Op again. My son has a speech therapist that visits twice a week. So we are also addressing those concerns, thank you

OP here, I never had any intention of paying her less to bring her daughter. So all the talk about trying to pay less can stop now. She's only brought her once in the 8 months she's been working for us and that's only because the grandmother went out of town.

The infant is 7 weeks old. Prior to him and during my leave she was taking the toddler out at least once a week. She works with us part time. I'd like her to do more with him but it seems hard finding the balance between going out with infant and toddler.

His social skills don't affect his ability to play with other children he plays very well with his cousins. However he isn't around other children as much as I'd like him to be on a consistent basis which is why I thought bringing her own daughter would work well. I would be slightly concerned about if my kids would be getting the amount of attention they need. So that's why I came here for opinions.

I realize with my infant in the mix having another child here would be a lot of work for her because my infant son is very dependent upon being held and doesnt sleep well. I've noticed my toddler isn't getting the amount of attention he was with her and my nanny is possibly overwhelmed. I know this because I work from home and I hear my infant crying a lot of the time and not sleeping very often.

I just want my toddler to also have a good time even though his little brother is requiring a lot more attention.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't understand why she isn't taking him to the park every single day, and to libraries, children's museums, and other places teaming with children.

My 2 yr old goes to these places every single day. She spends at LEAST three hours every single weekday playing with other kids.

Tough with an infant home sleeping all the time. Two year kid gap can may things difficult to get out.

It can be impossible to get out if OP has decided her 2nd child has to sleep in the crib for each and every nap. OP, is that the case, or have you realized that child #2 has to do a lot of car seat napping to accommodate child #1's schedule?

If OP isn't throwing up roadblocks that keep nanny from going out, then she might suggest classes or activities for nanny and kids to do. I also would echo a PP and suggest that an evaluation of your oldest might be in order, simply to see if there are any significant developmental issues that need to be addressed.

If your child is behind in both his social and cognitive skills, you need to worry less about what activities your nanny isn't doing with him and worry more about what you're not doing with him. Take him to be evaluated by a developmental pediatrician. Throwing him in preschool won't fix the problem.

Anonymous wrote:I don't understand why she isn't taking him to the park every single day, and to libraries, children's museums, and other places teaming with children.

My 2 yr old goes to these places every single day. She spends at LEAST three hours every single weekday playing with other kids.

Tough with an infant home sleeping all the time. Two year kid gap can may things difficult to get out.

I would keep your nanny and perhaps find an activity that she and your son can enjoy on a regular basis where your son can interact w/other children his age.

Perhaps a toddler class somewhere. Or a playgroup. Swimming class. Gymnastics, etc.

Since he loves his nanny, I wouldn't ditch her.

Plus it would be mean for her to lose her job over no fault of her own.