Anonymous
01/19/2015 16:52
Subject: Re:Would you take a job with better pay?
Anonymous wrote:OP again. It's a tricky situation for me. I have been poached a million times but I have never before left a family. I do like these people greatly but MB shared some details in my first week.
They have a 3.5 month old but MB is 44 so they are trying to get pregnant once more in the next 6 months. She didnt exactly say " we can't afford you" but has dropped hints. I know they aren't terribly off. I went into MBs bathroom ( told me so) and she has so many expensive products ( shampoo and face is at least $40/bottle, two facial serums that cost 175 each. I'm not snooping and obviously its their money to spend how they like.
So I know within the next 1.5 there will be a new baby ( if they even do a nanny) and I may not get a great raise.
With my current family I will be able to save $ 4-5 grand a year but with this family, I will be able to save at least 10, possibly up to $13,000.
I'm still on the fence and I do feel guilty because I like them a lot. I never put myself and I'm very loyal but loyalty can be a curse too.
Take the new job. Things happen and obviously it's not easy, but you have to put yourself first.
Anonymous
01/19/2015 15:45
Subject: Would you take a job with better pay?
You got to think longterm.
You have said yourself your goal is grad school, and not lifelong nanny.
Save that money while you can.
You have said yourself your goal is grad school, and not lifelong nanny.
Save that money while you can.
Anonymous
01/19/2015 15:16
Subject: Re:Would you take a job with better pay?
OP again. It's a tricky situation for me. I have been poached a million times but I have never before left a family. I do like these people greatly but MB shared some details in my first week.
They have a 3.5 month old but MB is 44 so they are trying to get pregnant once more in the next 6 months. She didnt exactly say " we can't afford you" but has dropped hints. I know they aren't terribly off. I went into MBs bathroom ( told me so) and she has so many expensive products ( shampoo and face is at least $40/bottle, two facial serums that cost 175 each. I'm not snooping and obviously its their money to spend how they like.
So I know within the next 1.5 there will be a new baby ( if they even do a nanny) and I may not get a great raise.
With my current family I will be able to save $ 4-5 grand a year but with this family, I will be able to save at least 10, possibly up to $13,000.
I'm still on the fence and I do feel guilty because I like them a lot. I never put myself and I'm very loyal but loyalty can be a curse too.
They have a 3.5 month old but MB is 44 so they are trying to get pregnant once more in the next 6 months. She didnt exactly say " we can't afford you" but has dropped hints. I know they aren't terribly off. I went into MBs bathroom ( told me so) and she has so many expensive products ( shampoo and face is at least $40/bottle, two facial serums that cost 175 each. I'm not snooping and obviously its their money to spend how they like.
So I know within the next 1.5 there will be a new baby ( if they even do a nanny) and I may not get a great raise.
With my current family I will be able to save $ 4-5 grand a year but with this family, I will be able to save at least 10, possibly up to $13,000.
I'm still on the fence and I do feel guilty because I like them a lot. I never put myself and I'm very loyal but loyalty can be a curse too.
Anonymous
01/19/2015 14:47
Subject: Would you take a job with better pay?
Anonymous wrote:This is a really hard one OP. I totally get why you'd want to take the higher paid position, especially since it's a family you already work for and know. If I were you I'd probably take the new job. It's going to suck to tell the family you work for after only a month that you're leaving and they will probably not take it well. But in the end, you need to do what works best for you and hope that this doesn't come back to bite you in the ass. The family is already stretched thin which means bonuses and raises are basically out of the question. Do what's right for yourself.
MB here, and I agree with this. If you can offer to help them screen new candidates and find your replacement, that might be a nice thing to do. I don't see how you turn this other job down, especially knowing your current family is stretched to pay what they're paying now.
Anonymous
01/19/2015 14:42
Subject: Would you take a job with better pay?
This is a really hard one OP. I totally get why you'd want to take the higher paid position, especially since it's a family you already work for and know. If I were you I'd probably take the new job. It's going to suck to tell the family you work for after only a month that you're leaving and they will probably not take it well. But in the end, you need to do what works best for you and hope that this doesn't come back to bite you in the ass. The family is already stretched thin which means bonuses and raises are basically out of the question. Do what's right for yourself.
