If the Mom has cancer, she would absolutely need you to stay on. This post is creepy and you should probably ask Jeff to delete it, because if your boss sees it you won't be getting a good reference anymore. You aren't a good fit, they don't want confrontation so they are being nice. Move on.

Anonymous wrote:I am an employer who just let a nanny go after a year because she isn't a good fit for what we need anymore. However we are hoping she still babysits for us regularly and told her that. It sounds like there is something they are not telling you about your performance.

Which issues made your nanny, no longer a good fit?

I am an employer who just let a nanny go after a year because she isn't a good fit for what we need anymore. However we are hoping she still babysits for us regularly and told her that. It sounds like there is something they are not telling you about your performance.

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Anonymous wrote:You just have to move on, this wasn't the best fit. Try and focus your energy on getting a new nanny job. My guess is they just didn't click with you. It happens to the best of us.

It was a actually a great fit. Although my bosses never directly told me, they told family members how much they loved me and how wonderful I am at my job. I'm not sure why they never verbalized so until the end. I don't believe they are getting a new nanny and I do speculate my MB is sick. She had ovarian cancer with the twins and had a partial hysterectomy 11 months ago, after birth.

They fired you clearly it wasn't a good fit. If it had been you would still have a job.

they probably got a spot in a daycare. move on. it's sad when this happens, but it does. my motto is "good fences make good neighbors." in other words, you have to maintain a certain emotional distance so your world doesn't crumble when the relationship unavoidably changes or ends.

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Anonymous wrote:You just have to move on, this wasn't the best fit. Try and focus your energy on getting a new nanny job. My guess is they just didn't click with you. It happens to the best of us.

It was a actually a great fit. Although my bosses never directly told me, they told family members how much they loved me and how wonderful I am at my job. I'm not sure why they never verbalized so until the end. I don't believe they are getting a new nanny and I do speculate my MB is sick. She had ovarian cancer with the twins and had a partial hysterectomy 11 months ago, after birth.

Your post is so bizarre I don't even know where to start. You were upset because they seemed too happy that you were leaving but now you think the MB has cancer?! Then you said they never told you they liked you but you know they told all their family members they did? I suspect since this is your first nanny job you just weren't a good nanny for them and they just decided to move on. You need to do the same.

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Anonymous wrote:I said I don't really care for the reason why. I am wondering how to handle leaving a child you bonded with and a family you've established yourselves with?

What do you expect people to say? It sucks and you will be sad for a little while and then you will move on. There's no magic formula we are keeping from you.

Exactly.

OP, you got a month's notice after 8 months of employment, a gracious reference letter, and positive feedback from your employers (or at least from their family). What more do you want? They owe you nothing more in terms of an explanation and certainly don't have to be unhappy about it. You're speculating endlessly about their finances, family, fertility, illness, state of mind, etc... and that is WAY out of line.

Enjoy your last weeks with the child, make a little photo book or something if you want him to have something to remember you by (how old is the child by the way?) and accept that moving on from kids and families is part of the job. It happened earlier in this instance than you would have preferred, but it was also handled graciously and generously by the parents - which won't always be the case.

Anonymous wrote:I said I don't really care for the reason why. I am wondering how to handle leaving a child you bonded with and a family you've established yourselves with?

What do you expect people to say? It sucks and you will be sad for a little while and then you will move on. There's no magic formula we are keeping from you.