Wondering how this issue got resolved. Maybe nanny moved on to another job.

How unbelievable!

The good news is that the answer is pretty simple, OP. Bring your lunch every day and don't store anything at the NF's house.

Problem solved!

(Strange you couldn't come up with that solution on your own.)


I very nicely asked for a polite, tactful way to discuss this with MB. It's an awkward conversation to have with an employer.
There really is no need for your nastiness.

There is no reason to discuss this with MB. Just bring your lunch and stop storing anything at your NF's house.

No need for awkward conversation.

If you are not labeling your food, it is not reasonable to expect that it won't be touched. DB might eat something thinking that MB bought it, and vice versa. Kids who are old enough to access the fridge are going to assume it's all fair game unless clearly told otherwise. You need to just start labeling your stuff (no need to explain why; they will get it) or bring what you need each day.

Anonymous wrote:I would be offended that they were eating my stuff, but I also would only keep enough for the day (could MAYBE see keeping ONE condiment) in the fridge and keep some other non-perishable snacks in the car. I would also be labeling everything clearly. You are using too much kitchen real estate and being passive-aggressive about the labeling. Fix your end and the problem may disappear.

Your understanding is rather limited.

I would be offended that they were eating my stuff, but I also would only keep enough for the day (could MAYBE see keeping ONE condiment) in the fridge and keep some other non-perishable snacks in the car. I would also be labeling everything clearly. You are using too much kitchen real estate and being passive-aggressive about the labeling. Fix your end and the problem may disappear.

I don't think it's a jerk thing to put your name on stuff, seems pretty practiclal. It seems impossible to me, but many people claim that they don't know which stuff in a fridge is theirs that they bought and stocked it with, and which items someone else put there. So if this is true, putting your name on it just helps them differentiate. It's like an accommodation for their disorder.

It's not an awkward conversation to have because you shouldn't be having it. Bring your food every day like a normal person, or stop being so ridiculous about your salad dressing. Mix some oil and vinegar and call it a day. Being vegan is a choice, so you can choose to have dry salad or you can choose to use a different dressing that's in their fridge, but it's all still a choice so stop with the "can't" nonsense. You can eat other stuff but are electing not to. You don't get to complain about that when it's at someone else's house in the first place. Bring your lunch every day.

Maybe invest in something like this? http://www.fridgelocker.com/

Anonymous wrote:How unbelievable!

The good news is that the answer is pretty simple, OP. Bring your lunch every day and don't store anything at the NF's house.

Problem solved!

(Strange you couldn't come up with that solution on your own.)

I very nicely asked for a polite, tactful way to discuss this with MB. It's an awkward conversation to have with an employer.
There really is no need for your nastiness.

How unbelievable!

The good news is that the answer is pretty simple, OP. Bring your lunch every day and don't store anything at the NF's house.

Problem solved!

(Strange you couldn't come up with that solution on your own.)

Don't leave food there over the weekend, bring all your items home with you at the end of the week. Keep your food in a bag, such as a whole foods bag and put the whole bag in the fridge. Maybe another bag for pantry items.

Anonymous wrote:Drinking soda defeats the purpose of living a healthy Vegan lifestyle. You should eliminate all processed foods which are often made by companies that sell meat products or associated with them. You just end up supporting these animal killng companies, plus it's horrible for you health wise. Buy fresh produce from farms and speciality items from small stirctly Vegan companies.

OP here. There are numerous vegan sodas made by companies who don't exploit or use animal products.
I have to say- people like you are the reason people who follow a vegan diet are looked at as crazy.
While I appreciate your input and I understand where you are coming from, you are going to get a nosebleed standing on that soapbox.
You can't lecture people and expect them to take why your are saying seriously.
Social responsibilty begins with you. If you are passionate about protecting the rights of animals, be a vegan and support an animal rights organization.
What others choose to do is out of your hands.
I have been vegan for over 10 years and I can tell you haven't been doing it for long, as you are very preachy.
I was in the beginning too. Worry about you.

She should eat (and drink!) what she wants.

Drinking soda defeats the purpose of living a healthy Vegan lifestyle. You should eliminate all processed foods which are often made by companies that sell meat products or associated with them. You just end up supporting these animal killng companies, plus it's horrible for you health wise. Buy fresh produce from farms and speciality items from small stirctly Vegan companies.

That sucks. Vegan products are really expensive and sometimes a pain in the ass to find in stores. I would explain to them in detail why its important that they don't touch your food or replace it before you get back to work. I would then just start making your own food at night and only bringing what you need for the day. I'm vegetarian but eat mostly vegan, I pack a huge shopping bag everyday with my meals. It sucks but at least I know I have food.