Anonymous wrote:OP here. I interviewed on Saturday with 3 different families and got 2 offers, given the same day. Both start in 2-2.5 weeks. I gave notice today and MB acted dumbfounded and hurt. When I explained reasonings, she kept going on about them loving me and if I would reconsider if we addresses the issues at hand. Before the comments, I loved working for them and I liked MB. I'm really torn now.

Anonymous wrote:I asked MB for a sit-down and she scheduled one for August. I told her I wanted to cover some areas and issues and she said that is the best she can do.

To the pp who said she sometimes just wants the nanny to go and not make small talk. Well MB is the one who engages conversation with me, and more importantly, did so on that specific day. I keep a log so we don't have to go through the entire day. I think I'm going to give notice this week. I am a hell of a nanny and can do betters with any numer of families.

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In any profession your bosses don't have to like you but it is different being a nanny. I'm not the woman/man below my boss in the office, I am the woman helping raise her child. I this world many nannies often time spend more waking hours with a child than the mother and father. It is something to worry about and I feel you are missing the whole point of what OP is getting at. It's a very personal relationship when you welcome someone into your home, into your family, to help raise your child. This is an incredibly rough and rewarding job. It's important for nannies to bond with every person in the household to feel like " family". It's imperative I work for employers who appreciate, respect, and yes, like me!

I could not disagree more. You are NOT family. You are an employee. I am polite to my nanny. But I do not feel like she is my sister or daughter. She is a woman we employ. I hate seeing so many people on here claim everyone should be like family. This is why nannies get so hurt when they get let go because they're no longer needed - because they forgot their place as an employee. When my actual family watches our kids, WE DON'T PAY THEM. Because they really ARE family.

Anonymous wrote:

In any profession your bosses don't have to like you but it is different being a nanny. I'm not the woman/man below my boss in the office, I am the woman helping raise her child. I this world many nannies often time spend more waking hours with a child than the mother and father. It is something to worry about and I feel you are missing the whole point of what OP is getting at. It's a very personal relationship when you welcome someone into your home, into your family, to help raise your child. This is an incredibly rough and rewarding job. It's important for nannies to bond with every person in the household to feel like " family". It's imperative I work for employers who appreciate, respect, and yes, like me!

I could not disagree more. You are NOT family. You are an employee. I am polite to my nanny. But I do not feel like she is my sister or daughter. She is a woman we employ. I hate seeing so many people on here claim everyone should be like family. This is why nannies get so hurt when they get let go because they're no longer needed - because they forgot their place as an employee. When my actual family watches our kids, WE DON'T PAY THEM. Because they really ARE family.

Anonymous wrote:I asked MB for a sit-down and she scheduled one for August. I told her I wanted to cover some areas and issues and she said that is the best she can do.

To the pp who said she sometimes just wants the nanny to go and not make small talk. Well MB is the one who engages conversation with me, and more importantly, did so on that specific day. I keep a log so we don't have to go through the entire day. I think I'm going to give notice this week. I am a hell of a nanny and can do betters with any numer of families.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. I'm not asking to be " family" but I am asking to be respected and appreciated. My charge is in my care more than she is with both parents, alone and together. I'm not going to let anyone insult me with little jabs - boss or not. I think I'm going to stick to what the responses said. Be aloof and only give feedback when asked. We wroe everything down so she sees her daily routine.

You know, OP, I employ a nanny, and I am crazed with work things, and juggling a million thoughts in my head. Often I come home from work to see my children before they have to go to bed, but I have a conference call coming up in a couple of hours, or something else going on at work. In those cases I honestly just want to hustle the nanny out the door so that A. I can concentrate on my kids and B. I don't have to worry about remembering to pay overtime to the nanny for standing around trying to chat with me. It's not personal, I'm just busy and distracted. Also, please keep in mind that we're very possibly on opposite ends of the human interaction spectrum. You may have spent all day (at home?) talking to a baby and are now happy to see an adult you can talk with, but I spent all day trying to get solitude to get work done only to be constantly interrupted by employees coming into my office who need things. When I get home I only have patience for talking with my kids and husband.

Everyone has a million thoughts in their head and is exhausted/overwhelmed at the end of most days. It's no excuse for being rude to the person who has just spent the day caring for your children. Say hello (pleasantly), get a rundown of the day, and say good evening/thank you. It takes 5 minutes and goes a long way in the building of goodwill.

We spend our days putting our personal feelings aside to be polite to those around us all of the time, why isn't the nanny worthy of this too?

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. I'm not asking to be " family" but I am asking to be respected and appreciated. My charge is in my care more than she is with both parents, alone and together. I'm not going to let anyone insult me with little jabs - boss or not. I think I'm going to stick to what the responses said. Be aloof and only give feedback when asked. We wroe everything down so she sees her daily routine.

You know, OP, I employ a nanny, and I am crazed with work things, and juggling a million thoughts in my head. Often I come home from work to see my children before they have to go to bed, but I have a conference call coming up in a couple of hours, or something else going on at work. In those cases I honestly just want to hustle the nanny out the door so that A. I can concentrate on my kids and B. I don't have to worry about remembering to pay overtime to the nanny for standing around trying to chat with me. It's not personal, I'm just busy and distracted. Also, please keep in mind that we're very possibly on opposite ends of the human interaction spectrum. You may have spent all day (at home?) talking to a baby and are now happy to see an adult you can talk with, but I spent all day trying to get solitude to get work done only to be constantly interrupted by employees coming into my office who need things. When I get home I only have patience for talking with my kids and husband.

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I'm not asking to be " family" but I am asking to be respected and appreciated. My charge is in my care more than she is with both parents, alone and together. I'm not going to let anyone insult me with little jabs - boss or not. I think I'm going to stick to what the responses said. Be aloof and only give feedback when asked. We wroe everything down so she sees her daily routine.

In any profession your bosses don't have to like you but it is different being a nanny. I'm not the woman/man below my boss in the office, I am the woman helping raise her child. I this world many nannies often time spend more waking hours with a child than the mother and father. It is something to worry about and I feel you are missing the whole point of what OP is getting at. It's a very personal relationship when you welcome someone into your home, into your family, to help raise your child. This is an incredibly rough and rewarding job. It's important for nannies to bond with every person in the household to feel like " family". It's imperative I work for employers who appreciate, respect, and yes, like me!