Anonymous wrote:I have very pushy employers as well. I also live within walking distance and I once offered on a Saturday and ran over and to help give the MB give the baby tylenol after her vaccines (it is a two person job with this baby) and the DH was working - of course I didn't expect to be paid. The very next day, DH called and asked me to run over and help him give the older child a bath - luckily I didn't pick up and later told them I wasn't home. The first favor was more of an emergency and I didn't want the baby to feel pain/be uncomfortable. The second request was a lazy, inept father and not an emergency. This kind of thing happens all the time - I do something once and I'm immediately asked to do it again.

Neither of these was an emergency. Let your phone calls go to voicemail on your off hours.

I have very pushy employers as well. I also live within walking distance and I once offered on a Saturday and ran over and to help give the MB give the baby tylenol after her vaccines (it is a two person job with this baby) and the DH was working - of course I didn't expect to be paid. The very next day, DH called and asked me to run over and help him give the older child a bath - luckily I didn't pick up and later told them I wasn't home. The first favor was more of an emergency and I didn't want the baby to feel pain/be uncomfortable. The second request was a lazy, inept father and not an emergency. This kind of thing happens all the time - I do something once and I'm immediately asked to do it again.

Entitled MB. Start looking for other work. Dont tell MB and give her only the standard amount of notice. Do tell her why you are leaving when it happens.

My rule of thumb is to trust the parents until they have given me a reason not to. So, yes, I will do occasional favors including being flexible with my time. In this case, it sounds like they are not able to treat your generosity with respect. That is your reason not to. Give yourself permission to not be anybody's door mat.

"Give them an inch and they'll take a yard." You cannot do favors for some people. If you love your charge and generally like your job, I would say never do anything outside of your job for them again - no more favors at all.

Anonymous wrote:You sound like a good person, OP, and a dedicated nanny. I'm sorry you are working for people who will never know how good they had it until you are gone.

I agree. You do sound like a dedicated nanny and I'm sorry the parents are such jerks. There are some parents you cannot ever do any favor for without it becoming a part of your job. Although it is not in your nature, I'd refrain from ever doing any favor or additional chore for them regardless of their situation or need.

Anonymous wrote:You sound like a good person, OP, and a dedicated nanny. I'm sorry you are working for people who will never know how good they had it until you are gone.

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You sound like a good person, OP, and a dedicated nanny. I'm sorry you are working for people who will never know how good they had it until you are gone.

Even if they are first time parents OP, that is still no excuse for them to pressure you into doing something that you know is not part or shouldn't be part of your nanny duties. Shame on them for trying to put one over you and get their money's worth. Their actions speak a lot of the type of people they are...Regarding their characters and I wouldn't want to work for anyone who didn't respect enough to just appreciate me for what I was already doing for them.

I say you should actively look for another position. If not, this family will continue to pressure you to do things that you are not comfortable with. Who needs that extra stress??! There are plenty of nice and decent families out there who truly respect their nannies and treat them like family and you will never get the chance to work for any of them if you continue to tie yourself down with this family.

Good luck.

These "parents" really know how to take advantage of you nannies.