I don't understand any of the posts saying this is ok and the one saying this is special needs is just insane! The bib is not point and if some of you can't see that then you shouldn't be nannies. It's not ok to leave a baby in soaking wet clothes so he gets a rash. Do you think it is ok to leave a baby in a wet diaper so they get a diaper rash? I agree with the PP that it is the same thing. If the nanny doesn't like the bib then she should change his clothes more frequently.

OP, I would maybe give her one more warning, maybe more sternly and let her know this is her last chance. Explain why you want him to wear the bib (he's getting a rash etc), not just that you want it. Honestly though, to me it is not just the fact that she is ignoring your wishes that you have stated many times but the fact that leaving him in wet clothes so he's developing a rash is borderline negligent. If she's so careless about this what else will she be careless about in the future.

While my kids nanny and I don't always do everything in the exact same way I know beyond a doubt that she always has the children's best interest in mind and they are ALWAYS well cared for.

I would spell it out for her a final time OP. And I mean give her specific times when bib must be on and a list (naptime) when it can be off, as long as clothes are changed after nap if his torso is wet.

As a nanny, if a caregiver can't follow directions that are firmly laid out, they need to be replaced.

She sounds incompetent! Who in their right mind wants to see a baby soaked? He isn't crawling at 5 months and even when he gets older a bib won't constrict his ability to crawl for Pete's sake. If she doesn't want to listen then she can kick rocks. There are too many good nannies out here to put up with such foolishness!

The fact that OP has told the nanny repeatedly to put a bib on the baby and the nanny is ignoring it is cause for firing. I can't imagine any job that you could continually ignore your bosses requests daily and not get fired. A couple months back my MB told me I wasn't changing the littlest ones pull up enough, even though I checked her diaper 5 to 6 times per day while she was using the potty and if she was ever wet I'd change her right away. Even though I think it is excessive I ask her if she wants to try using the potty and check her diaper every hour or less. That's what the mom wants, so I do it. That's what a good nanny does, as long as it doesn't endanger the kids. And if your nanny did have a problem with using bibs she should tell you and discuss ways to work around the problem so you both feel comfortable.

In 18 years of nannying the only time I put a bib on his for feedings

Use aquaphor on him in the morning and have her apply it 1-2 times a day and then you apply it after his bath. This will put a barrier on his skin. He's at the age where he'll be removing it by himself.

I would not want a bib on my child 24/7. I had a drooler, reflux hurler and we just changed his and our clothing often. We used bibs for feeding but once they are mobile I would worry they would get caught on something nor are they particularly comfortable. Buy a few more sets of onsies and ask her to change him. Its not a big deal.

Anonymous wrote:I would be upset too, OP. This doesn't seem that different than letting the baby sit around in a wet diaper and get diaper rash. It sounds like you've already brought the issue to her attention. Also sounds like the soaked onesies are clearly visible, so she either doesn't notice or doesn't care about his comfort.

You have no way to know from this post, but I'm actually pretty laid back. The more I think about this though, the more upset I think I'd be. There's no reason for your baby to have to sit around in wet clothes, regardless of where the moisture comes from. I feel like a truly loving person would not need repeated direction on this. I'd give one more warning, then let her go.

OP here- exactly! Thanks for the feedback!

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Anonymous wrote:Yes, you could fire her but I do have some advice for you here OP.

Since your child has this drooling issue and needs this special care or he will get a rash, I would say he has a special need since this is something unique that a nanny would have to keep on top of vs. a nanny caring for a typical child.

So keep in mind that if you want to hire someone else, and you expect someone to be more competent, I suggest you offer a higher wage, something more in line for what you would pay for a special needs child.

Because caring for a baby is a tough job in itself. And to remember this is only another thing to remember. And if forgotten, it sounds like it can have detrimental effects so it is only fair to offer more in compensation.

You're comparing excessive drooling to a special needs child?

Yeah either she's cared for children that spent their lives toothless or she's one of those that advocate for increased compensation anyway they can. Either way, she can't be taken seriously...

Anonymous wrote:that is insane. your child is not special needs, OP. PP is crazy.

I am a nanny and I would consider this a fireable offense if it has been going on for months and the issue has been raised multiple times. there's no reason she should (a) be ignoring your clearly stated wishes and (b) ignoring something that is clearly discomforting to a child.

the PP that said bibs disrupt mobility is silly, also. bibs are just fine on a baby and will keep him clean and happy

OP here- thank you!

Anonymous wrote:Well, on one hand the drooling issue is a short term think and your son is almost certainly coming to the end of the time when this will be an issue.

But, a nanny who expressly disregards my repeated instructions (regardless of the issue) is a serious concern. I would worry about what else isn't being done. I'd worry about my wishes being followed, about the level of care being given to the child (a good nanny won't want the child in her care to be breaking out in rashes routinely!!), etc...

So while I wouldn't just say that not using a bib is a fireable offense, not following your repeatedly stated directions, and being negligent with care in a way that is repeatedly leading to rashes is.

Bummer.

OP here- thank you!

Well, on one hand the drooling issue is a short term think and your son is almost certainly coming to the end of the time when this will be an issue.

But, a nanny who expressly disregards my repeated instructions (regardless of the issue) is a serious concern. I would worry about what else isn't being done. I'd worry about my wishes being followed, about the level of care being given to the child (a good nanny won't want the child in her care to be breaking out in rashes routinely!!), etc...

So while I wouldn't just say that not using a bib is a fireable offense, not following your repeatedly stated directions, and being negligent with care in a way that is repeatedly leading to rashes is.

Bummer.

that is insane. your child is not special needs, OP. PP is crazy.

I am a nanny and I would consider this a fireable offense if it has been going on for months and the issue has been raised multiple times. there's no reason she should (a) be ignoring your clearly stated wishes and (b) ignoring something that is clearly discomforting to a child.

the PP that said bibs disrupt mobility is silly, also. bibs are just fine on a baby and will keep him clean and happy

Anonymous wrote:Yes, you could fire her but I do have some advice for you here OP.

Since your child has this drooling issue and needs this special care or he will get a rash, I would say he has a special need since this is something unique that a nanny would have to keep on top of vs. a nanny caring for a typical child.

So keep in mind that if you want to hire someone else, and you expect someone to be more competent, I suggest you offer a higher wage, something more in line for what you would pay for a special needs child.

Because caring for a baby is a tough job in itself. And to remember this is only another thing to remember. And if forgotten, it sounds like it can have detrimental effects so it is only fair to offer more in compensation.

You're comparing excessive drooling to a special needs child?

Yes, you could fire her but I do have some advice for you here OP.

Since your child has this drooling issue and needs this special care or he will get a rash, I would say he has a special need since this is something unique that a nanny would have to keep on top of vs. a nanny caring for a typical child.

So keep in mind that if you want to hire someone else, and you expect someone to be more competent, I suggest you offer a higher wage, something more in line for what you would pay for a special needs child.

Because caring for a baby is a tough job in itself. And to remember this is only another thing to remember. And if forgotten, it sounds like it can have detrimental effects so it is only fair to offer more in compensation.