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I'm a mom with a PhD is physics. The evidence is very clear that rear facing is significantly safer until age 2. After that there are less studies and clear evidence, but basic physics says that everyone is safer rear facing. If you need proof, look at Sweden.

As a mother with a PhD in both car seats and raising children I can tell you you are full of it. And what does what Sweden does have anything to do with the facts here. If we are going by what Sweden does now you better stop using fluoride in your toothpaste and drinking water.

If you knew anything about car seat safety you would know what the reference to Sweden was about in regards to extended rear facing. Since you don't, I'll go ahead and explain. Almost all children in Sweden rear face to at least 4 years old. As a result they have significantly lower numbers of fatalities and injuries in motor vehicle accidents.

We actually do not use flouride, so I guess we are good to go there, but thanks for the heads up.

Anonymous wrote:I feel sorry for your DCs future growing up with you, you are a pill.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

I'm a mom with a PhD is physics. The evidence is very clear that rear facing is significantly safer until age 2. After that there are less studies and clear evidence, but basic physics says that everyone is safer rear facing. If you need proof, look at Sweden.

As a mother with a PhD in both car seats and raising children I can tell you you are full of it. And what does what Sweden does have anything to do with the facts here. If we are going by what Sweden does now you better stop using fluoride in your toothpaste and drinking water.

Anonymous wrote:OP here.

Thank you for the replies. I've calmed down and intend to have a a discussion with our nanny about car seat safety and our preferences. If there are any issues with compliance at that point, then there may need to be more serious consequences.

And I didn't mean for this to turn into a debate about ERF.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

I'm a mom with a PhD is physics. The evidence is very clear that rear facing is significantly safer until age 2. After that there are less studies and clear evidence, but basic physics says that everyone is safer rear facing. If you need proof, look at Sweden.

As a mother with a PhD in both car seats and raising children I can tell you you are full of it. And what does what Sweden does have anything to do with the facts here. If we are going by what Sweden does now you better stop using fluoride in your toothpaste and drinking water.

Anonymous wrote:

I'm a mom with a PhD is physics. The evidence is very clear that rear facing is significantly safer until age 2. After that there are less studies and clear evidence, but basic physics says that everyone is safer rear facing. If you need proof, look at Sweden.

Anonymous wrote:MB here, whose parents (unfortunately) sometimes communicate too much directly with the nanny. I think you just need to correct position of the seat, stress your requirements to the nanny and move on. Here is rationale:

A. If you allow direct contact between grand parents and the nanny, you can't control what is said, and you can't blame the nanny for not distinguishing between your wishes and your MIL. No matter how much you tell the nanny that YOU are the boss, what is nanny supposed to do when MIL might "suggest" something, and how is nanny to know that MIL doesn't speak for you, especially if you are on a long trip? We had several instances when my mom would tell nanny "let's do X", nanny might say "well, I don't think MB would want me to do X", and my mom would say "don't mind MB, she is young, X is definitely better". You can't blame the nanny for doing X in this situation.

B. In terms of how car seats are installed in nanny's car, you can't have an expectation, that she will never remove the car seats to have extra room in her car for weekends/after hours. If you don't trust the nanny to correctly install the car seats (and I wouldn't trust my current nanny, for example), you need to either provide your own vehicle for kids' transport, or inspect the installation every Monday, or whenever car seats are moved.

C. The only reason this can be raised to a written warning situation, if you repeatedly stressed to the nanny that she is not to FF your DC AND that she is to ignore all MIL "suggestions" and any MIL's opinions regarding raising kids. If none of those thing was stressed before, sorry, you can't blame the nanny.

And by the way, as a mom with a PhD is statistics related field, who directly looked up all and read all related studies on RF vs FF and at different ages, I can tell you there is NO scientific proof that RF till manufacturer suggested age saves lifes/ prevents significant injury. There are articles that populous media spinned into something related. And this is one of the times that I think that AAP went with definitely not harmful, but not proven recommendation. I FF my kids at 1.