Very cheap

I am sorry you are going through that. I have bad experience as well. Most of them don’t think difference between nannies and housekeeper. They think we change diapers so we are same like housekeepers.

I have worked for an Indian family now for a month and I am so unhappy. I can get along and have been appreciated by many families, but this one seems to look at me like some kind of low life servant.....the Mother of my employer has said things to me I would never say to anyone. I am going to quit without a notice as I am so stressed out, it's making me sick. T"hese are "wealthy" people who look down at anyone not of their stature

lol oh no,

They tend to cook their own food vs. buy store brand baby food.

And the food they cook for older children and adults is kinda spicy.

Get Every detail in writing! Depending on how they were raised and where, expect a very different type of parent-child involvement compared to Americans. My former family basically handed me their infant on the first day and walked away. The father wanted nothing to do with the child until he was 3 yrs old. I was expected to handle everything related to him. They would leave him in his crib with shitty diapers until I arrived to change him each morning. They were kind to me but very cheap. They had no idea how to care for children because they were raised with tons if servants and I feared for him when I left for weekends. When he got older and more self sufficient, his parents spent more time with him and remembered to feed him because he asked.

This was just my experience with one family and that family's friends who I babysat for.

OP here. Well I never heard back from the family after our phone interview so I guess I posted this thread a little too prematurely! Oh well looks like I might have dodged a bullet!

I'm an American raised Indian nanny and avoid working for Indian families. I know how hypocritical I sound but the ones who I have seen advertise on for example, Care.com seem to want a house manager for a babysitting rate. No thanks.

I definitely know there are great Indian families to work for and every family has their negatives.

The Indian family I work for now are the most thoughtful, generous and considerate employers I have ever had.

i am an Indian MB, and I agree with much of what has been posted. I like to think I've treated my nannies well, but though I refer nannies to my Indian mommy groups, I always tell the nanny to be careful - there ARE some mean-spirited bosses out there who want everything but willing to pay nothing. But this isn't race specific - we used to nanny share with an Egyptian girl who grew up here and she was SO mean to our nanny, almost abusive, to the point we actually left the share, but the poor nanny stayed as she needed the job. Point is, you should be careful to get to know future employers - we've always been good our nannies. I am frugal and I usually pay middle of the road rates - but I am always upfront about what I would like to pay and what is expected and if I ask for someone for something more (i.e extra time, extra work) - I pay more for it. But I know Indians who are not that way.

We also have a no-shoe household, more for cleanliness - I work and I just don't have time to keep up with outside dirt in addition to keeping the house clean from the usual inside mess!

I work for an Indian family and have spent a lot of time with the grandmothers. These are women who have paid for the educations, weddings, and houses of their Indian servants' children (the great-grandparents still live in India and have full household staff). They are generous and caring and deeply value the people who work for their parents back home. This attitude was passed down to their children who likewise go above and beyond for me.

I also know Indian employers who are very much the opposite and disrespect their nanny both openly and subtly. Just like I know Americans who are globally conscious and others who are the definition of ethnocentricity. Don't make any assumptions, just get to know them.