Anonymous
Post 02/06/2014 17:00     Subject: asking for pay check on Monday instead of Friday ... frowned upon or ok ?
11:43, I think less of you because you did nof check traffic and leavd 20 minutes earlier so you were not late. I bet you run into "traffic" problems on a daily basis, don't you?
Anonymous
Post 02/06/2014 11:43     Subject: asking for pay check on Monday instead of Friday ... frowned upon or ok ?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:MB here. If you want your pay day to change from Friday to Monday (meaning on Monday you'd get paid for the prior week) that would be fine. But if you're asking for an advance (to get paid for time you haven't yet worked) I would say no and also think poorly of you.

Never make your personal problems your boss's problems.


You are a real horse's ass, PP. She has an emergency. How many times have you hadto adk na.ny to accommodate an emergency for you? FWIW, I am not a nanny but I am an understanding person.


Asking a nanny to stay an extra 20 minutes because a traffic accident has delayed my getting home is wildly different than asking for money not yet earned. I would NEVER ask my nanny to let me pay her a week late because I have some sort of financial emergency.
Anonymous
Post 02/06/2014 11:22     Subject: asking for pay check on Monday instead of Friday ... frowned upon or ok ?
Anonymous wrote:MB here. If you want your pay day to change from Friday to Monday (meaning on Monday you'd get paid for the prior week) that would be fine. But if you're asking for an advance (to get paid for time you haven't yet worked) I would say no and also think poorly of you.

Never make your personal problems your boss's problems.


You are a real horse's ass, PP. She has an emergency. How many times have you hadto adk na.ny to accommodate an emergency for you? FWIW, I am not a nanny but I am an understanding person.
Anonymous
Post 02/05/2014 12:56     Subject: asking for pay check on Monday instead of Friday ... frowned upon or ok ?
Sounds like OP's boss had no issue with it, as she predicted, so what is all the fuss about?
Anonymous
Post 02/05/2014 12:07     Subject: asking for pay check on Monday instead of Friday ... frowned upon or ok ?
Anonymous wrote:

I'm an MB, with a fantastic nanny who we value and trust. However we are far too privy to her personal issues and I very much wish she would keep more of those issues to herself. It is uncomfortable and awkward and makes us very aware of her limitations in areas outside her work responsibilities. And that's none of our business, but her constant over-sharing makes it our business and has significantly affected our perception of her. So just exercise caution.



This is true for us, too.

However, she is also reliable and I can't imagine she would "take the money and run," so I would have no problem with her asking. OP, if you have been as reliable as you say for 8-9 months now, I think they would have no problem with the advance unless they are sucky people.
Anonymous
Post 02/04/2014 23:49     Subject: asking for pay check on Monday instead of Friday ... frowned upon or ok ?
Whats "just not how she thinks"? ...as if the PP were some poor fool with no redeeming qualities. "She would have NEVER written that post!" *gasp!*
Anonymous
Post 02/03/2014 17:20     Subject: Re:asking for pay check on Monday instead of Friday ... frowned upon or ok ?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
MB here. If you want your pay day to change from Friday to Monday (meaning on Monday you'd get paid for the prior week) that would be fine. But if you're asking for an advance (to get paid for time you haven't yet worked) I would say no and also think poorly of you.

Never make your personal problems your boss's problems.

You are gross. That is the role of a boss, no? You make your problems known to your boss when you ask off for a sick day, leave early to pick up your kid, or have issues with co-workers.
Life happens- I think you are a poor person.
Just gross.


No, it is not the role of the boss to know your personal problems outside of your job. In fact, it is very unprofessional to make your personal problems your boss's issue.

So by your logic it should go both ways then, right? So next time you need your nanny to pick up things from the store because you were to busy the night before, or to stay late because you had an issue at work, or to help out when a parent is sick, they should just say "Um, those are your personal problems, deal with it on your own"? I'd love to see that happen.


Things like that wouldn't happen because we have a contract that addresses these issues. Any time we ask for anything outside of our contract DH and I always remind our nanny it's okay if she can't do it, and it honestly is. Usually we're giving her rights of first refusal - asking if she wants to house-sit/pet-sit for example. It's easy work for some extra money, and we're happy to give it to her, but if she's busy or uninterested we just go down the list to other people.

