Anonymous wrote:How many nannies actually asked their employers to be paid early. I am in Chicago and I have never heard of such an act being done. I am not saying that there aren't any nannies out there doing it, but do you think that they are asking on weekly basis? Either way it is unprofessional on both ends no matter how many times it is being asked.

I'm the OP of that comment. I actually meant it to be an argument against the practice of MBs expecting nannies to cover expenses.
I recall a few posts from nannies asking about pay advances or accidentally charging personal items on MB's credit card. Most of the MBs were recommending firing for these offenses. These nannies were called unprofessional, unreliable and were also considered to be capable of theft.
So now we have MBs who are saying, "but it's just a gallon of milk and bread. You're being petty. You're not trying to help your poor, busy overworked boss." Why is it considered shady and unprofessional when a nanny does it yet it's "just a gallon of milk and some bread" when it comes to MBs?

How many nannies actually asked their employers to be paid early. I am in Chicago and I have never heard of such an act being done. I am not saying that there aren't any nannies out there doing it, but do you think that they are asking on weekly basis? Either way it is unprofessional on both ends no matter how many times it is being asked.

So...when a nanny asks to be paid a few days early it's unprofessional but when an MB wants a nanny to pick up a few things at the grocery store and she'll reimburse you days later, it's just being a good employee?
Double standard much?

PP here. Just saw the post before this. I also thought the poster was also referring to lots of parents not just the one, if I read it wrong I apologize.

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Anonymous wrote:Parents on DCUM bitch about nannies being unprofessional and not deserving a break during the day....but you complain about a nanny not wanting to front you money for your stuff?
You can't have it both ways!!
If you want to treat us like employees, fine. Ask your mother to pick up your f**king milk.

Where are all the posts from MBs bitching that their nannies don't want to cover the cost of milk? All I see on this thread is a bunch of nannies spinning each other up.

Exactly. I have yet to see a post by an MB saying their nannies should cover the cost of anything. I've never expected my nanny to cover anything but when I try to give her money to take the children somewhere she won't take it. In the end I just add extra when I pay her and because she is so easy going it makes me want to be more generous and easy going with her. Certainly part of the problem these nannies are having are the MBs they work for but I can't help but think their complaining must come across in their attitude and the MBs are picking up on that too.

Anonymous wrote:Go back and re read pp. There was 1 MB with a very awful attitude. I think all the nannies are answering to that.

Gotcha. I read that post as if she was responding to tons of MBs complaining about this issue.

Go back and re read pp. There was 1 MB with a very awful attitude. I think all the nannies are answering to that.

Anonymous wrote:Parents on DCUM bitch about nannies being unprofessional and not deserving a break during the day....but you complain about a nanny not wanting to front you money for your stuff?
You can't have it both ways!!
If you want to treat us like employees, fine. Ask your mother to pick up your f**king milk.

Where are all the posts from MBs bitching that their nannies don't want to cover the cost of milk? All I see on this thread is a bunch of nannies spinning each other up.

Parents on DCUM bitch about nannies being unprofessional and not deserving a break during the day....but you complain about a nanny not wanting to front you money for your stuff?
You can't have it both ways!!
If you want to treat us like employees, fine. Ask your mother to pick up your f**king milk.

Unlike MB 15:16, some of these parents think it's only a couple of dollars. Wrong!!! It about principal. If it's only a couple of dollars then provide the couple of dollars. Also, What is I asked you to front me $25 for my gas to get to and from work until payday or anything else that may seem minor. Your going to look at me crazy! I wouldn't dare ask my employers to upfront me any some of money and neither should day.

Also, when I first started to nanny, there were days in which asking for me to pay for something that cost $5 was extremely stressful considering every single penny is accounted for with my personal expenses. Some of you believe that pay your nanny enough money and little do you guys know is that some of the nannies are actually living paycheck to paycheck.

Of course we'd prefer that more parents would be just like 15:16 MB.

Another way how the nanny acts like the responsible parent, and parents behave like irresponsible children. Sad.

Credit cards from employers are great !

I worked for a family once who only would fill the gas tank on the car once a week. I tracked every mile and the gas would not cover the whole week worth of child related driving I had to spend a minimum on 15 per week to just drive the basics not including play date here, park there, grocery store run. I asked about it and was told its always worked fine in the past and 1 tank a week covered it. Then saying so where extra am I going . I'm going nowhere I'm just stressing about how much I have to pay each week to do my job.

In terms of fronting money for field trips, pizza, milk ect I don't mind as long as I'm paid back. Bit I will admit it is more stressful. Many a times I haven't been paid back and 3-5 dollars here or there adds up real quick and personally makes me feel taken advantage of. Especially when I already spend alot on the kids I take care of with my own money. No I don't have to do it but when you show up to a play date with other kids at a place and the other kids get ice cream. I can't let my charges go without. An afternoon at the pool easy 20 bucks on the bare minimum.

MB here who gives her nanny a credit card in her name to purchase everything we need. Problem solved.

If you trust your nanny with your children, don't you trust her with your money, too?

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Anonymous wrote:It is not tight at all pp. I actually do not care about making a dollar profit from buying you a gallon of milk. What irks me is this sense of entitlement that you and for example, my MB have. You need me to go get milk? Then open your fucking wallet and get money out of it and do the right thing. Pay for it. Your nanny has zero obligation of covering your expenses till the next day even tho you are giving her "drummmmsss please" an extra dollar. Who cares about your dollar??? Pay for your own milk. IN ADVANCE, not after. It is annoying and I guarantee you your nanny finds it annoying one way or the other (she won't let you know if you ask either)

It's fucking milk. It's not like you are fronting money for their entire grocery bill. Are you that selfish that you can't pick up milk when you are out anyway because your MB forgot to leave $5? As long as they reimburse you for it in a timely manner, I don't see what the problem is. -from a nanny.

It's not about the amount spent, it's the action of expecting it to be paid for up front. Milk (or bread or cold medicine or diapers...you get the point) doesn't magically disappear. Presumably, the day before you are out of an item, you notice it running low. Have a bit of foresight and either pick it up yourself on the way home from work, or leave some cash for your nanny the morning said item is needed. It's that easy.
This, along with so many other lovely aspects of nannying, is one of those things that can get out of hand. Yes, one day it is milk, and within the year, it is the whole grocery bill (true story, an MB needed her $14/lb turkey picked up from Whole Foods and neglected to tell me it had not yet been paid for until I was at the store, fronting the bill for her $150 turkey).
ANNND, most nannies, contrary to the representations on this forum, are pretty generous people and feel petty asking to be paid back for $2-5 items. Just like most MBs conveniently "forget" to do so, so more often than not, it's not a matter of the nanny fronting the milk money, it's just her paying for it all together.