Sounds like she has a specific way of raising children (which I agree with 100%) but you are still coming into your own parenting style, which is the complete opposite of hers. You still have control and you should have a direct conversation with her about it. She needs to know that your philosophies are different that way you can both find another solution. I assume she will move on shortly after this conversation because it's difficult to stay in a position where your views are vastly different and your opinion is not respected or at the very least heard.
Chalk this up to not a good fit and move on.

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Anonymous wrote:
Get a sitter, as this nanny is over-qualified for this MB. Another family would be thrilled to get her knowledge, experience level and professionalism.

I agree this nanny is not a good fit with this MB. The nanny's job is to reduce stress, not generate it. She should let the nanny go so she can go generate stress somewhere else.

On the contrary, the nanny's job is to provide the best possible childcare according to her education, training and experience.

Your confusion about this issue accounts for about 95 percent of all problems between the nannies and the parents.

Perhaps a good mental health therapist or some physical exercise could help the mb learn how to reduce her stress level. Most nannies are not equipped to assist with that.

She has been taking care of kids for years and you are a first time mom. She knows a hell of a lot more than you know.

Is this a troll? I can't imagine a family hiring a nanny that doesn't fit with their parenting ideas at all, and then letting her steamroller them.

I am a fairly "crunchy" parent and former nanny, fwiw. When I was interviewing, I would have said right out that I wasn't willing to do CIO. That's a hard line for me. Didn't you talk about this at the interview?

After I got the job, if I noticed the parents doing things that were truly harmful to the baby (like giving bottles of kool-aid), I would respectfully tell them that needed to stop, and why. On the other hand, seeing things that I would prefer they didn't do (like plopping the kid in front of the tv, on their own time), I wouldn't touch unless they asked me my opinion.

Honestly, though, OP, your nanny DOES seem to know everything! So, maybe you should just do what she says.

OP's nanny sounds like a disrespectful snob. Start looking for a cooperative, loving nanny who know how to work with her employer. OP's nanny can take her crunchy granola personal views elsewhere.

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Get a sitter, as this nanny is over-qualified for this MB. Another family would be thrilled to get her knowledge, experience level and professionalism.

I agree this nanny is not a good fit with this MB. The nanny's job is to reduce stress, not generate it. She should let the nanny go so she can go generate stress somewhere else.

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Anonymous wrote:Wow...Cloth diapers....??! Is this the fifties??

Cloth diapers are a pain in the butt for the simple fact alone that they do not absorb!! And that is so unhealthy for any baby's skin. People say it is better for the planet, well considering they do not absorb at all, babies who use them need to be changed more often, thus they need to be washed more often so add'l water, electricity/gas and soap must be used so how does that help the environment??

Anyway, as your nanny, she should not be giving out unsolicited advice. She is the nanny and it is her job to follow orders from you, the parents.

If she cannot adequately follow your instructions without having to put in her two cents' worth, then you need to find a new nanny. One who works for you, not against you.

Are you that dim? Cloth diapers have come a long way from the 50's. In fact, some children with very sensitive skin do much better in cloth because their skin is not constantly in contact with the chemicals in disposable diapers.

Sorry, I am not a light bulb so I am unable to use the adjective word "dim" to describe myself, though if you have any other choice words for me, I would love to hear them, but dim does not apply to humans.

And yes, I have worked with babies using the modern cloth diapers. No more diaper pins, I know they have buttons now. And liners. And I know diaper services no longer drop off and pick up diapers, etc. I KNOW THIS

But one thing that will always remain the same regarding cloth diapers is something that cannot ever be disputed: ------> They do not absorb!! So it's a catch-22. If you want to get all anal about it (no baby pun intended btw), either your baby's skin will be exposed to his own urine/feces or the chemicals in disposable diapers.

Pick your poison.

Not the PP you quoted, and I generally agree with you regarding the absorbancy of cloth diapers, but you really are kind of dim. And yes, dim can be used to describe human intelligence. If you weren't dim you'd know that. Children who are smart can be described as bright and children who are kind of dumb can be described as dim. My grandmother occasionally used that word to describe people so it's not a new concept. Also, where are these newfangled cloth diapers that have buttons and someone please tell Tidee Didee they no longer pick up and drop off diapers because I see that truck all over town. Please do yourself a favor and step away from the computer. This isn't going to end well for you.

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Anonymous wrote:Wow...Cloth diapers....??! Is this the fifties??

Cloth diapers are a pain in the butt for the simple fact alone that they do not absorb!! And that is so unhealthy for any baby's skin. People say it is better for the planet, well considering they do not absorb at all, babies who use them need to be changed more often, thus they need to be washed more often so add'l water, electricity/gas and soap must be used so how does that help the environment??

Anyway, as your nanny, she should not be giving out unsolicited advice. She is the nanny and it is her job to follow orders from you, the parents.

If she cannot adequately follow your instructions without having to put in her two cents' worth, then you need to find a new nanny. One who works for you, not against you.

