relationship.

It will make life infinitely easier in so many ways.

Unless this is an issue of resources (cash to pay someone) I STRONGLY recommend against hiring friends or family. Use them for other levels of support, backup care, etc... but hire a nanny.

Otherwise you will burn up relationships (even with your mother) and still be looking for a formal hire in 6 months, with lots of stress/anxiety/damaged relationships to show for it.

-MB and mother of twins

Bad advice from someone who obviously doesn't value longterm stability.

Anonymous wrote:OP, hire someone to whom you are not related, with whom you do not have a personal relationship.

It will make life infinitely easier in so many ways.

Unless this is an issue of resources (cash to pay someone) I STRONGLY recommend against hiring friends or family. Use them for other levels of support, backup care, etc... but hire a nanny.

Otherwise you will burn up relationships (even with your mother) and still be looking for a formal hire in 6 months, with lots of stress/anxiety/damaged relationships to show for it.

-MB and mother of twins

Anonymous wrote:OP here My other option is my mom who has also offered to take care of them as well. My mom would not be expected any pay but she is 60 and I think that is a lot for her at her age.