Anonymous
01/19/2015 13:01
Subject: Would you take a job with better pay?
Sad to admit it, but few MB's would much care about being loyal to the nanny.
Anonymous
01/19/2015 12:52
Subject: Would you take a job with better pay?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:OP, can the current family afford to pay you more appropriately?
OP here. I haven't made up my mind but I am considering taking it.
MB let it slip that they can't really afford my salary so asking for more is unlikely.
I would be giving them at least 3 weeks notice if I did leave.
You should take the job. If they are stretched too thin already, they will probably let you go. At the very least, you won't be getting raises and bonuses, they will start to resent you and refuse things like days off, won't give petty cash for taking the kids out, etc. Also, you should look at the thread started yesterday called "quitting new job".
Anonymous
01/19/2015 12:50
Subject: Would you take a job with better pay?
Take it.
You have to do you.
I've learned the hard way about passing up a great job offer just to be "loyal"
You have to do you.
I've learned the hard way about passing up a great job offer just to be "loyal"
Anonymous
01/19/2015 12:41
Subject: Would you take a job with better pay?
Anonymous wrote:OP, can the current family afford to pay you more appropriately?
OP here. I haven't made up my mind but I am considering taking it.
MB let it slip that they can't really afford my salary so asking for more is unlikely.
I would be giving them at least 3 weeks notice if I did leave.
Anonymous
01/19/2015 12:37
Subject: Would you take a job with better pay?
Due diligence is always wise for all.
Anonymous
01/19/2015 12:18
Subject: Would you take a job with better pay?
I personally wouldn't, but that's because I've learned the hard way that the grass is definitely not greener on the other side of the fence. I left a great job that I had been in for 2 years for one that was supposed to be my dream job. A couple weeks in I was miserable and left after 3 months.
I have several nanny friends who likely would leave though.
Just remember that it could come back to bite you in the butt. If this job doesn't work out and you are looking for a new position in 2-3 months, then the job jumping looks really bad on you.
I have several nanny friends who likely would leave though.
Just remember that it could come back to bite you in the butt. If this job doesn't work out and you are looking for a new position in 2-3 months, then the job jumping looks really bad on you.
Anonymous
01/19/2015 11:06
Subject: Would you take a job with better pay?
Anonymous wrote:Mb here. I think it's a shitty thing to do, but realistically, this is what people do all the time in the corporate world. The difference is in the corporate world it's a little less shitty since there are other people to cover while a new employee is found. In the nanny world, you're leaving the parents hanging and screwing them over a bit more. Which makes it more of a "bad" thing.
So as an MB, I'd be annoyed and likely pissed if my nanny did this. Depending on whether or not it was my first nanny, it could cause me to have A negative impression of nannies.
That said, I would get WHY she did it and even understand. I just wouldn't be happy.
As a nanny, I completely agree with you. Moreover, the consequences of revolving door nannies are permanent.
It's rather disturbing when we hear from mothers who say that stability is irrelevant.
Anonymous
01/19/2015 10:50
Subject: Would you take a job with better pay?
Mb here. I think it's a shitty thing to do, but realistically, this is what people do all the time in the corporate world. The difference is in the corporate world it's a little less shitty since there are other people to cover while a new employee is found. In the nanny world, you're leaving the parents hanging and screwing them over a bit more. Which makes it more of a "bad" thing.
So as an MB, I'd be annoyed and likely pissed if my nanny did this. Depending on whether or not it was my first nanny, it could cause me to have A negative impression of nannies.
That said, I would get WHY she did it and even understand. I just wouldn't be happy.
So as an MB, I'd be annoyed and likely pissed if my nanny did this. Depending on whether or not it was my first nanny, it could cause me to have A negative impression of nannies.
That said, I would get WHY she did it and even understand. I just wouldn't be happy.
Anonymous
01/19/2015 10:28
Subject: Would you take a job with better pay?
OP, can the current family afford to pay you more appropriately?
Anonymous
01/19/2015 10:23
Subject: Re:Would you take a job with better pay?
I think you should take that job.