I go back and forth on whether or not your MB should have let you go home or not. My MB works from home, and if I had baby poop all over me I'm sure she would at least let me leave during baby's nap time since she's there. She would probably also offer me clothing, but she's about four sizes smaller than I am, so I doubt any of her stuff would fit me!

As for the cooking thing I can't imagine. Most employers offer at least a few appliances for their employees to use, and it would suck not being able to take leftovers or soup. Unless they have a kosher or allergen free kitchen I think this is a bit nit picky on her part.

I get really annoyed when parents leave their stuff around for me to pick up as well. I would just mention that you weren't aware of the fact that you would have to clean up after her when you accepted the job. Honestly, I think you should keep an eye out for a new position, but just do what she is asking of you for now. Nothing is so extreme that you can't follow, but I can see it getting worse for you.

You really do need to have backup clothes with you. What if MB wasn't working from home? Then what would you do? She is working, which means you are responsible for the baby.

My nanny had this happen, and I let her borrow clothes while she threw hers in the washing machine, but clearly your MB isn't that kind of person. So prepare.

Anonymous wrote:OP, regarding the need to go home + change clothes, I do not think your boss was being unreasonable in needing you to stay. As a nanny, one must be prepared for anything and everything as you should know by now. I have had many things spilled on my clothes. If it really is such a big deal, then you should carry an extra set in your car/bag for emergencies. In most jobs, bosses will not be happy if you ask permission to let you walk off the job to go home and change your clothes.

Regarding cooking in their home, I can kind of see her point as well. Can you just bring along a packed lunch instead of using her stove? Perhaps a wrapped sandwich or salad? Some people are just funny about others using their kitchen appliances for themselves.

As for taking the day off, if you have only been there three weeks, it just doesn't look too good that you are already asking for a day off, even if it is unpaid. I understand your reasoning completely, but on her end, she may be wondering if this is going to be a habit in the long run.

I totally disagree w/her leaving her dishes around + expecting you to clean up after her!! That is not your job!! You are the nanny, not the maid!! As long as that was not agreed upon as your job duty upon hire, then she is way out of line here.

Anyway, bottom line is this job does not sound like a good match on many levels so I think it is best for you to seek a new family.

Good luck.

The distinction between nanny and maid is not as wide as you make it out to be.

OP, regarding the need to go home + change clothes, I do not think your boss was being unreasonable in needing you to stay. As a nanny, one must be prepared for anything and everything as you should know by now. I have had many things spilled on my clothes. If it really is such a big deal, then you should carry an extra set in your car/bag for emergencies. In most jobs, bosses will not be happy if you ask permission to let you walk off the job to go home and change your clothes.

Regarding cooking in their home, I can kind of see her point as well. Can you just bring along a packed lunch instead of using her stove? Perhaps a wrapped sandwich or salad? Some people are just funny about others using their kitchen appliances for themselves.

As for taking the day off, if you have only been there three weeks, it just doesn't look too good that you are already asking for a day off, even if it is unpaid. I understand your reasoning completely, but on her end, she may be wondering if this is going to be a habit in the long run.

I totally disagree w/her leaving her dishes around + expecting you to clean up after her!! That is not your job!! You are the nanny, not the maid!! As long as that was not agreed upon as your job duty upon hire, then she is way out of line here.

Anyway, bottom line is this job does not sound like a good match on many levels so I think it is best for you to seek a new family.

Good luck.

Anonymous wrote:Can you find a better job? Then quit. If not suck it up. Unless you are independently wealthy. Then quit. But I wonder why you were working in the first place. Maybe because you''re insane. Then you should get medical help. Which will require money. So maybe you shouldn't quit. But if you keep working there you might go insane. But at least you would have the money to pay for a shrink.

You make absolutely no sense. You are clearly mentally unstable.

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Anonymous wrote:Op here. Please let me clarify. I have a car but take the subway ( I'm in NYC) because Mb doesn't have parking around her home. I'm also not allowed to keep a change of clothes or other necessities at her home. I asked her the first day if I can leave a few items like snacks, change of clothes, a few girl products, etc in the babies closet. She told me she wasn't ok with that. She really wanted daycare but he was kicked out within a week of being there. I even keep my purse on the floor by the back door.

Put a shirt and a pair of jeans or shorts in your purse. Or carry a small backpack. Adults can work through these issues....

I agree with this. I also don't have a car, and I carry my shoes to work each day. A pair of leggings and a light-weight longsleeve shirt rolled up wouldn't weight that much in your bag.

I find it hard to believe that MB couldn't give you a spare tshirt and shorts or something. Seriously, she wanted you to stay in super (or semi?) poopy clothes the whole day?

Can you find a better job? Then quit. If not suck it up. Unless you are independently wealthy. Then quit. But I wonder why you were working in the first place. Maybe because you''re insane. Then you should get medical help. Which will require money. So maybe you shouldn't quit. But if you keep working there you might go insane. But at least you would have the money to pay for a shrink.