Anonymous wrote:I hope you are nice and good I have met nannies treated like slaves, little salary, no sleep at night have to watch kids, had to buy groceries no food at home, I should of reported this, there are still slaves in this time and age

No, they are not slaves. They can quit their jobs and are free to leave. Slaves did not have that opportunity. I also have nanny friends who have been in terrible situations, and I've been in pretty bad ones myself....but we are nowhere near the same as slaves.

I hope you are nice and good I have met nannies treated like slaves, little salary, no sleep at night have to watch kids, had to buy groceries no food at home, I should of reported this, there are still slaves in this time and age

How obnoxious of you to think you are telling some kind of "Dtruth".


Are you OP? The trutb is never obnoxious, never rude, it has hurt you to the quick. The truth is its own defense. The truth will set you free.

I think the point is you're not telling the truth. You're sharing your anonymous opinion in a very nasty way on the internet.

You are nothing special.

OP, you are as full of it as a Christmas goose.

This is OP. I was not poster on 20:25. I have refrained coming back on here because I am appalled at the quick judgement and nastiness that I found on this thread. Those of you that had good suggestions, thank you. Those of you that jumped to quick conclusions and judgement, including using nasty names, I don't even know what to say. How sad! I am a service member in the honorable service of our country. I am aware of the law, and my rights and responsibilities as an employer. I am also open and honest with my nanny about what the situation will be. Staying with my parents is one option, but of course, we are looking at other options, including a hotel room for her near by, or a house to rent for us. I was simply looking for suggestions and the attaks were simply uncalled for. I do understand now why the posters on the forum have such a bad reputation.

Anonymous wrote:How obnoxious of you to think you are telling some kind of "Dtruth".

Are you OP? The trutb is never obnoxious, never rude, it has hurt you to the quick. The truth is its own defense. The truth will set you free.

How obnoxious of you to think you are telling some kind of "truth".

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Anonymous wrote:I am calling OP what she is. I cannot imagine asking a woman from another country\culture. (Possibly 3rd world where women are far more modest) to sleep in a space that affords no privacy. It is one thing if this is family or close friends for a few days but for three months. My mother travelled with a maid all over the world and she (maid) always had her own room. I am sick of the "she's pregnant and she can be as rude as.she likes" and "she just gave birth and she can be as selfish and mean as she likes."
I have three children and recovery from giving birth, even a c-section, doesn't take that long.

you are simply very rude.

The truth hurts but it is not rude.

Anonymous wrote:I am calling OP what she is. I cannot imagine asking a woman from another country\culture. (Possibly 3rd world where women are far more modest) to sleep in a space that affords no privacy. It is one thing if this is family or close friends for a few days but for three months. My mother travelled with a maid all over the world and she (maid) always had her own room. I am sick of the "she's pregnant and she can be as rude as.she likes" and "she just gave birth and she can be as selfish and mean as she likes."
I have three children and recovery from giving birth, even a c-section, doesn't take that long.

you are simply very rude.

If where you're planning to stay doesn't have quite enough room for you, toddler, newborn, nanny, and grandparents, then you can rent out a nearby place on airbnb to get some extra space - either for you or the nanny.

Anonymous wrote:There is a special category of visa that allows US citizen to temporarily bring domestic worker who worked for the US citizen abroad to continue the same duties in US. OP is correct that it is B1 visa but with a special mark that is put in the embassy that indeed allows her work only for the US citizen. Several things needs to be proven in the embassy to obtain such a visa, and OP probably researched that subject well. So no one has to lie to anyone about anything.

She didn't say anything about a special category of visas. She said it's a B1/B2 and it's OK to work because it's for "tourism and business." And the fact is, it's not the B1/B2 that makes it OK to work, it's something else. There was nothing in her post about a special mark so don't blame the other poster for reacting to the information OP provided (or not).

I am calling OP what she is. I cannot imagine asking a woman from another country\culture. (Possibly 3rd world where women are far more modest) to sleep in a space that affords no privacy. It is one thing if this is family or close friends for a few days but for three months. My mother travelled with a maid all over the world and she (maid) always had her own room. I am sick of the "she's pregnant and she can be as rude as.she likes" and "she just gave birth and she can be as selfish and mean as she likes."
I have three children and recovery from giving birth, even a c-section, doesn't take that long.

Anonymous wrote:We are critical because OP comes across as a selfish, mean bitch who treats her nanny as though she is a child of a lesser god. As wassuggested up thread, OP should sleep in basement with her brood.

I do not think the plan made by OP is very good (I think the nanny should have her own room, the first child could sleep with the grandparents, my kids did it when we were living in a 2bd apt and my parents or ILs came to visit). however, I am appalled by the rudeness of poeple like this poster calling OP a "mean bitch" and "brood" her kids. it is possible to disagree and express one's opinion without being so offensive. usually people who need to use this kind of language don't know how to support their opinions othewise

OP will just have given birth, I think we can allow her and her DH and the newborn the luxury of a bedroom, my goodness.

OP, it won't be very comfortable for her - but assuming there isn't a lot else going on in the basement (i.e. laundry, grandpa's workshop, an extra freezer you'll need to get into frequently...) then the privacy will offset the lack of comfortable accommodations. If there is a lot going on, please take PPs advice and offer your nanny/request from your parents some extended "quiet time" where no on goes into the basement or makes a ruckus above. This should include at least two hours before she normally goes to bed and should end no later than half an hour before she's expected to start work.

You should talk to your nanny and see what she'd like. If it were me I'd want some screens, like others mentioned, a comfortable chair to sit in (otherwise all her off time will be spent sitting in bed??), and some kind of table or desk (with chair) - also please ensure the wifi works in the basement!