Anonymous
09/14/2014 18:20
Subject: bringing baby to work
i have a frien that as brought her kids to work she gets paid less but is with her child for the 3 years and its worked out fine
Anonymous
08/04/2014 00:21
Subject: Re:bringing baby to work
OP- this board is overwhelming nannies now rather than a mix of nannies and parents. You are not getting an honest perspective on why its bad to hire a nanny bringing a child. The nannies will all say its wonderful because its in their interest and the benefit shifts solely to them. Listen to the parents, it can be a real nightmare.
It's a very bad idea to allow a nanny to bring her child to work. The insurance liability alone is a pain. You're better off sending your child to day care.
That said, if you absolutely had to hire a nanny who absolutely had to bring her kid, structure it as a nanny share. Pay half the rate you'd pay for a FT nanny without a kid. Have the nanny be responsible for all her own supplies and activity costs and spell out exactly what the schedule will be in the contract. Also, be clear about things like sick days and school vacations, if applicable.
Also, keep looking for a professional nanny (no professional brings her kid to work) and change nannies as soon as you find one.
What a terrible thing to do to a fellow mother. But of course the mothers and children of the lower class aren't actually people now are they? If you're just going to fire her for the next best deal, it'd be best to just not fire her. Give her the chance to find a job and stability for her child. I would call you an ass wipe but you're not even good enough to serve that purpose.
Lower class? Who said anything about lower class? I said she shouldn't hire a nonprofessional who thinks it's ok to bring her kid to work. However, if she HAS to, then it should be a share until she can find a professional nanny. Nannies here advise each other all the time to take less than ideal jobs (because they have bills to pay) and to keep looking for a better job. This isn't any different. The MB should settle, temporarily, for a less than ideal situation, if she has to, and look for a better situation.
She can be upfront about this with any potential nanny and the candidate can decide to be a professional or take the share or pass on the job. NBD.
Employers aren't parents to their nannies anymore than nannies are indentured to their employers. Everyone needs to find the best situation for themselves. This is how it works in every other industry.
Anonymous
08/03/2014 18:12
Subject: Re:bringing baby to work
Anonymous wrote:OP- this board is overwhelming nannies now rather than a mix of nannies and parents. You are not getting an honest perspective on why its bad to hire a nanny bringing a child. The nannies will all say its wonderful because its in their interest and the benefit shifts solely to them. Listen to the parents, it can be a real nightmare.
It's a very bad idea to allow a nanny to bring her child to work. The insurance liability alone is a pain. You're better off sending your child to day care.
That said, if you absolutely had to hire a nanny who absolutely had to bring her kid, structure it as a nanny share. Pay half the rate you'd pay for a FT nanny without a kid. Have the nanny be responsible for all her own supplies and activity costs and spell out exactly what the schedule will be in the contract. Also, be clear about things like sick days and school vacations, if applicable.
Also, keep looking for a professional nanny (no professional brings her kid to work) and change nannies as soon as you find one.
What a terrible thing to do to a fellow mother. But of course the mothers and children of the lower class aren't actually people now are they? If you're just going to fire her for the next best deal, it'd be best to just not fire her. Give her the chance to find a job and stability for her child. I would call you an ass wipe but you're not even good enough to serve that purpose.
Anonymous
08/03/2014 12:48
Subject: Re:bringing baby to work
OP- this board is overwhelming nannies now rather than a mix of nannies and parents. You are not getting an honest perspective on why its bad to hire a nanny bringing a child. The nannies will all say its wonderful because its in their interest and the benefit shifts solely to them. Listen to the parents, it can be a real nightmare.
It's a very bad idea to allow a nanny to bring her child to work. The insurance liability alone is a pain. You're better off sending your child to day care.
That said, if you absolutely had to hire a nanny who absolutely had to bring her kid, structure it as a nanny share. Pay half the rate you'd pay for a FT nanny without a kid. Have the nanny be responsible for all her own supplies and activity costs and spell out exactly what the schedule will be in the contract. Also, be clear about things like sick days and school vacations, if applicable.
Also, keep looking for a professional nanny (no professional brings her kid to work) and change nannies as soon as you find one.
Anonymous
08/01/2014 18:10
Subject: Re:bringing baby to work
I agree with employers about the negatives. This isn't a good situation.
Anonymous
08/01/2014 14:43
Subject: Re:bringing baby to work
Anonymous wrote:OP- this board is overwhelming nannies now rather than a mix of nannies and parents. You are not getting an honest perspective on why its bad to hire a nanny bringing a child. The nannies will all say its wonderful because its in their interest and the benefit shifts solely to them. Listen to the parents, it can be a real nightmare.
How does it benefit me, an already employed childless nanny, to encourage OP to do something I secretly beloved would harm her? Do you get how stupid and paranoid you sound? I have no motivation to sway OP one way or the other outside of my own opinion of the situation. I think that the reality is that this is what OP has to work with in an area where nannies are sparse. I also think that a nanny with a kid is not inherently a bad nanny. I also think that the reasons stated against it are typically just a silly and selfish as you claim the nannies are. Oh no she won't have time to clean your house! Oh no, your kid may have to share! Oh no the world might stop revolving if your child isn't in the center of it!!!!! No. The kids will survive, and likely thrive. OP will have a nanny like she wants, at a price point she can afford, and God forbid a nanny will get to care for her kid as well instead of dropping them at some basement discount daycare all day while she services your family.
