Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No one in her right mind hires an adolescent of either gender to be responsible for a toddler AND an infant, alone all day.

Maybe hubby can be on call to pitch in?

"Adolescence describes the teenage years between 13 and 19 and can be considered the transitional stage from childhood to adulthood. However, the physical and psychological changes that occur in adolescence can start earlier, during the preteen or "tween" years (ages 9-12)"

AFAIK, most APs are beyond adolescence.

Pediatricians are still tending to 21 years olds, since they've determined that the brain doesn't "mature" until about 26.

Anonymous wrote:No one in her right mind hires an adolescent of either gender to be responsible for a toddler AND an infant, alone all day.

Maybe hubby can be on call to pitch in?

"Adolescence describes the teenage years between 13 and 19 and can be considered the transitional stage from childhood to adulthood. However, the physical and psychological changes that occur in adolescence can start earlier, during the preteen or "tween" years (ages 9-12)"

AFAIK, most APs are beyond adolescence.

No one in her right mind hires an adolescent of either gender to be responsible for a toddler AND an infant, alone all day.

Maybe hubby can be on call to pitch in?

Anonymous wrote:get a male au pair

We have one now and believe me, it is payback for DS and all our beautiful female APs in the last because he spends four hours a day in the gym and is completely cut. Otoh, this doesn't mean I have even the slightest interest in him except as an excellent care provided for my children and an excellent housemate to DH and me. I can admire his abs without wanting to sleep with him, just as my husband could have admired our female APs all those years without having wanted to sleep with them.

Anonymous wrote:I travel for work overnight two nights per week and it's never occurred to me to worry about our au pair and my husband. Seriously. And we have had beautiful APs and seven of them.
DH is good looking but he's also 43. Our APs are interested in 20-something year olds, certainly not in someone who is the age of their fathers. Though honestly, I had no worries when DH was 30 either....

+1

My DH is good looking, funny and smart. But, so am I. Our APs have been lovely but they are adolescents. I'm not worried. If I had to be, I'd be thinking about a new husband, not changing childcare...

get a male au pair

So you commit to a foreign babysitter who you never really meet, to be responsible for a toddler and an infant?

I would also be more worried about her work load than the sexual predatory possibilities.

Find an ap with heavy baby experience. Go with APIA, APC or EurAuPair... agencies that have speciality au pairs with more experience. Also...an agency called Pro Au Pair has more expensive ones that are guaranteed to have more baby experience. If I had a newborn and toddler...I would highly consider them. But I have school aged kids and that would be overkill for me.

Don't let the nannies on here discourage you. Many of my other host mom friends have been successful with au pairs and your setup. Interview and screen carefully.

How big is your house, OP, and how separate can they be? Will your husband be tripping over them every time he wants a snack?

No, I think it's you'll [look] FINE by comparison. Like pick an ugly one and then you'll be [looking] fine.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just pick a overweight/ugly au pair and you'll be fine!! (pun intended)

Where's the pun?

Pick au pair (a pear)?

No smart woman leaves her husband home with another female for 8 hrs every day.

I don't think any APs will be beating down the door to your bedroom. He's probably not as great to other woman as he is to you.

Anonymous wrote:Seriously?

What a crazy post.

OP...get a grip.

OP has a pretty good grip on reality.

Seriously?

What a crazy post.

OP...get a grip.