It just sounds like a misunderstanding. You thought DB would play with both babies. DB thought that he would just play with his baby. Next time, just ask him if he wants alone time with his baby if he comes in to play with him, then take baby #2 out.

I directed a childcare center where parents visited their children in the infant and toddler classes all the time. And I can tell you that the other babies loved to play with a parent who came in. Toddlers too. They loved their teachers but someone cool and new? Heck yes! So saying the nanny couldn't keep the other child busy when the cool fun dad shows up? Harsh. Have you tried to keep your 9 month old from going toward the stairs, dog, hot oven, etc? Next time pick up the other b as by and say "I'll take this baby off for a walk or upstairs to play while you visit with your baby. And if he says one more thing I'd so look for another job!

Rather than expecting OP/Nanny to read his mind, her DB should have said, "Hey, I'd like some one-on-one time with Junior. Can you spend some time with just <other baby> for about 30 minutes? Feel free to take her on a walk or in a different room."

Still a little rude, but much less so than what the DB actually did. And the other child (presumably) is comfortable with the DB and maybe even happy to see him, therefore the following. DB doesn't get that, or doesn't care, fine.

Nannies care for children. We get paid extra if we're required to read adult employer's minds.

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Anonymous wrote:This DB is an asshole.
You should find a new family to work for.

Because the nanny expected him to play with a child that's not his? That doesn't make him an a*hole, that makes the nanny dumb and lazy the way she is telling it.

Um no. Purposely picking your kid up and moving to a different area of the room (rather than leaving the room or asking nanny for some alone time) every time an infant comes towards you is an asshole thing to do. Neither party handled this, rather benign, situation well but let's not excuse the dad here. I doubt this was the first nor last time he will be a jerk.

Anonymous wrote:This DB is an asshole.
You should find a new family to work for.

Because the nanny expected him to play with a child that's not his? That doesn't make him an a*hole, that makes the nanny dumb and lazy the way she is telling it.

This DB is an asshole.
You should find a new family to work for.

Do not keep your feelings inside OP, because they will just simmer and simmer and you will become more resentful over time and you do not want things to get bitter between you and your DB.

However, I do not see any benefit in addressing how he treated DC2 either.

Basically I would just address the statement he made about DC2 being "bored" and casually explaining the reasoning behind why you acted the way you did without it seeming like you are placing any type of blame on him for ignoring said child.

You may not get the response you want from him, but at least you can get it off your chest so you will feel better.

Honestly, he sounds ignorant to me.