Anonymous
02/07/2015 21:40
Subject: The nanny is better at caring for our son than we are
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Nanny here and when I read the thread title I thought, "Well OF COURSE she is!"
For starters, she is not burdened with the stress of being "mom." I like to joke that the great part of being the nanny is that I have to REALLY screw up before anyone's going to mention me in therapy. But the mom buys the wrong breakfast cereal and suddenly "She never really understood my needs."Knowing that I don't have that pressure on my shoulders frees me to stay calm and view each moment more objectively. That screaming baby doesn't get under my skin like it does her mom's, so I can stay calm and respond efficiently.
Secondly, your nanny is a better caregiver than you from 8-5 (or whatever the hours are), then she goes home, enjoys some down time and gets a full night's rest. On weekends and holidays, she is OFF! Wouldn't you be magically calmer and more patient if you were able to be off the clock every night before the bedtime routine?
Finally, a PP who is spot on that this isn't her first go-round. I have been through many versions of sick, tantrummy, stressed-out, overtired and anything else you can think of. The fact that I know what to do in response comes from experience. I made my mistakes years ago on someone else's kids.
In short, if your nanny isn't better at "handling" your kid, THEN you have a problem.
So some nannies don't have children? Some nannies don't have their own households to run?
I suspect you are just looking to pick fights, but...
"A change is as good as a rest." Yes, nannies don't just go home and lounge around (well, most probably don't), but I suspect that very few nannies leave working with small children to go home to their own small children. Most nannies are either childless or have older kids who require very different types of care than a young charge.
Anonymous
02/07/2015 10:33
Subject: The nanny is better at caring for our son than we are
Awesome post! Love it!Anonymous wrote:Nanny here and when I read the thread title I thought, "Well OF COURSE she is!"
For starters, she is not burdened with the stress of being "mom." I like to joke that the great part of being the nanny is that I have to REALLY screw up before anyone's going to mention me in therapy. But the mom buys the wrong breakfast cereal and suddenly "She never really understood my needs."
Secondly, your nanny is a better caregiver than you from 8-5 (or whatever the hours are), then she goes home, enjoys some down time and gets a full night's rest. On weekends and holidays, she is OFF! Wouldn't you be magically calmer and more patient if you were able to be off the clock every night before the bedtime routine?
Finally, a PP who is spot on that this isn't her first go-round. I have been through many versions of sick, tantrummy, stressed-out, overtired and anything else you can think of. The fact that I know what to do in response comes from experience. I made my mistakes years ago on someone else's kids.
In short, if your nanny isn't better at "handling" your kid, THEN you have a problem.
Anonymous
02/07/2015 09:37
Subject: The nanny is better at caring for our son than we are
Anonymous wrote:Nanny here and when I read the thread title I thought, "Well OF COURSE she is!"
For starters, she is not burdened with the stress of being "mom." I like to joke that the great part of being the nanny is that I have to REALLY screw up before anyone's going to mention me in therapy. But the mom buys the wrong breakfast cereal and suddenly "She never really understood my needs."
Secondly, your nanny is a better caregiver than you from 8-5 (or whatever the hours are), then she goes home, enjoys some down time and gets a full night's rest. On weekends and holidays, she is OFF! Wouldn't you be magically calmer and more patient if you were able to be off the clock every night before the bedtime routine?
Finally, a PP who is spot on that this isn't her first go-round. I have been through many versions of sick, tantrummy, stressed-out, overtired and anything else you can think of. The fact that I know what to do in response comes from experience. I made my mistakes years ago on someone else's kids.
In short, if your nanny isn't better at "handling" your kid, THEN you have a problem.
So some nannies don't have children? Some nannies don't have their own households to run?
Anonymous
02/07/2015 01:33
Subject: The nanny is better at caring for our son than we are
Remember Mom that the term "better" is a very subjective term and you may just be a little harsh on yourself.
And also remember that your nanny gets to focus 100% of her time, energy and attention on your child when she is there while when you and your husband are home, there are pressing matters to attend to as well that when the nanny is there, she does not have.
For instance, housecleaning, laundry, cooking, bill paying, pet care, organizing, etc.
Add to that you and your husband work outside of the home as well so much of your energy reserves are already tapped out when you are home.
Just think of everything in the correct context OP and try not to judge yourself so harshly.
I'm sure your baby isn't.
And also remember that your nanny gets to focus 100% of her time, energy and attention on your child when she is there while when you and your husband are home, there are pressing matters to attend to as well that when the nanny is there, she does not have.
For instance, housecleaning, laundry, cooking, bill paying, pet care, organizing, etc.
Add to that you and your husband work outside of the home as well so much of your energy reserves are already tapped out when you are home.
Just think of everything in the correct context OP and try not to judge yourself so harshly.
I'm sure your baby isn't.
Anonymous
02/06/2015 21:03
Subject: The nanny is better at caring for our son than we are
Nanny here and when I read the thread title I thought, "Well OF COURSE she is!"
