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Anonymous wrote:Give her notice now, but make the severance contingent on her staying until the first week of December. If she was really good, you could assist her in finding a new job by posting on your neighborhood list serve or here.

Also, write her a recommendation letter and offer to be a reference.

Don't feel bad, OP. You're not a bad person. Things change and jobs end and your nanny will find a new job.

I agree with this PP - tell her now, make payout contingent on staying until end date; if she leaves earlier it should be for a new job and you can reevaluate whether you still want to give severance, etc if she's left early and is already employed.

It is not selfish to end her employment. You're not doing it out of spite; you've had a change of circumstances. Try to do your best by her but don't feel guilty that the job needs to end. It's not your responsibility to protect someone else's feelings at the expense of your family's financial security.

Anonymous wrote:I highly doubt a nanny who quits and gives little notice is feeling bad about hurting someone else.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Give her notice now, but make the severance contingent on her staying until the first week of December. If she was really good, you could assist her in finding a new job by posting on your neighborhood list serve or here.

Also, write her a recommendation letter and offer to be a reference.

Don't feel bad, OP. You're not a bad person. Things change and jobs end and your nanny will find a new job.


No one said she was a bad person, but why shouldn't she feel bad? This is a shitty thing to do right before the holidays. She has to look out for her family of course, but it is selfish, and she is screwing her nanny. She also was planning to do either severance OR notice, instead of both like a normal person.

She shouldn't feel bad because her life circumstances changed and she is responsibly taking care of her family. Yes, it is unfortunate that it is before the holidays, but life happens, and not always at an ideal time. OP isn't doing something intentionally "shitty" thing TO her nanny and she's not "screwing" her nanny.

Her nanny will find a new job. In the meantime, OP has a generous severance planned and a bonus for a six month nanny.

People get laid off all the time, and you'd be surprised at how often it happens at holiday time. Life goes on.

Anonymous wrote:
Give her notice now, but make the severance contingent on her staying until the first week of December. If she was really good, you could assist her in finding a new job by posting on your neighborhood list serve or here.

Also, write her a recommendation letter and offer to be a reference.

Don't feel bad, OP. You're not a bad person. Things change and jobs end and your nanny will find a new job.


No one said she was a bad person, but why shouldn't she feel bad? This is a shitty thing to do right before the holidays. She has to look out for her family of course, but it is selfish, and she is screwing her nanny. She also was planning to do either severance OR notice, instead of both like a normal person.