Anonymous
Post 02/27/2014 12:54     Subject: Asking our nanny to move in for a month or two
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't structure it as paying his rent, but offering him higher compensation for the extra hours and work so he can maintain his apartment as you hope it is a temporary arrangement.

I don't get the drama about doing someone else's laundry. Use gloves if you are grossed out.


Okay, say something happens and your live in nanny is bedridden temporarily. If you offered to help out, and she asked if you'd take care of her laundry, it wouldn't feel weird at all? Not too personal? You could still have a professional conversation with her after handling her period stained thongs? That'd be cool with you?

As for paying his rent, that is an absolute necessity OP if you want him to be able to say yes. And it should be in addition to any extra compensation. Asking someone to give up their space to help you out is a huge ask of someone, and he should not be paying his rent while he lives with you. But I know exactly which poster you are, and I know you're going to cheap out. I can't help but think Karma is a huge bitch.


I would not offer. We just do it. I would bring 3 meals a day and snacks and make her as comfortable as possible. I would change the sheets and clean her bathroom. You treat someone how you want to be treated. The kids see everything. Both of you caring for each other sends a strong message. I have no issue with laundry. I will sometimes throw hers in with ours and I usually do her towels with outs.

Powhatan I said was to compensate for the extra time. It is strange to pay rent. That us the cheap way out.
Anonymous
Post 02/27/2014 12:22     Subject: Asking our nanny to move in for a month or two
I'd look at having him free Friday night to Monday morning and have a weekend sitter help out. Or maybe he could take the kids to his place sone of the time so he gets to be at home and so he isn't constantly around you guys. It's much harder to work with the bosses around all the time .
Anonymous
Post 02/27/2014 10:41     Subject: Asking our nanny to move in for a month or two
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't structure it as paying his rent, but offering him higher compensation for the extra hours and work so he can maintain his apartment as you hope it is a temporary arrangement.

I don't get the drama about doing someone else's laundry. Use gloves if you are grossed out.


Okay, say something happens and your live in nanny is bedridden temporarily. If you offered to help out, and she asked if you'd take care of her laundry, it wouldn't feel weird at all? Not too personal? You could still have a professional conversation with her after handling her period stained thongs? That'd be cool with you?

As for paying his rent, that is an absolute necessity OP if you want him to be able to say yes. And it should be in addition to any extra compensation. Asking someone to give up their space to help you out is a huge ask of someone, and he should not be paying his rent while he lives with you. But I know exactly which poster you are, and I know you're going to cheap out. I can't help but think Karma is a huge bitch.


Well I don't know about you, but I do not have an period or otherwise stained underwear. Oh and I'm not the PP BTW. Although I did write in saying I would be fine with laundry, rent should be paid, and that they need to structure out the hours/look into hiring a babysitter or someone to give the nanny breaks as 1-2 months of this would be a lot for one person to handle.
Anonymous
Post 02/27/2014 10:33     Subject: Asking our nanny to move in for a month or two
Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't structure it as paying his rent, but offering him higher compensation for the extra hours and work so he can maintain his apartment as you hope it is a temporary arrangement.

I don't get the drama about doing someone else's laundry. Use gloves if you are grossed out.


Okay, say something happens and your live in nanny is bedridden temporarily. If you offered to help out, and she asked if you'd take care of her laundry, it wouldn't feel weird at all? Not too personal? You could still have a professional conversation with her after handling her period stained thongs? That'd be cool with you?

As for paying his rent, that is an absolute necessity OP if you want him to be able to say yes. And it should be in addition to any extra compensation. Asking someone to give up their space to help you out is a huge ask of someone, and he should not be paying his rent while he lives with you. But I know exactly which poster you are, and I know you're going to cheap out. I can't help but think Karma is a huge bitch.
Anonymous
Post 02/27/2014 10:21     Subject: Asking our nanny to move in for a month or two
I wouldn't structure it as paying his rent, but offering him higher compensation for the extra hours and work so he can maintain his apartment as you hope it is a temporary arrangement.

I don't get the drama about doing someone else's laundry. Use gloves if you are grossed out.