Anonymous
Post 11/05/2013 12:35     Subject: Gave notice and now work is hell
Anonymous wrote:OP, it sucks that they're acting immature about this, I completely agree. But it's only another week, right? Why fail to honor your commitment and COMPLETELY burn the bridge? Tell the father that you can't come in any earlier than your start time, of course - that's just ridiculous at this point. But fulfill your commitment and you'll feel better about yourself in the long run. Congrats on the new job!


especially since they are neighbors.
Anonymous
Post 10/26/2013 22:40     Subject: Gave notice and now work is hell
Anonymous wrote:I have decided to finish out the last week as I felt bad enough for having to leave even though they are not taking it well. I at least want to feel like I gave it the best I could and honored the notice I gave.


This is the right thing to do. Good choice. Hope the week isn't too awful - hold your head high. Hope the next job works out!
Anonymous
Post 10/26/2013 18:01     Subject: Gave notice and now work is hell
I have decided to finish out the last week as I felt bad enough for having to leave even though they are not taking it well. I at least want to feel like I gave it the best I could and honored the notice I gave.
Anonymous
Post 10/26/2013 17:56     Subject: Gave notice and now work is hell
OP here. Yes, perhaps I should not have taken this job. I regret it, but at the time, I did intend to stay as I do get a good amount of babysitting offers on the side to supplement. However, when the opportunity came along to take a child care job with set hours (not asking me to as flexible as this family did and no they did not mention this need up front to me), and make more than I would working multiple jobs, then yes, I took it. I have a daughter to care for and the more income I can make and the more time I can spend with her, the better. I do care for the kids I watch of course, but things happen sometimes and if it will make things better for my daughter, then I am going to do it.
Anonymous
Post 10/26/2013 16:42     Subject: Gave notice and now work is hell
People who care about their children make damn sure they pay and trest yheir nsnnies well so the nanny is happy.
Anonymous
Post 10/25/2013 20:43     Subject: Gave notice and now work is hell
Anonymous wrote:People who care about children are those who should be nannies, not a money hungry piece of caca employee like yourself. That's the problem here. People who don't give a crap about kids are lining up the be nannies. Because they don't care to begin with, they quit without a moment's thought about how that impacts the innocent person in the scheme- the child. As far as the troll comment, I'll go back to my bridge once you go back to your hole, rat!


Wow. You seem fun.
Anonymous
Post 10/25/2013 18:42     Subject: Gave notice and now work is hell
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:so...a person should work for substandard wages indefinitely simply because they accepted employment? They can never leave, never better themselves until the parents decide they're done with the nanny? That makes no sense whatsoever.


+1 and I'm an MB. I will say that there are some people on DCUM who frequently recommend that a nanny should just quit every time they come on here with a small complaint while at the same time constantly criticizing parents who want to fire a nanny because its bad for the children to change nannies. You can't have it both ways BUT there are also many circumstances in which its better to move on. It's reasonable for both a nanny to quit because it's better for her and for parents to fire a nanny because it's better for their family.


The difference, in my opinion, is that a nanny's duty is to herself and her own family and at the end of the day this is her job, while a parent's duty is to their family and the well being of their child. If a nanny is not good for your kid, by all means drop her, but if you're pissy because she reads during nap time, won't clean your house and its not in her duties, I think the actual care she provides for your kid is what's important and YOU shouldn't sever the relationship for stupid reasons. A nanny has every right to quit for stupid reasons. Hopefully she cares enough not to, but it is a job, and there are more kids in the world. Most of the time when a nanny on here complains its the MBs flippantly telling her to quit if she's not happy, no one is making her stay, not the nannies.


I'm the PP you quoted and I agree completely that it is stupid to fire a nanny because she won't clean the house etc. Basically I agree with all the reasons you listed. But I've seen several posts here with legitimate reasons for firing a nanny and someone always chimes in to tell the parents they clearly don't care about their children. I've also seen posts from nannies complaining because their otherwise great families did one thing they didn't like and they aren't sure what to do about it. Usually several MBs might suggest discussing it but there's always at least one nanny telling them to just quit.

I just wanted to clarify what I meant but I do agree with you it's different for nannies than parents and nannies don't have the same obligation to children that their parents do, which is why I think it's important for parents to treat the good nannies well so they don't want to quit.
Anonymous
Post 10/25/2013 16:54     Subject: Gave notice and now work is hell
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:so...a person should work for substandard wages indefinitely simply because they accepted employment? They can never leave, never better themselves until the parents decide they're done with the nanny? That makes no sense whatsoever.


+1 and I'm an MB. I will say that there are some people on DCUM who frequently recommend that a nanny should just quit every time they come on here with a small complaint while at the same time constantly criticizing parents who want to fire a nanny because its bad for the children to change nannies. You can't have it both ways BUT there are also many circumstances in which its better to move on. It's reasonable for both a nanny to quit because it's better for her and for parents to fire a nanny because it's better for their family.


