Anonymous
07/11/2014 23:51
Subject: Re:They can't afford me.
None of your business, OP.
As long as they are paying your agreed upon rate, just do your job.
It is completely obnoxious of you to judge your employer's finances.
It is my business. If I know my NF is struggling.
Nope. None of your business IF they are paying your agreed upon rate, as PP said.
Your NF's finances are not your business and your finances are not their business.
Anonymous
07/11/2014 20:57
Subject: They can't afford me.
When should she be concerned? After she's out of a job? Nice advice, mbs.
Anonymous
07/11/2014 14:45
Subject: They can't afford me.
Unless they are missing paydays or paying you late, don't worry about it. Lots of people feel squeezed by childcare costs or cut back on other things in order to afford nanny care. Some of the nanny posters here are just angry people. When MBs come on here and say they can't pay $20 or $25 per hour because they need to have some income left over for other expenses, the angry nanny corps say they must not love their kids enough to prioritize child care so the nanny should quit. You have a family that clearly prioritizes quality child care enough to forgo other things in order to afford you, and the angry nannies are telling you to quit.
OP, the fact that this family is stretching to afford you tells me that they value and appreciate your services. If you are comfortable with your rate and they pay you on time and treat you well, ignore the angry nanny posters and don't worry another minute about the family's finances. That's the parents' job.
OP, the fact that this family is stretching to afford you tells me that they value and appreciate your services. If you are comfortable with your rate and they pay you on time and treat you well, ignore the angry nanny posters and don't worry another minute about the family's finances. That's the parents' job.
Anonymous
07/11/2014 13:42
Subject: They can't afford me.
OP, just as a perspective from a family in this situation: we have a nannyshare because we feel it is the best child care situation for our child (though not to keep up with our wealthy friends--would that we had some of those to keep up with! 
As a result, we pay a lot in child care--more than our mortgage (and that's for a share!) and a large chunk of our monthly income. We definitely do scrimp and save to make it work. But it's a decision that we made as a family, and it has an end point, when DC will go to preschool and our costs will drop back down again. In the meantime, yes, things are tight, but no, we have NEVER missed a paycheck for our nanny, and we don't skimp on benefits or bonuses, either (because we considered the costs of all of that when making a decision to go with a nanny). I would never expect our nanny to offer to reduce her hours or her rate to make it easier, even if she does observe that things are much tighter for us than for the other family in the share (as I'm sure she sometimes does). Much like I would never expect my employer to offer to up my hours or give me a raise after observing that child care costs a lot (not that I would turn that down!)
I would really encourage you not to worry too much about it, provided you are being paid on time and treated well as an employee. I'm quite sure your charge's family has thought through the implications of choosing a nanny versus daycare and they may well have their own reasons for doing so. (If you are really concerned, though, you could always broach a conversation about when they plan to transition to preschool. We have always been very upfront about when we planned to do this--both kids will start at the same time--but if you don't know if/when this will happen and the charge is getting to be preschool-aged, it could be worth asking.)
As a result, we pay a lot in child care--more than our mortgage (and that's for a share!) and a large chunk of our monthly income. We definitely do scrimp and save to make it work. But it's a decision that we made as a family, and it has an end point, when DC will go to preschool and our costs will drop back down again. In the meantime, yes, things are tight, but no, we have NEVER missed a paycheck for our nanny, and we don't skimp on benefits or bonuses, either (because we considered the costs of all of that when making a decision to go with a nanny). I would never expect our nanny to offer to reduce her hours or her rate to make it easier, even if she does observe that things are much tighter for us than for the other family in the share (as I'm sure she sometimes does). Much like I would never expect my employer to offer to up my hours or give me a raise after observing that child care costs a lot (not that I would turn that down!)
I would really encourage you not to worry too much about it, provided you are being paid on time and treated well as an employee. I'm quite sure your charge's family has thought through the implications of choosing a nanny versus daycare and they may well have their own reasons for doing so. (If you are really concerned, though, you could always broach a conversation about when they plan to transition to preschool. We have always been very upfront about when we planned to do this--both kids will start at the same time--but if you don't know if/when this will happen and the charge is getting to be preschool-aged, it could be worth asking.)
Anonymous
07/11/2014 08:05
Subject: They can't afford me.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:None of your business, OP.
As long as they are paying your agreed upon rate, just do your job.
It is completely obnoxious of you to judge your employer's finances.
It is my business. If I know my NF is struggling.
Exactly. You just can't hide it very well.
Anonymous
07/11/2014 00:35
Subject: They can't afford me.
Anonymous wrote:None of your business, OP.
As long as they are paying your agreed upon rate, just do your job.
It is completely obnoxious of you to judge your employer's finances.
It is my business. If I know my NF is struggling.
Anonymous
07/11/2014 00:22
Subject: They can't afford me.
None of your business, OP.
As long as they are paying your agreed upon rate, just do your job.
It is completely obnoxious of you to judge your employer's finances.
As long as they are paying your agreed upon rate, just do your job.
It is completely obnoxious of you to judge your employer's finances.
Anonymous
07/11/2014 00:20
Subject: They can't afford me.
That is a tough call OP.
I would feel bad working for a family that I felt could not really afford me.
I wouldn't lower my rate however.
You are a working professional and they are not a charity case.
If it feels too awkward for you, you can always quit and move on.
I would feel bad working for a family that I felt could not really afford me.
I wouldn't lower my rate however.
You are a working professional and they are not a charity case.
If it feels too awkward for you, you can always quit and move on.
Anonymous
07/10/2014 21:49
Subject: They can't afford me.
Anonymous wrote:Yeah, OP, ignore all the RED flags in your face, UNTIL the bottom suddenly falls out, and you're out of luck with no job lined up.
The same posters here will then tell you, "It's your own damn fault you're on the street. You CHOSE to IGNORE the fact that they were already broke."
Get smart, OP, and get another job while you have time to look around.
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