Saying you'd like to leave your office early because your kid is sick at school but it's understood you'll finish your work that evening, is VERY different from asking to be paid before you've done the work.




I'm none of the pps but just curious, it is ok to happen to you, MB, the need to ask something outside the scope of your contract and you say it is totally fine for nanny to say no, but when it is nanny's turn to ask YOU for help with something that is also outside the scope of your contract YOUR ANSWER is to THINK POORLY of her? that's a one way life highway you're driving, how is it going for you?


NP here. The things this MB are asking (if the nanny wants to work extra days to earn extra money) are HUGELY different than asking your boss for a loan. FWIW I would actually have no problem paying my nanny a few days early if she needed it but that's because she doesn't have the attitude so many of the nannies on here have. She would never have written the above post, that's just not how she thinks nor do I which is why we have a great relationship based on mutual respect.
Anonymous
Post 02/03/2014 17:00     Subject: Re:asking for pay check on Monday instead of Friday ... frowned upon or ok ?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
MB here. If you want your pay day to change from Friday to Monday (meaning on Monday you'd get paid for the prior week) that would be fine. But if you're asking for an advance (to get paid for time you haven't yet worked) I would say no and also think poorly of you.

Never make your personal problems your boss's problems.

You are gross. That is the role of a boss, no? You make your problems known to your boss when you ask off for a sick day, leave early to pick up your kid, or have issues with co-workers.
Life happens- I think you are a poor person.
Just gross.


No, it is not the role of the boss to know your personal problems outside of your job. In fact, it is very unprofessional to make your personal problems your boss's issue.

So by your logic it should go both ways then, right? So next time you need your nanny to pick up things from the store because you were to busy the night before, or to stay late because you had an issue at work, or to help out when a parent is sick, they should just say "Um, those are your personal problems, deal with it on your own"? I'd love to see that happen.


Things like that wouldn't happen because we have a contract that addresses these issues. Any time we ask for anything outside of our contract DH and I always remind our nanny it's okay if she can't do it, and it honestly is. Usually we're giving her rights of first refusal - asking if she wants to house-sit/pet-sit for example. It's easy work for some extra money, and we're happy to give it to her, but if she's busy or uninterested we just go down the list to other people.

Saying you'd like to leave your office early because your kid is sick at school but it's understood you'll finish your work that evening, is VERY different from asking to be paid before you've done the work.




I'm none of the pps but just curious, it is ok to happen to you, MB, the need to ask something outside the scope of your contract and you say it is totally fine for nanny to say no, but when it is nanny's turn to ask YOU for help with something that is also outside the scope of your contract YOUR ANSWER is to THINK POORLY of her? that's a one way life highway you're driving, how is it going for you?
Anonymous
Post 02/03/2014 11:45     Subject: asking for pay check on Monday instead of Friday ... frowned upon or ok ?
So you think it's okay that you asked for an advance because in the past your boss has screwed up. So basically you think two wrongs make a right. Great.
Anonymous
Post 02/03/2014 10:49     Subject: asking for pay check on Monday instead of Friday ... frowned upon or ok ?
Glad it worked out OP. BUt just fyi, to be paid in advance of the work is actually a loan. You haven't earned the pay yet, so if something happened and your job was terminated (or you quit) you would owe the employer the money that was advanced.

This is exactly why advancing pay (or leave) is prohibited by many employers - because in accounting terms it is a loan to the employee.
Anonymous
Post 02/03/2014 10:41     Subject: asking for pay check on Monday instead of Friday ... frowned upon or ok ?
Op here thanks for the responses i didn't think it would be as big of a deal because mb went out of town few weeks ago and gave me a check Tuesday and told me to cash it whenever I'd like .I'm not excepting a loan just my paycheck a few days early once. Which mb was totally fine with this morning or seemed it anyway she is occasionally a few days late with my reimbursement check with millage / overtime etc because she is so busy when she gets home in the evenings which i have always been ok with so figured it goes both ways. But i also didn't go into to many personal details with her about why after reading some of these responses so thanks everyone.