The difference, in my opinion, is that a nanny's duty is to herself and her own family and at the end of the day this is her job, while a parent's duty is to their family and the well being of their child. If a nanny is not good for your kid, by all means drop her, but if you're pissy because she reads during nap time, won't clean your house and its not in her duties, I think the actual care she provides for your kid is what's important and YOU shouldn't sever the relationship for stupid reasons. A nanny has every right to quit for stupid reasons. Hopefully she cares enough not to, but it is a job, and there are more kids in the world. Most of the time when a nanny on here complains its the MBs flippantly telling her to quit if she's not happy, no one is making her stay, not the nannies.
Anonymous
Post 10/25/2013 16:53     Subject: Gave notice and now work is hell
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:People who care about children are those who should be nannies, not a money hungry piece of caca employee like yourself. That's the problem here. People who don't give a crap about kids are lining up the be nannies. Because they don't care to begin with, they quit without a moment's thought about how that impacts the innocent person in the scheme- the child. As far as the troll comment, I'll go back to my bridge once you go back to your hole, rat!



Go away troll. People nanny for a LIVING not just for your precious snowflake. The family is abusive and doesn't deserve a nanny.


I agree 100% that this person is a troll looking for trouble and needs to go away but don't assume it's an MB. I think there are crazy people on here, not nannies or MBs, either trying to make one or the other look bad or who just enjoy stirring up drama.


I disagree the poster is a troll. The poster is pointing out that nannies have a commitment to children that trumps the traditional employee/employer relationship. For someone to quit with callous disregard for the bond that a child has developed it disgusting and selfish. I think OP should not have taken the position to begin with if she felt that she was not being fairly compensated. She took a position, formed a bond with a child and developed a routine with the family that depended on her. Than, out of no where, she says, "I quit, it's my right. Bye!" How awful. I can understand that the family is upset, though they aren't handling the situation well. They just have to understand that many nannies don't care about making a commitment. In fact, many are just in it for the money. As a mom, I'd rather someone just came out and said that. It's a win-win when that happens. I wouldn't hire you because I'm looking for a committed professional and you wouldn't waste your time with me. This didn't have to be so hard OP. I hope you start to learn empathy. That should be a requirement to work with kids and you don't have it. Scary, really!


Sorry, I smell a sock puppet. Amazing the amount of trolls on this site...
Anonymous
Post 10/25/2013 16:38     Subject: Gave notice and now work is hell
Anonymous wrote:so...a person should work for substandard wages indefinitely simply because they accepted employment? They can never leave, never better themselves until the parents decide they're done with the nanny? That makes no sense whatsoever.


+1 and I'm an MB. I will say that there are some people on DCUM who frequently recommend that a nanny should just quit every time they come on here with a small complaint while at the same time constantly criticizing parents who want to fire a nanny because its bad for the children to change nannies. You can't have it both ways BUT there are also many circumstances in which its better to move on. It's reasonable for both a nanny to quit because it's better for her and for parents to fire a nanny because it's better for their family.
Anonymous
Post 10/25/2013 16:21     Subject: Gave notice and now work is hell
so...a person should work for substandard wages indefinitely simply because they accepted employment? They can never leave, never better themselves until the parents decide they're done with the nanny? That makes no sense whatsoever.
Anonymous
Post 10/25/2013 16:20     Subject: Gave notice and now work is hell
Are freaking serious PP? A nanny should be more committed to a job because she works with kids? Are you freaking shitting me? As callously as nannies are treated, you have the gall to say that? Good God woman the extent of your selfishness and stupidity is almost beyond comprehension. If you don't want to hire someone for which taking care of your child is a job, ie. an employee, (and I NEVER say this) you need to stay home and take care of your kid yourself. A nanny can very well love working with children, but that doesn't erase the necessity to make money. Why not work with children and make MORE of it somewhere else. You know how to protect yourself from this very situation? Offer as competitive package as you can and be a considerate boss, not offering as little as legally possible.
Anonymous
Post 10/25/2013 16:14     Subject: Gave notice and now work is hell
OP, you're actually doing the family a favor by leaving. You don't sound very honest. I'm horrified that you ever had access to children.
Anonymous
Post 10/25/2013 16:11     Subject: Gave notice and now work is hell
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:People who care about children are those who should be nannies, not a money hungry piece of caca employee like yourself. That's the problem here. People who don't give a crap about kids are lining up the be nannies. Because they don't care to begin with, they quit without a moment's thought about how that impacts the innocent person in the scheme- the child. As far as the troll comment, I'll go back to my bridge once you go back to your hole, rat!



Go away troll. People nanny for a LIVING not just for your precious snowflake. The family is abusive and doesn't deserve a nanny.


I agree 100% that this person is a troll looking for trouble and needs to go away but don't assume it's an MB. I think there are crazy people on here, not nannies or MBs, either trying to make one or the other look bad or who just enjoy stirring up drama.


I disagree the poster is a troll. The poster is pointing out that nannies have a commitment to children that trumps the traditional employee/employer relationship. For someone to quit with callous disregard for the bond that a child has developed it disgusting and selfish. I think OP should not have taken the position to begin with if she felt that she was not being fairly compensated. She took a position, formed a bond with a child and developed a routine with the family that depended on her. Than, out of no where, she says, "I quit, it's my right. Bye!" How awful. I can understand that the family is upset, though they aren't handling the situation well. They just have to understand that many nannies don't care about making a commitment. In fact, many are just in it for the money. As a mom, I'd rather someone just came out and said that. It's a win-win when that happens. I wouldn't hire you because I'm looking for a committed professional and you wouldn't waste your time with me. This didn't have to be so hard OP. I hope you start to learn empathy. That should be a requirement to work with kids and you don't have it. Scary, really!