This is not ok. If you are otherwise happy with her, set out clearly the things you want her to do with your baby. However, it sounds to me like she is putting herself first. perhaps bahaving as she would with her own children, i.e. hanging out with her family, rather than doing what a professional nanny would do, i.e. take the baby to places with other nannies and babies. to the park for fresh air, to the library, etc. Good luck.