These parents ought to be kissing your feet for allowing them to chase their careers.

I hate it when nannies get taken advantage of and people blame the nannies and say it is always the nannies fault for letting them get taken advantage of. I think it works both ways, but I blame the families first. Always.

It is the family's responsibility to treat their nanny fairly. To agree to the original contract, to pay their nanny a fair and decent wage, on time and to not add any extra duties to her job w/out prior consent or extra pay.

When they do this to a nanny, it sometimes is hard for the nanny to stand up for herself because she is then put between a rock and a hard stone.
She is already gainfully employed by this family and is now afraid to stand up for her self for fear of losing her job, her source of income. She most likely has rent to pay, bills coming up soon and children to feed. She has too much to lose by opening up her mouth and I suspect many families know this.

Anonymous wrote:You want a raise or a bonus? Go above and beyond.

Did you even read the thread? Its about how going above and beyond often results in squat. Zippo. Zilch. Going above and beyond *may* get you a raise or a bonus, if your bosses have a clue, but it may also leave you with an ever expanding list of expectations and employers that are actually more disatisfied because they become accustomed to getting more than they're paying for. This is my current situation, and at my next job I will do only my job, but do it to the absolute best of my ability. I would hope a bonus would be given for excellent performance, above and beyond, within the scope of my actual job, not withheld for things that aren't my job. I would also negotiate raises based on expanding responsibilities related to my actual job, ie. dropping a nap means more activities to plan, potty training, more extensive meal planning and prep as kids age, etc. not because I started doing the parent's laundry in the hope they might notice and be grateful. I'm done buying into the household chores = above and beyond = raises/bonuses BS. I'll do my job excellently, and if that is not enough, its a problem with you, not me.

Anonymous wrote:You want a raise or a bonus? Go above and beyond.

It has never worked that way for me. You go above and beyond and "above and beyond" become part of your job. If you aren't able to finish "above and beyond" chore they act like you failed. Do you job as agreed upon BRILLIANTLY and you'll get your raise and bonus - don't add more to your plate.

You want a raise or a bonus? Go above and beyond.

Common complaint. Live and learn. The hardest part to get over is that these are generally women who are exploiting other women.