Anonymous
11/30/2014 15:52
Subject: Re:DB lost his job and I feel guilty while I'm at work
my db was made redundant in Oct. i'm in a slightly different boat as i finish working for this family in dec and this was decided before he was made redundant. it is a little odd as now there are two of us floating around the house with the kids during the day - they probably don't "need" me per say but without me being here DB would have less time to network, do odd jobs, skype/call and work towards getting another job.
also I take care of the day to day stuff so that DB can spend all his time with the kids playing and actually being with them
don't feel guilty, if they didn't want you/ can't afford you you'll be let go
also I take care of the day to day stuff so that DB can spend all his time with the kids playing and actually being with them
don't feel guilty, if they didn't want you/ can't afford you you'll be let go
Anonymous
11/28/2014 03:21
Subject: Re:DB lost his job and I feel guilty while I'm at work
I was just in this situation with my NF of 2 years. DB split with his business partner over the summer and I could tell things were a lot different. He was spending a lot more time at home and not working. He would casually mention money to me and I started to freak out a bit so I talked to MB in August and was told "oh don't worry about your job security! We definitely still need you for a long time!!". Well flash forward to October and they sat me down telling me they couldn't afford me anymore and would keep me on until the end of the month. So I went from having to "not worry" to being told they couldn't afford me anymore in a matter of 2 months.
I'd start looking for another job, just in case.
I'd start looking for another job, just in case.
Anonymous
11/26/2014 16:47
Subject: Re:DB lost his job and I feel guilty while I'm at work
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:So what is the point of posting this?
She's doing it for support. Your responses have no point.
What does she need support for. She has a job, apparently believes she is irreplaceable and able to get a new job in a day.
Sounds like she's doing just fine.
Emotional support, Einstein. The type you get on a forum.
emotional support on dcum? in the nanny section? and you're the one calling someone Einstein? wow.
Anonymous
11/25/2014 18:59
Subject: Re:DB lost his job and I feel guilty while I'm at work
Anonymous wrote:So what is the point of posting this?
She's doing it for support. Your responses have no point.
What does she need support for. She has a job, apparently believes she is irreplaceable and able to get a new job in a day.
Sounds like she's doing just fine.
Emotional support, Einstein. The type you get on a forum.
Anonymous
11/25/2014 18:29
Subject: Re:DB lost his job and I feel guilty while I'm at work
So what is the point of posting this?
She's doing it for support. Your responses have no point.
What does she need support for. She has a job, apparently believes she is irreplaceable and able to get a new job in a day.
Sounds like she's doing just fine.
Anonymous
11/25/2014 18:04
Subject: DB lost his job and I feel guilty while I'm at work
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Then work for free or quit.
Seriously don't allow yourself to be responsible for their ( probably) poor financial decisions.
If were you I'd start preparing for a job search.
They may think they can keep you now, but who knows how long he'll be out of work.
That is a bold assumption to assume the do not make good financial decisions. We do not know why dad lost his job. They are doing something right If they can afford to keep the nanny.
They are probably planning to pay nanny out of their savings and whatever compensation db will receive from his lost job. The problem is DB may not find a replacement job quickly and if a job is found it may not be at the level of income they are accustomed to. All the while savings is being depleted.
This is the exact scenario an MB posted about 2 weeks ago, and she was frantic trying to hold on to a nanny they should have let go before shooting themselves in the foot financially.
I won't even get into the expenses of a new child.
Hum...ok...or, dad has plenty of leads and hopes to have a new job soon. He needs the nanny to look for a job, network and have her in p,ace to return. Not everyone has no savings.
Anonymous
11/25/2014 17:02
Subject: DB lost his job and I feel guilty while I'm at work
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Then work for free or quit.
Seriously don't allow yourself to be responsible for their ( probably) poor financial decisions.
If were you I'd start preparing for a job search.
They may think they can keep you now, but who knows how long he'll be out of work.
That is a bold assumption to assume the do not make good financial decisions. We do not know why dad lost his job. They are doing something right If they can afford to keep the nanny.
+1. Our nanny has no idea how much we have been able to save. We could easily pay her for years out of what we have saved due to a high HHI and careful money management.
5 years. Then you can be like the the mom of this post
We love our nanny but can no longer afford to keep her.
And beg her to clean your house part time so you can keep up appearances
Having trouble stringing your thoughts together, pp?
Anonymous
11/25/2014 16:58
Subject: DB lost his job and I feel guilty while I'm at work
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Then work for free or quit.
Seriously don't allow yourself to be responsible for their ( probably) poor financial decisions.
If were you I'd start preparing for a job search.
They may think they can keep you now, but who knows how long he'll be out of work.
That is a bold assumption to assume the do not make good financial decisions. We do not know why dad lost his job. They are doing something right If they can afford to keep the nanny.
+1. Our nanny has no idea how much we have been able to save. We could easily pay her for years out of what we have saved due to a high HHI and careful money management.
5 years. Then you can be like the the mom of this post
We love our nanny but can no longer afford to keep her.
And beg her to clean your house part time so you can keep up appearances
Anonymous
11/25/2014 16:50
Subject: DB lost his job and I feel guilty while I'm at work
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Then work for free or quit.
Seriously don't allow yourself to be responsible for their ( probably) poor financial decisions.
If were you I'd start preparing for a job search.
They may think they can keep you now, but who knows how long he'll be out of work.
That is a bold assumption to assume the do not make good financial decisions. We do not know why dad lost his job. They are doing something right If they can afford to keep the nanny.
+1. Our nanny has no idea how much we have been able to save. We could easily pay her for years out of what we have saved due to a high HHI and careful money management.
Anonymous
11/25/2014 16:35
Subject: DB lost his job and I feel guilty while I'm at work
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:So what is the point of posting this?
She's doing it for support. Your responses have no point. [/quot
She doesn't need support what she wants is an ego stroke.
She didn't get that so she has a tantrum.
Anonymous
11/25/2014 16:23
Subject: DB lost his job and I feel guilty while I'm at work
Anonymous wrote:So what is the point of posting this?
She's doing it for support. Your responses have no point.
Anonymous
11/25/2014 16:21
Subject: DB lost his job and I feel guilty while I'm at work
*job
Anonymous
11/25/2014 16:21
Subject: DB lost his job and I feel guilty while I'm at work
OP, if you're still around, let me put your mind at ease a bit. I am an MB who has a wonderful nanny. She adds so much to our lives that we would rather the house fell apart than let her go. Of course you feel guilty--you care about them and don't want to add to their stress. Just keep doing the same great job you have been and help them keep their home a happy and peaceful sanctuary while DH looks for another jon.
Anonymous
11/25/2014 16:11
Subject: DB lost his job and I feel guilty while I'm at work
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Only You people could turn this post in to something nasty and ugly. Assholes. Every single one you.
You don't see how the original post is in poor taste?
No. I don't. I had an honest question and was accused of trying to make myself feel important.
It's an awkward situation and I was trying to connect with fellow nannies who may have been in that situation before.
I get so tired of all the drama on this stupid website. You make judgements about people and their character based on a paragraph.
Fuck you all. I'm out.
Anonymous
11/25/2014 15:39
Subject: DB lost his job and I feel guilty while I'm at work
Anonymous wrote:Only You people could turn this post in to something nasty and ugly. Assholes. Every single one you.
You don't see how the original post is in poor taste?