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Anonymous wrote:How much $ do you spend on him flying back and forth for visits? This whole setup sounds so silly. Report back in a year on whether you're still married or not. He sure gets to live like a swinging bachelor down there.

We actually don't spend anything because my family has been giving us their sky miles

You obviously haven't been reading my posts because I mentioned we will be together in 6 months. I'm a Muslim and we waited until after our wedding night to have a physical relationship. "Dating" as it is currently practiced in much of the world does not exist among Muslims so I'm pretty sure I don't need to worry about my husband living like a "swinging bachelor". This lifestyle has really positive for a lot of us.

Anonymous wrote:How much $ do you spend on him flying back and forth for visits? This whole setup sounds so silly. Report back in a year on whether you're still married or not. He sure gets to live like a swinging bachelor down there.

We actually don't spend anything because my family has been giving us their sky miles

How much $ do you spend on him flying back and forth for visits? This whole setup sounds so silly. Report back in a year on whether you're still married or not. He sure gets to live like a swinging bachelor down there.

This must be really hard. Be positive! Summer will be here before you know it!

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Anonymous wrote:So you haven't seen your husband at all for visits or anything?

We see each other at the end of his semesters. He will be here for 2 weeks in December and in May he has a month off.

And we use skype video too

Anonymous wrote:So you haven't seen your husband at all for visits or anything?

We see each other at the end of his semesters. He will be here for 2 weeks in December and in May he has a month off.

So you haven't seen your husband at all for visits or anything?

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Anonymous wrote:Assuming this job pays as well as you say it does, Do they have space for you to be live in? If its only until next summer I would live in and save the money.

Where do you live and where is the job? I dont get why you would rent an hour and a half from where you work?

Also, how many hours a week are they paying you for?

After taxes I take home $2100/month and work 30 hours week. I am able to save about $1000/month

Definitely not down with being a living in nanny. Here are two reasons why I choose not to do this.

1) I like my privacy. Living with my employers would just give me too much information. I'm not a fan of my employers knowing my every move, from when I come back home to when I'm in the bathroom. I would never feel like I could fully relax in my own home- which would be a problem.

2) The expenses don't necessarily add up to a cost savings. Right now my rent is pretty cheap for the area. I pay $500/month (includes everything) and $40 for a monthly bus pass.

I take the bus to work and that's why it takes about 1.5 hours door to door. I live in Alexandria and my employers do as well. I also want to stay with my current job for at least a year because it will look good on my resume. When the next family sees that I have stayed with my current job for at least a year, they will see this as a really good thing. I may be job searching again in the summer if my husband gets a job offer in a different city.

Thanks for all your support. This isn't easy. It's been very difficult but I just need to hang in there until the summer. I know my husband is very grateful that I am here working and saving for our future. I will be able to help buy a car if we need one in the summer or help with the rent /moving expenses if we move to another city. My husand has no savings and is barely getting by now. He actually is on food stamps. I am going to try to make the most of my current job opportunity. I have planned to live with him sometime in the summer months even if that means moving to Hawaiii and being unemployed. I guess it's just a waiting game to see where he gets a job offer

Anonymous wrote:Assuming this job pays as well as you say it does, Do they have space for you to be live in? If its only until next summer I would live in and save the money.

Where do you live and where is the job? I dont get why you would rent an hour and a half from where you work?

Also, how many hours a week are they paying you for?

Assuming this job pays as well as you say it does, Do they have space for you to be live in? If its only until next summer I would live in and save the money.

Where do you live and where is the job? I dont get why you would rent an hour and a half from where you work?

Op can you not get a job like you have now in the same city as your husband? it just doesn't seem to make sense to be part when you are still so misereable and not making a lot of money. There is really no perk to being apart for you. I think that is why it is so hard.

I would move back to be with him and find work there, any kind of work just enough to make ends meet.

I am sorry op! That is a tough situation. Keeping you in my thoughts. Keep your chin up!

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Anonymous wrote:Are you the one with the husband living in North Carolina? That's so weird so live so far away from your HUSBAND!

NC is not 5,000 miles away

yes, it's SO weird that the girl doesn't want to unemployed, on food stamps and living off $90/month

op are you a nanny? how about getting a live in position (unless you are moving this summer that is)