Are you that dim? Cloth diapers have come a long way from the 50's. In fact, some children with very sensitive skin do much better in cloth because their skin is not constantly in contact with the chemicals in disposable diapers.

Sorry, I am not a light bulb so I am unable to use the adjective word "dim" to describe myself, though if you have any other choice words for me, I would love to hear them, but dim does not apply to humans.

And yes, I have worked with babies using the modern cloth diapers. No more diaper pins, I know they have buttons now. And liners. And I know diaper services no longer drop off and pick up diapers, etc. I KNOW THIS

But one thing that will always remain the same regarding cloth diapers is something that cannot ever be disputed: ------> They do not absorb!! So it's a catch-22. If you want to get all anal about it (no baby pun intended btw), either your baby's skin will be exposed to his own urine/feces or the chemicals in disposable diapers.

Pick your poison.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow...Cloth diapers....??! Is this the fifties??

Cloth diapers are a pain in the butt for the simple fact alone that they do not absorb!! And that is so unhealthy for any baby's skin. People say it is better for the planet, well considering they do not absorb at all, babies who use them need to be changed more often, thus they need to be washed more often so add'l water, electricity/gas and soap must be used so how does that help the environment??

Anyway, as your nanny, she should not be giving out unsolicited advice. She is the nanny and it is her job to follow orders from you, the parents.

If she cannot adequately follow your instructions without having to put in her two cents' worth, then you need to find a new nanny. One who works for you, not against you.

Are you that dim? Cloth diapers have come a long way from the 50's. In fact, some children with very sensitive skin do much better in cloth because their skin is not constantly in contact with the chemicals in disposable diapers.

And the nanny is quite free to clad her own children in cloth diapers, but her employer doesn't want it, and that's the end of the story.

Get a sitter, as this nanny is over-qualified for this MB. Another family would be thrilled to get her knowledge, experience level and professionalism.

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Anonymous wrote:When does absentee management ever work?

What a weird thing to say. How would in-person management work in a nanny situation?

If she needs management, she's more of a sitter and less of a nanny. Nannies are supposed to know how to do their work.

Anonymous wrote:When does absentee management ever work?

What a weird thing to say. How would in-person management work in a nanny situation?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow...Cloth diapers....??! Is this the fifties??

Cloth diapers are a pain in the butt for the simple fact alone that they do not absorb!! And that is so unhealthy for any baby's skin. People say it is better for the planet, well considering they do not absorb at all, babies who use them need to be changed more often, thus they need to be washed more often so add'l water, electricity/gas and soap must be used so how does that help the environment??

Anyway, as your nanny, she should not be giving out unsolicited advice. She is the nanny and it is her job to follow orders from you, the parents.

If she cannot adequately follow your instructions without having to put in her two cents' worth, then you need to find a new nanny. One who works for you, not against you.

Are you that dim? Cloth diapers have come a long way from the 50's. In fact, some children with very sensitive skin do much better in cloth because their skin is not constantly in contact with the chemicals in disposable diapers.

And the nanny is quite free to clad her own children in cloth diapers, but her employer doesn't want it, and that's the end of the story.

Anonymous wrote:Wow...Cloth diapers....??! Is this the fifties??

Cloth diapers are a pain in the butt for the simple fact alone that they do not absorb!! And that is so unhealthy for any baby's skin. People say it is better for the planet, well considering they do not absorb at all, babies who use them need to be changed more often, thus they need to be washed more often so add'l water, electricity/gas and soap must be used so how does that help the environment??

Anyway, as your nanny, she should not be giving out unsolicited advice. She is the nanny and it is her job to follow orders from you, the parents.

If she cannot adequately follow your instructions without having to put in her two cents' worth, then you need to find a new nanny. One who works for you, not against you.

Are you that dim? Cloth diapers have come a long way from the 50's. In fact, some children with very sensitive skin do much better in cloth because their skin is not constantly in contact with the chemicals in disposable diapers.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow...Cloth diapers....??! Is this the fifties??

Cloth diapers are a pain in the butt for the simple fact alone that they do not absorb!! And that is so unhealthy for any baby's skin. People say it is better for the planet, well considering they do not absorb at all, babies who use them need to be changed more often, thus they need to be washed more often so add'l water, electricity/gas and soap must be used so how does that help the environment??

Anyway, as your nanny, she should not be giving out unsolicited advice. She is the nanny and it is her job to follow orders from you, the parents.

If she cannot adequately follow your instructions without having to put in her two cents' worth, then you need to find a new nanny. One who works for you, not against you.

The modern cloth diapers now have stay dry linings as well. Just FYI. And the trend toward cloth diapering is growing due to the savings.

This MB doesn't want them, that's enough reason for the nanny to stop bringing them up.

Anonymous wrote:When does absentee management ever work?

When there are systems set up to make it work, and when consequences are attached to non-compliance.