Anonymous wrote:Hi all, I am a mother of a beautiful 8 month old baby girl. We had a Nanny come on board to help us out 2 days per week when my daughter was 4 months old while my husband and I are at work. She has been wonderful and I have been nothing but pleasantly surprised by her.

One thing I was just wondering though if what I experienced this morning is normal. Our Nanny called in with car trouble this morning which was no big deal and I told her to take the day to sort it out and I called into work and took the day off. Our Nanny takes our daughter to a baby music class each week and on the phone she was almost insisting we skip it this week for various reasons but I couldn't see any reason not to go, so I went.

Anyway, very long story short it appears that our Nanny has been telling serious lies to this group of mothers. At first it was very awkward as I had to explain myself a few times because our Nanny had been answering to my name and introducing herself as me the entire term. I had paid online for the class so had given my name which apparently all these mothers were calling her for weeks.

Apparently she has been using my husbands name as her husband, saying she has 3 other children at school and that she lives in our suburb etc etc she told these mother all these stories about her family and even got into details about her 4 births!

I can fully understand if someone makes a comment in passing then maybe you wont explain that you are the childs Nanny but to go to these lengths?

My husband is really angry about it and says I must call her and discuss.

Do Nannies do this? Is it normal?

Anonymous wrote:Just to roll with the bad lifetime movie idea, is it concievable that it all started with little white lie because of the disclaimer or waiver or such.

"Oh, hi, Mrs Johnson, we don't have Laila's signed waiver? Would you please sing here and here, otherwise Laila can't participate"... Nanny thinks if she says something, Laula can't be in the class, so she rolls with it... After this it is no going back, so you just have to put one lie on top of another.

My mom has pretty hard time understanding English over the phone (it is not her native language). I had to help her many times by calling different companies and pretending to be her (at her request, of course). One company that my mon uses is so used to my voice, that if my mom calls them they would claim she is a fraud. It just happened. They just know me as my mom there. I can't really change it now, though I feel bad about it.

I don't know if OP already fired the nanny, but I'd at least ask her to explain herself before firing. At least there must be a good story

Anonymous wrote:

Even if it's a troll it's something to comment on. Some troll posts are the best to read and most entertaining.

Why do people hate troll posts? Without them there would be very little to read on dcum

There are a few problems with troll posts.

1. They paint a false picture of the nanny/MB experience. Newcomers here might actually believe the insane claims of a troll post and either decline to hire a nanny or be totally paranoid about their nannies. This damages both nannies and families.

2. They lie about important things about rates, duties and compensation packages, which can unfairly exploit both nannies and families.

3. They manipulate people. Posters read about some crazy troll situation and they feel bad about a situation they don't know is fake. So they spend time and energy researching or thinking of great advice...only to be played by a troll. That's mean and destroys the credibility of anyone with a real problem. I don't even take seriously any of the postings here because they are so often trolls and I'm so disgusted by how they reflect on the nanny profession that I would never hire a nanny from here.

4. Very few MBs actually post here. Nannies always post outlandish stories and call themselves MBs, thus giving the nannies here another way to bully each other and any potential family that might make the mistake of coming here for actual, thoughtful feedback.

Trolls are mean, mean girls who exist merely to cause trouble. That's the problem with troll posts.