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Anonymous wrote:The only time I've ever laid on an employers bed was at my first nanny job caring for a newborn and preschooler. I had been folding launry on the parents bed (was told to fold it there) when the baby (about 6 mo old at this point) got sick and was vomiting. I laid across the foot of the bed to comfort him while he was laying down. I had called the mom who said she'd come home. When she came home I was laying across the foot of the bed with the baby and she told me to take naps on the couch. Um, I wasn't napping, I was comforting your puking infant and trying to get some laundry done in the process here and there. I don't know what was weirder, the fact she thought it was OK for an adult to nap on the job or the fact she didn't want me laying across the foot of her bed with a sick baby. A few months later they had some SUPER ANNOYING friends come from NYC for a visit and they literally napped in the parents bed. I had to chuckle because I knew if MB knew she'd flip.

Baby should not be in their bed alone and it is a strange place for you to fold laundry.

learn how to read dumb ass.

Why do you need to sleep during the day? Completely ridiculous.

ha ha. Ive napped in my bosses bed with their kid and they know it and don't care. Some people are tightly wound.

What is wrong with you people? MB here and I can totally see why you wouldn't want someone sleeping in (or on) your bed on a regular basis. Geez -- I would even want to know if my own mother were doing this.

But the solution is simple. Our nanny uses our guest bedroom for this purpose. If we have guests we wash things, but don't need to do it regularly. Assuming you have a guest room, there's really no issue. And my sense is that asking her to use the guest room will not be the least bit offensive. My nanny also uses that room to rest, etc, when DD is sleeping.

And no, having a bed to "rest" during your job is not a basic human right, PPs. I certainly don't have this at my job. That said, I'm happy to provide it given a) the nature of the job sch that cosleeping or resting might sometimes make sense and b) that our nanny does have downtime during the little one's nap.

I really fail to understand where the crazy people on this board come from. Sure I'll be flamed for this, but really you ruin it for the people who do hope to have a rational discussion and respectful relationships between employer and employee.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't think the OP's post was about touching the comforter, she was instead bothered by somebody sleeping in her bed. Completely reasonable. I don't want people in my bed and I think that's an okay choice bc it's my bed and it's where I sleep

You're putting words in OPs mouth, and ignoring the ones she did use. She said "gross" and indicated that the nanny ought to have washed the comforter she laid on. That indicates that the nanny was not "in" the bed per se, rather she was laying on top of the comforter. Fine to say, please stay out of our room, but OPs post had an heir of classism, or racism, or whatever it is about her nanny that makes her touch disgusting to OP.

It's 'air' not 'heir' and you sound a bit sensitive. Nowhere did I see any racism in OP's post

I corrected it genius. Sometimes when you're typing you type the wrong word. I didn't say there was racism in OPs post, I just said there is obviously SOMETHING about her nanny that she finds beneath her, and therefore "gross" that she touched and did not wash the comforter. I wouldn't like it if someone in my home slept in my bed uninvited, so I get that, but I would find it an invasion of privacy, not "gross", unless I felt that person was "gross".

She didn't say she thought the nanny was gross. Now you are putting words in her mouth. I don't like when anyone lies on my side of the bed including my husband. When I am in a hotel I never even sit on the bed with the comforter on because it is gross. If OP is anything like me it has nothing to do with the nanny specifically but would feel that way about ANYONE lying on her bed.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't think the OP's post was about touching the comforter, she was instead bothered by somebody sleeping in her bed. Completely reasonable. I don't want people in my bed and I think that's an okay choice bc it's my bed and it's where I sleep

You're putting words in OPs mouth, and ignoring the ones she did use. She said "gross" and indicated that the nanny ought to have washed the comforter she laid on. That indicates that the nanny was not "in" the bed per se, rather she was laying on top of the comforter. Fine to say, please stay out of our room, but OPs post had an heir of classism, or racism, or whatever it is about her nanny that makes her touch disgusting to OP.

It's 'air' not 'heir' and you sound a bit sensitive. Nowhere did I see any racism in OP's post

I corrected it genius. Sometimes when you're typing you type the wrong word. I didn't say there was racism in OPs post, I just said there is obviously SOMETHING about her nanny that she finds beneath her, and therefore "gross" that she touched and did not wash the comforter. I wouldn't like it if someone in my home slept in my bed uninvited, so I get that, but I would find it an invasion of privacy, not "gross", unless I felt that person was "gross".

