12/04/2014 11:49 is a piece of work. Ignore them. I think s/he may just be a troll who likes to get a rise out of people. Or, if they are legit, s/he clearly has limited experience w/ toddlers. Unfortunately that's my only advice for you. Advice like 'tire the kid out in the morning' is completely unhelpful, you've done all the obvious things. Some kids are just higher strung, more stubborn, higher energy, more persistent, etc etc than others. From what you say, seems like MB is ok w/ the behavior, so I wouldn't focus so much on changing it.The only thing I'd look to change is the requirement that you sit in the hallway while it happens. Ask the mom if she can get a different baby gate, one that the child cannot open - or in some other way contain the child for a brief time so that you aren't tied to the hallway. I know I'd be driven mad in that hallway.

Then I'd look for a different job. Kid sounds like a nightmare, and MB isn't much better.

(i'm an MB, not a nanny)

You still seem very inexperienced with toddlers from all your replies.

I would suggest looking up books on behavior management in 2 year olds.

Since you have 10 years of experience I'm sure you know that it is going to be difficult having mom at home and not being on board, but at least you will have some new strategies and techniques to try.

Now that you have shared MBs perspective I am not sure you need to do anything. If MB believes his behavior is acceptable and she is able to work through it then I think you need to defer to her stance. If you need down time for your meal period then give him unstructured play time in his room. If the parents approach does not work for you, you know what you need to do next.

OP here. I disagree with your assessment. Not only do I have 10 years of full time experience working almost exclusively with toddlers, but I currently work with four different toddlers every week, all very close in age. I work with the child in question two days per week, including six hours of a share with another 2.5 year old and the other three days with a share of two other 2.5 year olds. I can say without question that none of the others exhibit the same lack of focus or hyperactivIty or lack of self control to the extent that he does. I'm just giving one or two small examples of his behavior, believe me there is a lot that concerns me about his behavior, much more than has been said here.