Anonymous
08/01/2014 14:21
Subject: Re:bringing baby to work
OP- this board is overwhelming nannies now rather than a mix of nannies and parents. You are not getting an honest perspective on why its bad to hire a nanny bringing a child. The nannies will all say its wonderful because its in their interest and the benefit shifts solely to them. Listen to the parents, it can be a real nightmare.
Anonymous
08/01/2014 11:36
Subject: Re:bringing baby to work
Anonymous wrote:No way, OP. If unemployment is high, keep looking and post your ad in more sources. It always appears that "most" nannies want to bring a child but we figured that this is simply because no one will hire them. They respond to all job postings hoping someone will go for it.
1. Your home owner's and car insurance will not cover an accident that occurs to her child as she is an employee of yours not a guest or visitor. Its the nanny suing you that you need to worry about, its the hospital looking for payment of medical bills.
2. She will have a disincentive to tell you the truth about whether it is working or not. Your child will have to mod to her child's schedule and needs.
3. Professional nannies that can separate their own parenting philosophies from their employers are not the ones bringing a child along. Its next ti impossible for a nanny bringing her child to choose your way over hear because her child is involved.
4. There are more expenses to think through than with hiring a normal nanny. If you want your child to go to classes or anything that had an entry fee, you have to pay for her child too. She may bring some of her own things but you'll end up footing the bill for supplies used during her working hours. She's not going to be the one to foot the bill for a double stroller.
5. Sick days become complicated. If her child is sick and you don't want her to bring a sick child, then she'll expect extra paid sick days. If your child is sick, and you don't want her to bring her child then she'll expect extra sick days.
6. Its not a built in play date, its a forced play date. There is a good chance that they may not get along and you're stuck. Your child won't be able to have other play dates because then the nanny would have too many kids to watch. You'll have to organize play dates with actual friends for you to host on the weekends and the other family to host your child while the nanny is working. She'll love this as she has free time with just her own kid but is being paid.
You have a terribly negative outlook on life, and obviously don't think much of nannies. I'm sorry for what/whoever burned you and made you so bitter and negative. It CAN work OP, you just need to be clear about what you want and what you're willing to give. This PP might be right that these women apply to any and all available jobs, but honestly if it were only that, you'd also have other candidates to look at. Something about your job is undesirable, or the area you are in doesn't have much in the way of quality nannies. Your market happens to be SAHMs looking to make some money. It isn't the end of the world, and there is no reason they can't be good caregivers. Ignore the DC moms that believe any moment not focussed on them and their snowflake is a tragedy.
Anonymous
08/01/2014 10:58
Subject: Re:bringing baby to work
No way, OP. If unemployment is high, keep looking and post your ad in more sources. It always appears that "most" nannies want to bring a child but we figured that this is simply because no one will hire them. They respond to all job postings hoping someone will go for it.
1. Your home owner's and car insurance will not cover an accident that occurs to her child as she is an employee of yours not a guest or visitor. Its the nanny suing you that you need to worry about, its the hospital looking for payment of medical bills.
2. She will have a disincentive to tell you the truth about whether it is working or not. Your child will have to mod to her child's schedule and needs.
3. Professional nannies that can separate their own parenting philosophies from their employers are not the ones bringing a child along. Its next ti impossible for a nanny bringing her child to choose your way over hear because her child is involved.
4. There are more expenses to think through than with hiring a normal nanny. If you want your child to go to classes or anything that had an entry fee, you have to pay for her child too. She may bring some of her own things but you'll end up footing the bill for supplies used during her working hours. She's not going to be the one to foot the bill for a double stroller.
5. Sick days become complicated. If her child is sick and you don't want her to bring a sick child, then she'll expect extra paid sick days. If your child is sick, and you don't want her to bring her child then she'll expect extra sick days.
6. Its not a built in play date, its a forced play date. There is a good chance that they may not get along and you're stuck. Your child won't be able to have other play dates because then the nanny would have too many kids to watch. You'll have to organize play dates with actual friends for you to host on the weekends and the other family to host your child while the nanny is working. She'll love this as she has free time with just her own kid but is being paid.
1. Your home owner's and car insurance will not cover an accident that occurs to her child as she is an employee of yours not a guest or visitor. Its the nanny suing you that you need to worry about, its the hospital looking for payment of medical bills.
2. She will have a disincentive to tell you the truth about whether it is working or not. Your child will have to mod to her child's schedule and needs.
3. Professional nannies that can separate their own parenting philosophies from their employers are not the ones bringing a child along. Its next ti impossible for a nanny bringing her child to choose your way over hear because her child is involved.
4. There are more expenses to think through than with hiring a normal nanny. If you want your child to go to classes or anything that had an entry fee, you have to pay for her child too. She may bring some of her own things but you'll end up footing the bill for supplies used during her working hours. She's not going to be the one to foot the bill for a double stroller.
5. Sick days become complicated. If her child is sick and you don't want her to bring a sick child, then she'll expect extra paid sick days. If your child is sick, and you don't want her to bring her child then she'll expect extra sick days.
6. Its not a built in play date, its a forced play date. There is a good chance that they may not get along and you're stuck. Your child won't be able to have other play dates because then the nanny would have too many kids to watch. You'll have to organize play dates with actual friends for you to host on the weekends and the other family to host your child while the nanny is working. She'll love this as she has free time with just her own kid but is being paid.