Anonymous wrote:The only time I've ever laid on an employers bed was at my first nanny job caring for a newborn and preschooler. I had been folding launry on the parents bed (was told to fold it there) when the baby (about 6 mo old at this point) got sick and was vomiting. I laid across the foot of the bed to comfort him while he was laying down. I had called the mom who said she'd come home. When she came home I was laying across the foot of the bed with the baby and she told me to take naps on the couch. Um, I wasn't napping, I was comforting your puking infant and trying to get some laundry done in the process here and there. I don't know what was weirder, the fact she thought it was OK for an adult to nap on the job or the fact she didn't want me laying across the foot of her bed with a sick baby. A few months later they had some SUPER ANNOYING friends come from NYC for a visit and they literally napped in the parents bed. I had to chuckle because I knew if MB knew she'd flip.

Baby should not be in their bed alone and it is a strange place for you to fold laundry.

The only time I've ever laid on an employers bed was at my first nanny job caring for a newborn and preschooler. I had been folding launry on the parents bed (was told to fold it there) when the baby (about 6 mo old at this point) got sick and was vomiting. I laid across the foot of the bed to comfort him while he was laying down. I had called the mom who said she'd come home. When she came home I was laying across the foot of the bed with the baby and she told me to take naps on the couch. Um, I wasn't napping, I was comforting your puking infant and trying to get some laundry done in the process here and there. I don't know what was weirder, the fact she thought it was OK for an adult to nap on the job or the fact she didn't want me laying across the foot of her bed with a sick baby. A few months later they had some SUPER ANNOYING friends come from NYC for a visit and they literally napped in the parents bed. I had to chuckle because I knew if MB knew she'd flip.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't think the OP's post was about touching the comforter, she was instead bothered by somebody sleeping in her bed. Completely reasonable. I don't want people in my bed and I think that's an okay choice bc it's my bed and it's where I sleep

You're putting words in OPs mouth, and ignoring the ones she did use. She said "gross" and indicated that the nanny ought to have washed the comforter she laid on. That indicates that the nanny was not "in" the bed per se, rather she was laying on top of the comforter. Fine to say, please stay out of our room, but OPs post had an heir of classism, or racism, or whatever it is about her nanny that makes her touch disgusting to OP.

It's 'air' not 'heir' and you sound a bit sensitive. Nowhere did I see any racism in OP's post

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Anonymous wrote:I don't think the OP's post was about touching the comforter, she was instead bothered by somebody sleeping in her bed. Completely reasonable. I don't want people in my bed and I think that's an okay choice bc it's my bed and it's where I sleep

You're putting words in OPs mouth, and ignoring the ones she did use. She said "gross" and indicated that the nanny ought to have washed the comforter she laid on. That indicates that the nanny was not "in" the bed per se, rather she was laying on top of the comforter. Fine to say, please stay out of our room, but OPs post had an heir of classism, or racism, or whatever it is about her nanny that makes her touch disgusting to OP.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't think the OP's post was about touching the comforter, she was instead bothered by somebody sleeping in her bed. Completely reasonable. I don't want people in my bed and I think that's an okay choice bc it's my bed and it's where I sleep

You're putting words in OPs mouth, and ignoring the ones she did use. She said "gross" and indicated that the nanny ought to have washed the comforter she laid on. That indicates that the nanny was not "in" the bed per se, rather she was laying on top of the comforter. Fine to say, please stay out of our room, but OPs post had an heir of classism, or racism, or whatever it is about her nanny that makes her touch disgusting to OP.

Anonymous wrote:I don't think the OP's post was about touching the comforter, she was instead bothered by somebody sleeping in her bed. Completely reasonable. I don't want people in my bed and I think that's an okay choice bc it's my bed and it's where I sleep

+1 I am not comfortable sleeping in any family's bed. Even for overnighters, I have a few families without a spare bedroom who tell me to sleep on their bed but I always choose to sleep on the floor - with cover underneath - or sofa, also with a cover under it.

I don't think the OP's post was about touching the comforter, she was instead bothered by somebody sleeping in her bed. Completely reasonable. I don't want people in my bed and I think that's an okay choice bc it's my bed and it's where I sleep