Anonymous
01/09/2014 13:53
Subject: Re:For My Birthday I Got...
Anonymous wrote:Employer here looking for feedback.
My nanny started a week before her birthday. Even though we had only known her a week, we gave her handmade card from the kids and a gift certificate for $100 to Home Depot, since she and her DH had just bought their first house and she was telling me how they were DIYing things on weekends.
Then, this Christmas after she has been with us for 7 months, we gave her a nice Coach wallet (about $150), Christmas card made by DD, plus a week's salary as a bonus.
Both times, she said "Thanks" and that was the end of it. I didn't expect her to fall all over us, but I thought both gestures were thoughtful and I was surprised by how uninterested she seemed. Am I expecting too much?
Our last nanny was like this. She just wasn't an effusive person. I could tell she liked her gifts, though it would have been nice if she'd occasionally said her kids liked the gifts we got them for birthdays, Christmas, etc., since we didn't see them open them.
Anonymous
01/09/2014 12:27
Subject: For My Birthday I Got...
Happy birthday op! I have a dec. birthday too - my employers surprised me with a new down comforter! I was thrilled to say the least! Mi winters are very cold! Especially this week!
Hope you had a good birthday/holiday season!
Hope you had a good birthday/holiday season!
Anonymous
01/08/2014 22:29
Subject: Re:For My Birthday I Got...
Anonymous wrote:Employer here looking for feedback.
My nanny started a week before her birthday. Even though we had only known her a week, we gave her handmade card from the kids and a gift certificate for $100 to Home Depot, since she and her DH had just bought their first house and she was telling me how they were DIYing things on weekends.
Then, this Christmas after she has been with us for 7 months, we gave her a nice Coach wallet (about $150), Christmas card made by DD, plus a week's salary as a bonus.
Both times, she said "Thanks" and that was the end of it. I didn't expect her to fall all over us, but I thought both gestures were thoughtful and I was surprised by how uninterested she seemed. Am I expecting too much?
That is an unusually toned down response IMO. It lacks verve and vitality. However, if I've learned anything about people, it's that they're weird. Maybe she was surprised and flustered, maybe up until recently she'd been a Johovah's Witness and doesn't know how to handle birthday gifts, maybe she's just socially awkward. I was about 25 or 26 before I found out it's rude to not open a gift when someone gives it to you. Giving gifts should feel good. If it doesn't feel good when her next birthday rolls around, then give less.
Anonymous
01/08/2014 22:06
Subject: Re:For My Birthday I Got...
Employer here looking for feedback.
My nanny started a week before her birthday. Even though we had only known her a week, we gave her handmade card from the kids and a gift certificate for $100 to Home Depot, since she and her DH had just bought their first house and she was telling me how they were DIYing things on weekends.
Then, this Christmas after she has been with us for 7 months, we gave her a nice Coach wallet (about $150), Christmas card made by DD, plus a week's salary as a bonus.
Both times, she said "Thanks" and that was the end of it. I didn't expect her to fall all over us, but I thought both gestures were thoughtful and I was surprised by how uninterested she seemed. Am I expecting too much?
My nanny started a week before her birthday. Even though we had only known her a week, we gave her handmade card from the kids and a gift certificate for $100 to Home Depot, since she and her DH had just bought their first house and she was telling me how they were DIYing things on weekends.
Then, this Christmas after she has been with us for 7 months, we gave her a nice Coach wallet (about $150), Christmas card made by DD, plus a week's salary as a bonus.
Both times, she said "Thanks" and that was the end of it. I didn't expect her to fall all over us, but I thought both gestures were thoughtful and I was surprised by how uninterested she seemed. Am I expecting too much?
Anonymous
12/13/2013 19:58
Subject: Re:For My Birthday I Got...
Anonymous wrote:OP here. Thanks 19:47!
I'm located in NY 08:31.
It's nice to hear what great gifts you guys have received from your NF(s).
While I do enjoy receiving gifts, I more so love giving gifts. Things that they really like, and show that you've actually been paying attention to who they are as individuals. That's why I'm excited to give MB, DB, and the little one their Christmas gifts next week!!!
I love it it when i get it right!
Anonymous
12/13/2013 17:39
Subject: Re:For My Birthday I Got...
OP here. Thanks 19:47!
I'm located in NY 08:31.
It's nice to hear what great gifts you guys have received from your NF(s).
While I do enjoy receiving gifts, I more so love giving gifts. Things that they really like, and show that you've actually been paying attention to who they are as individuals. That's why I'm excited to give MB, DB, and the little one their Christmas gifts next week!!!
I'm located in NY 08:31.
It's nice to hear what great gifts you guys have received from your NF(s).
While I do enjoy receiving gifts, I more so love giving gifts. Things that they really like, and show that you've actually been paying attention to who they are as individuals. That's why I'm excited to give MB, DB, and the little one their Christmas gifts next week!!!
Anonymous
12/13/2013 15:48
Subject: Re:For My Birthday I Got...
I turned 25 a month ago and I came into work on my birthday to a happy birthday banner, card from MB and DB and a card from the kids and then a $100 gift certificate to a local spa and a red velvet cake in the refrigerator!
Anonymous
12/13/2013 12:10
Subject: For My Birthday I Got...
Gift certificate for a spa day !