For starters, she is not burdened with the stress of being "mom." I like to joke that the great part of being the nanny is that I have to REALLY screw up before anyone's going to mention me in therapy. But the mom buys the wrong breakfast cereal and suddenly "She never really understood my needs." Knowing that I don't have that pressure on my shoulders frees me to stay calm and view each moment more objectively. That screaming baby doesn't get under my skin like it does her mom's, so I can stay calm and respond efficiently.
Secondly, your nanny is a better caregiver than you from 8-5 (or whatever the hours are), then she goes home, enjoys some down time and gets a full night's rest. On weekends and holidays, she is OFF! Wouldn't you be magically calmer and more patient if you were able to be off the clock every night before the bedtime routine?
Finally, a PP who is spot on that this isn't her first go-round. I have been through many versions of sick, tantrummy, stressed-out, overtired and anything else you can think of. The fact that I know what to do in response comes from experience. I made my mistakes years ago on someone else's kids.
In short, if your nanny isn't better at "handling" your kid, THEN you have a problem.
For starters, she is not burdened with the stress of being "mom." I like to joke that the great part of being the nanny is that I have to REALLY screw up before anyone's going to mention me in therapy. But the mom buys the wrong breakfast cereal and suddenly "She never really understood my needs."
Knowing that I don't have that pressure on my shoulders frees me to stay calm and view each moment more objectively. That screaming baby doesn't get under my skin like it does her mom's, so I can stay calm and respond efficiently.
Secondly, your nanny is a better caregiver than you from 8-5 (or whatever the hours are), then she goes home, enjoys some down time and gets a full night's rest. On weekends and holidays, she is OFF! Wouldn't you be magically calmer and more patient if you were able to be off the clock every night before the bedtime routine?
Finally, a PP who is spot on that this isn't her first go-round. I have been through many versions of sick, tantrummy, stressed-out, overtired and anything else you can think of. The fact that I know what to do in response comes from experience. I made my mistakes years ago on someone else's kids.
In short, if your nanny isn't better at "handling" your kid, THEN you have a problem.
Anonymous
02/06/2015 20:38
Subject: Re:The nanny is better at caring for our son than we are
Your nanny isn't better at caring for your son than you are, she's just more experienced.
I'm 27 and don't have kids on my own, but I've been caring for children in some capacity for the last 11 years. I've changed thousands of diapers, soothed at least one hundred different children, and through my experiences I've picked up many different tricks. I can diagnose pretty much any childhood illness or injury. It's my job to be "better" with kids. But no nanny will ever take the place of mommy and daddy in a child's eye.
I'm 27 and don't have kids on my own, but I've been caring for children in some capacity for the last 11 years. I've changed thousands of diapers, soothed at least one hundred different children, and through my experiences I've picked up many different tricks. I can diagnose pretty much any childhood illness or injury. It's my job to be "better" with kids. But no nanny will ever take the place of mommy and daddy in a child's eye.
Anonymous
02/06/2015 20:01
Subject: The nanny is better at caring for our son than we are
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:That is just a fact. I was just watching her on the baby cam and I realized that in everything she is better at this than either my husband or me.
That's all. I just wanted to get that out somewhere. Not exactly something I could share with family or friends.
Are you for real? You choice of words is just too....young nanny.
Oh for God's sake, please stop accusing anyone who says anything nice about their nanny of being a nanny! You are so tiresome.
Anonymous
02/06/2015 19:44
Subject: The nanny is better at caring for our son than we are
Anonymous wrote:That is just a fact. I was just watching her on the baby cam and I realized that in everything she is better at this than either my husband or me.
That's all. I just wanted to get that out somewhere. Not exactly something I could share with family or friends.
Are you for real? You choice of words is just too....young nanny.
Anonymous
02/06/2015 19:42
Subject: Re:The nanny is better at caring for our son than we are
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Honestly, OP, I wish my nanny was better at caring for my baby than I was -- I would feel a hell of a lot better about leaving her everyday. Count yourself lucky to have found a good nanny. I didn't.
+1
+2 And holy hell, I wish our nanny were FASTER.
+3 And stayed off her fricking phone!!!
You have, as they say, OP, a high class problem.
+4 and could do the car seat straps correctly!
Anonymous
02/06/2015 19:10
Subject: Re:The nanny is better at caring for our son than we are
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Honestly, OP, I wish my nanny was better at caring for my baby than I was -- I would feel a hell of a lot better about leaving her everyday. Count yourself lucky to have found a good nanny. I didn't.
+1
+2 And holy hell, I wish our nanny were FASTER.
+3 And stayed off her fricking phone!!!
You have, as they say, OP, a high class problem.
Anonymous
02/06/2015 18:22
Subject: The nanny is better at caring for our son than we are
OP, your nanny is NOT better at caring for your child than you are. Your nanny (lucky you) is simply experienced and performs her job well. You are the center of your child's world. I'm a nanny BTW not a mommy. An experienced nanny.
Anonymous
02/06/2015 17:43
Subject: Re:The nanny is better at caring for our son than we are
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Honestly, OP, I wish my nanny was better at caring for my baby than I was -- I would feel a hell of a lot better about leaving her everyday. Count yourself lucky to have found a good nanny. I didn't.
+1
+2 And holy hell, I wish our nanny were FASTER.