OP, you are obviously really going out of the way, thinking and rethinking on this topic.

Your nanny, on the other hand, doesn't sound like she is. Given her child's age, which is the oldest, she could be trying harder to find someone to take her to school. She could find a babysitter to watcher her in the morning and walk her to the bus stop if she was motivated to keep this job with you where she can bring her daughter on snow days, vacation days, etc.

I think you are set in your ways and don't want to go through change of finding a new nanny but your nanny doesn't feel the same way.

Sorry, OP, I think that's unreasonable. Part of the reason I even have a nanny is so my kids can wake up later and not be shuttled all around for hours early in the morning before they even start a full day of school. To me, your nanny's solution would be exactly the same schedule for my kids as would just having them in before care, which is significantly cheaper. No way I would want my kids driving 1.5 hours every single morning and having to leave the house by 7:30am.

Sorry OP - I wouldn't do it.

I think it's unreasonable for your kids, but there could be ways to deal with this without getting rid of your nanny if she is otherwise excellent.

Could you or your husband take her child to school on your way to work perhaps? Maybe you could look into hiring someone else for the hour that you're gone and the nanny hasn't arrived from drop off yet? Your two would still be sleeping, so it could be a job for a high schooler. Help the nanny find a classmate who could drive her kid to school? I'm sure there are ways to get this done, but it all depends on how much time and energy you're willing to invest into sorting this out for your nanny.

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Another reason having a nanny bring her child to work is a bad idea. That said, it was something working for you for awhile, OP, but clearly is now unworkable and unfair to your children.

Simply tell nanny to find alternative care for her child. She may decide the perk of bringing her child is critical for her, so she will need to find a new job and you can find a more professional nanny. Any nanny who seriously thinks the situation is fair and appropriate for her charges is very definitely not professional.

I don't think nanny is unreasonable in that the agreement was she could bring her child to work. I think the proposed arrangement doesn't work for anyone.

OP said the nanny's child was 7 so she must be in first or second grade. What were the arrangements for the nanny's child last year?

Anonymous wrote:Why is this just now a problem no one saw coming? Sounds like you have resentment built up about the fact that she has her child with her.

It sounds like OP's child (starting K) and the nanny's child (presumably also in K, if he/she came with the nanny to work before?) are both starting school for the first time--July is a pretty normal time to be getting final school assignments and learning about drop-off procedures and start times. And unfortunately, the new schools may create problems that didn't exist before.

OP, agreed that either the nanny needs to hire a sitter to handle morning drop-off with her child or it may just be time to part ways, if there's no good way for her to get her child to school otherwise. Are your kids in school full-time, and if so, would it make sense to transition to just a morning sitter to handle mornings at this point?

Why is this just now a problem no one saw coming? Sounds like you have resentment built up about the fact that she has her child with her.

Sounds like your Nanny needs to hire a nanny. Or at least a babysitter that can do this. She could pay what she would be losing if she worked later. Or she needs to find a carpool arrangement for her kid.

If you tell the nanny you'll need to replace her unless she makes other arrangements, you'll be surprised how quickly she finds a solution. She's not motivated to find alternate arrangements because you've been so accommodating.

Can the nanny get a change in school assignment?

OP - out of curiosity, how did you handle school drop offs and pick ups last year?

OP here - really wish I could have her start at 830 but my job (and Dh's for that matter) requires me to be out of the house by 7 am.

Pretty much a unanimous crowd reaction here. We will figure this out. Thanks all!