One word of advice for you OP.

Quit.


#easyaspie

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My MB is a SAHM, she does nothing all day except workout, eat and shop. She helps drive kids to activities in the evenings. She signs her children up for way too many activities just to keep them occupied and out of her hair. And when I get there she has me do things that have never been in my job description. I.e. organize clutter, do her dishes, walk dogs, mend things. I feel more like a personal slave than nanny. Every day I arrive, there is a list of things to do that have nothing to do with being a nanny or the children. What are your limits? Where have MBs overstepped? And how did you fix it/handle it?

As long as you are being paid, you are not a slave. You sound like someone who is very resentful of her employer. You have three choices, suck it up and do what she asks, sit down with her and talk about what you should and should not be doing, or quit your job. Yes, it isn't always the easiest thing to talk to your boss, but nothing will change if you say nothing.

What a disgusting attitude. Shame on you.

And why is this a disgusting attitude? Is it better to say to the OP that she has a horrible boss and say she is not at fault for any of this? People throw around the slave word without having any concept of what it really means to be a slave. Is she being whipped until her inch of he back is bloodied because she didn't do something right? Is she being forced to do this job without being paid for it? Then chances are good that she isn't a slave.
And yes, OP has three choices she can choose from. She can line up a new job and quit and learn from her mistakes with this job. Sorry if I didn't pamper the OP enough for you.

Anonymous wrote:Basically you are jealous that MB is not working and has lots of free time because of hired help. So, what exactly do you see as your job description?

Try again.

Basically you are jealous that MB is not working and has lots of free time because of hired help. So, what exactly do you see as your job description?

Anonymous wrote:When MB asks me to do things outside my job description I do them very poorly. She has stopped asking me to cook for her and DB (finally) after purposely ruining several recipes. I've been at my job 5 years and I learned early on not to start doing ANYTHING unless I want it to be part of my job (now I have to grocery shop, organize, sew etc because early on I wanted to be helpful but now it's just job creep). So yeah, I do my job description and I do it well, but f*** that I'm not cooking you complicated gluten free bullshit dinners every night when it's not for the kids.

So true - "begin as you mean to continue" and "give an inch and they'll take a yard".

Anonymous wrote:When MB asks me to do things outside my job description I do them very poorly. She has stopped asking me to cook for her and DB (finally) after purposely ruining several recipes. I've been at my job 5 years and I learned early on not to start doing ANYTHING unless I want it to be part of my job (now I have to grocery shop, organize, sew etc because early on I wanted to be helpful but now it's just job creep). So yeah, I do my job description and I do it well, but f*** that I'm not cooking you complicated gluten free bullshit dinners every night when it's not for the kids.

This is exactly what many of us had to learn the hard way. Very unfortunate, but true.

When MB asks me to do things outside my job description I do them very poorly. She has stopped asking me to cook for her and DB (finally) after purposely ruining several recipes. I've been at my job 5 years and I learned early on not to start doing ANYTHING unless I want it to be part of my job (now I have to grocery shop, organize, sew etc because early on I wanted to be helpful but now it's just job creep). So yeah, I do my job description and I do it well, but f*** that I'm not cooking you complicated gluten free bullshit dinners every night when it's not for the kids.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My MB is a SAHM, she does nothing all day except workout, eat and shop. She helps drive kids to activities in the evenings. She signs her children up for way too many activities just to keep them occupied and out of her hair. And when I get there she has me do things that have never been in my job description. I.e. organize clutter, do her dishes, walk dogs, mend things. I feel more like a personal slave than nanny. Every day I arrive, there is a list of things to do that have nothing to do with being a nanny or the children. What are your limits? Where have MBs overstepped? And how did you fix it/handle it?

As long as you are being paid, you are not a slave. You sound like someone who is very resentful of her employer. You have three choices, suck it up and do what she asks, sit down with her and talk about what you should and should not be doing, or quit your job. Yes, it isn't always the easiest thing to talk to your boss, but nothing will change if you say nothing.

What a disgusting attitude. Shame on you.

Anonymous wrote:My MB is a SAHM, she does nothing all day except workout, eat and shop. She helps drive kids to activities in the evenings. She signs her children up for way too many activities just to keep them occupied and out of her hair. And when I get there she has me do things that have never been in my job description. I.e. organize clutter, do her dishes, walk dogs, mend things. I feel more like a personal slave than nanny. Every day I arrive, there is a list of things to do that have nothing to do with being a nanny or the children. What are your limits? Where have MBs overstepped? And how did you fix it/handle it?

As long as you are being paid, you are not a slave. You sound like someone who is very resentful of her employer. You have three choices, suck it up and do what she asks, sit down with her and talk about what you should and should not be doing, or quit your job. Yes, it isn't always the easiest thing to talk to your boss, but nothing will change if you say nothing.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She isn't incompetent. She hired you to do the things she does not want to do. If the family can afford it, then where is the problem. You get a job. Don't like it... quit. Problem solved.

There is no problem with what you describe, if it were truly the case. As it were, OP was hired as a child care provider and is being asked to do things that were not in the job description. You don't advertise for an electrician, then ask him to also cook your dinner, then flippantly dismiss his frustration, remind him of your money and apparent entitlement to whatever you want, and tell him to be happy for a job, even if its not the one he wanted.

Most job descriptions have: Other duties not described... if you are not flexible you are out of a job. I don't know anyone that is able to say no. I've never actually done what I was hired to do in a job... who cares... you work for money, not pleasure.

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Anonymous wrote:She isn't incompetent. She hired you to do the things she does not want to do. If the family can afford it, then where is the problem. You get a job. Don't like it... quit. Problem solved.

There is no problem with what you describe, if it were truly the case. As it were, OP was hired as a child care provider and is being asked to do things that were not in the job description. You don't advertise for an electrician, then ask him to also cook your dinner, then flippantly dismiss his frustration, remind him of your money and apparent entitlement to whatever you want, and tell him to be happy for a job, even if its not the one he wanted.

Yawn.

14:38 get off the computer and go back to trying to catch your husband screwing the nanny, you bitter bitch.