Anonymous wrote:I know nannies dislike having parents at home while they're working. I have just been sentenced to bedrest. We have a nanny. What can I do to make my being home not horrible for the nanny?

Bedrest means stay in bed. Do not expect the nanny to be your maid and do not disrupt her normal day with children.

OP it sounds like you are on strict bed rest, not all cases are like yours though so the advice you see reflects that. Your boundaries will be what makes or breaks things so spend some time thinking about your expectations and how you can collaborate with the nanny to meet everyone's needs.

Anonymous wrote:You do all realize that bedrest doesn't literally mean sit in bed all day?

It just means take it easy. Probably don't go to work, but its not a golden ticket to be completely useless and make your husband and kids suffer just because you don't want to vacuum or do laundry for a week.

Just my 2 cents.

Depending on the situation it kind of does mean those things.

You do all realize that bedrest doesn't literally mean sit in bed all day?

It just means take it easy. Probably don't go to work, but its not a golden ticket to be completely useless and make your husband and kids suffer just because you don't want to vacuum or do laundry for a week.

Just my 2 cents.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't think this will be too much of an issue as long as you stick to your bed rest orders. You won't be able to go downstairs or infringe on your nanny's space. I would just talk to her about when you would like the kids to be able to come to see you (whenever they want, at a set time, etc.)

I would also consider asking your nanny how much she would be willing to help you during this time. As a nanny myself, I would have no problem making an extra sandwich at lunch time or bringing you a glass of water once in a while if that helped you any.

You do realize that when someone gets up to pee, it doesn't matter if they then go to a bed or a couch as long as their feet are elevated, right? And that not everyone has a downstairs?

You do realize that bed rest sucks? That it is incredibly stressful on everyone in the family? That the mom's physical fitness rapidly declines? That after several weeks she can barely get to the bathroom without feeling taxed? That this is the time when a nanny can help ease the stress on the other kids by keeping their routines and making them feel secure? That the mom appreciates all that, even as she feels inadequate at gestating?

Get over it. The mom is on bed rest. Believe me, she has enough on her plate without worrying that her nanny doesn't like having her around.

Anonymous wrote:I don't think this will be too much of an issue as long as you stick to your bed rest orders. You won't be able to go downstairs or infringe on your nanny's space. I would just talk to her about when you would like the kids to be able to come to see you (whenever they want, at a set time, etc.)

I would also consider asking your nanny how much she would be willing to help you during this time. As a nanny myself, I would have no problem making an extra sandwich at lunch time or bringing you a glass of water once in a while if that helped you any.

You do realize that when someone gets up to pee, it doesn't matter if they then go to a bed or a couch as long as their feet are elevated, right? And that not everyone has a downstairs?

Perhaps OP is frustrated with the lousy advice she has gotten from nannies who apparently have no idea what bed rest is or what it means.

NP here.

I don't think this will be too much of an issue as long as you stick to your bed rest orders. You won't be able to go downstairs or infringe on your nanny's space. I would just talk to her about when you would like the kids to be able to come to see you (whenever they want, at a set time, etc.)

I would also consider asking your nanny how much she would be willing to help you during this time. As a nanny myself, I would have no problem making an extra sandwich at lunch time or bringing you a glass of water once in a while if that helped you any.

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Anonymous wrote:Yikes....I wouldn't want to work for this OP just because of her personality.

That in itself would be a true deal-breaker for me.

Everything else would be cotton candy.

I concur.

Wow. Nothing's wrong with her personality. She's lucky to not have either of you as a nanny.

NP but OP is obviously pissed about bedrest and every post here has not exactly shown her in her best light. I have to agree with the other posters that if this is how she normally is, being on bedrest will not be why her nanny dislikes her.

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Anonymous wrote:Yikes....I wouldn't want to work for this OP just because of her personality.

That in itself would be a true deal-breaker for me.

Everything else would be cotton candy.

I concur.

Wow. Nothing's wrong with her personality. She's lucky to not have either of you as a nanny.

Anonymous wrote:Yikes....I wouldn't want to work for this OP just because of her personality.

That in itself would be a true deal-breaker for me.

Everything else would be cotton candy.

I concur.

Yikes....I wouldn't want to work for this OP just because of her personality.

That in itself would be a true deal-breaker for me.

Everything else would be cotton candy.