Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The only job I ever quit because of unhappiness was for a MB who had 3 kids, one with special needs, and she focused all her time, attention, and love on the two typical children and ignored the third. It hurt my heart too much to stay with them, I couldn't keep feeling like I was the only person who cared for that sweet child.

But by quitting the job, you in a sense, abandoned that sweet child too thus a double whammy.

Indeed, but at some point, healthy boundaries are essential. The nanny eventually had to do the right thing, and she did. Good for her.

No nanny can fix a disfunctional mother who doesn't want to get the help she needs.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The only job I ever quit because of unhappiness was for a MB who had 3 kids, one with special needs, and she focused all her time, attention, and love on the two typical children and ignored the third. It hurt my heart too much to stay with them, I couldn't keep feeling like I was the only person who cared for that sweet child.

But by quitting the job, you in a sense, abandoned that sweet child too thus a double whammy.

True, and it weighed on me. But really what are my choices? Stay with them for the next decade to make up for his shitty mother? There's sad things going on all over the world, and I can't save everyone I meet. I need to go on with my life and be happy.

If there was an endgame in sight, like I thought I could convince her to let a family that would give him the attention he needed adopt him, then I might have stayed for a while, but to just keep the status quo and try to make up for her shortcomings is not something I can do longterm.