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Anonymous wrote:I'm an MB here and you absolutely 1000% deserve to be paid for the time you worked and then some. Especially given how you came in at 4:30am to help her. I also think her offended reaction is strange BUT everyone deals with grief differently and if she was close to her aunt this could be a very hard time for her. Not to mention her husband is out of town so she's dealing with this alone. I'm not saying it's an excuse to not pay you but it's an excuse to maybe wait for the next pay check. Especially since she's never been like this before. When will DB be home and is he pretty reasonable? Maybe you could mention to him that you worked 25 extra hours that you didn't get paid for. You know MB is having a rough time so you didn't want to bother her about it but could he please make sure you get paid for those hours with your next pay check.

I agree with what you're saying but please stop lying and saying you're an MB.

OP here, how do you know this poster is lying. MB, DB, and nannies frequent the board. Don't be presumptuous.

I can tell by the writing style

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Anonymous wrote:I'm an MB. I want to make sure that I have the timeline right - you worked this past Saturday and Sunday and you normally get paid on Monday? Today is Tuesday and you are wondering where the money is? Or was it a full week ago that you worked the overtime? Do you get direct deposit or a check?

Let me tell you what likely happened from the perspective of someone who recently lost someone. The entire week my family member died, I was in a fog. Entire week. Our nanny worked a ton of overtime, and was amazing, but did the thought cross my mind to give her a check at that time? No. Would I have been annoyed if she had asked me then. You bet. Then again, I guess it depends on your relationship with your nanny. Our nanny knew I was good for it, and when I came back to the realm of dealing, I paid her the overtime. I also forgot to pay our mortgage, car payment, water bill, etc. When you lose someone you care about, bills are the last thing on your mind. In your case, it has beeen TWO DAYS. Give the woman a break. If she hadn't given you your regular paycheck, that's one thing, but give her a couple of days to get herself together and then if she hasn't given you the overtime, you can ask for it.

As a practical matter, if you get paid by a direct deposit check or a payroll service, then your MB would not have had time to make a change as those need to be made a week in advance. It sounds like you are paid a paper check, so perhaps that isn't applicable, but just a thought.

Look, I agree that you should be paid, but I guarantee you, your MB has 1001 other things she is dealing with. Please let her grieve for two days.

So, it was out of line for me expect Saturday and Sunday pay on Monday? I don't think I was being rude, nor do I think I was being disrespectful when I asked her. I simply asked, not demanded. Yes, she is grieving...and I already said I understand it. I don't care if I get paid this week, I just want to get paid.

Anonymous wrote:I'm an MB. I want to make sure that I have the timeline right - you worked this past Saturday and Sunday and you normally get paid on Monday? Today is Tuesday and you are wondering where the money is? Or was it a full week ago that you worked the overtime? Do you get direct deposit or a check?

Let me tell you what likely happened from the perspective of someone who recently lost someone. The entire week my family member died, I was in a fog. Entire week. Our nanny worked a ton of overtime, and was amazing, but did the thought cross my mind to give her a check at that time? No. Would I have been annoyed if she had asked me then. You bet. Then again, I guess it depends on your relationship with your nanny. Our nanny knew I was good for it, and when I came back to the realm of dealing, I paid her the overtime. I also forgot to pay our mortgage, car payment, water bill, etc. When you lose someone you care about, bills are the last thing on your mind. In your case, it has beeen TWO DAYS. Give the woman a break. If she hadn't given you your regular paycheck, that's one thing, but give her a couple of days to get herself together and then if she hasn't given you the overtime, you can ask for it.

As a practical matter, if you get paid by a direct deposit check or a payroll service, then your MB would not have had time to make a change as those need to be made a week in advance. It sounds like you are paid a paper check, so perhaps that isn't applicable, but just a thought.

Look, I agree that you should be paid, but I guarantee you, your MB has 1001 other things she is dealing with. Please let her grieve for two days.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm an MB. I want to make sure that I have the timeline right - you worked this past Saturday and Sunday and you normally get paid on Monday? Today is Tuesday and you are wondering where the money is? Or was it a full week ago that you worked the overtime? Do you get direct deposit or a check?

Let me tell you what likely happened from the perspective of someone who recently lost someone. The entire week my family member died, I was in a fog. Entire week. Our nanny worked a ton of overtime, and was amazing, but did the thought cross my mind to give her a check at that time? No. Would I have been annoyed if she had asked me then. You bet. Then again, I guess it depends on your relationship with your nanny. Our nanny knew I was good for it, and when I came back to the realm of dealing, I paid her the overtime. I also forgot to pay our mortgage, car payment, water bill, etc. When you lose someone you care about, bills are the last thing on your mind. In your case, it has beeen TWO DAYS. Give the woman a break. If she hadn't given you your regular paycheck, that's one thing, but give her a couple of days to get herself together and then if she hasn't given you the overtime, you can ask for it.

As a practical matter, if you get paid by a direct deposit check or a payroll service, then your MB would not have had time to make a change as those need to be made a week in advance. It sounds like you are paid a paper check, so perhaps that isn't applicable, but just a thought.

Look, I agree that you should be paid, but I guarantee you, your MB has 1001 other things she is dealing with. Please let her grieve for two days.

I understand losing a loved one just as much as the next person and I understand the fog that comes with it. I still do not think that should be used as an excuse to shirk your duties, bills/a paycheck in this case, and as annoyed as you would have been at your nanny for requesting to be paid, I am sure most people would be infinitely more annoyed that they had to ask in the first place. Were I OP, this would be strike one and my flexibility would be cut way way down.
On a different note, she really had to leave at 4:30 AM? I'm surprised you even answered your phone that late!

Anonymous wrote:I'm an MB. I want to make sure that I have the timeline right - you worked this past Saturday and Sunday and you normally get paid on Monday? Today is Tuesday and you are wondering where the money is? Or was it a full week ago that you worked the overtime? Do you get direct deposit or a check?

Let me tell you what likely happened from the perspective of someone who recently lost someone. The entire week my family member died, I was in a fog. Entire week. Our nanny worked a ton of overtime, and was amazing, but did the thought cross my mind to give her a check at that time? No. Would I have been annoyed if she had asked me then. You bet. Then again, I guess it depends on your relationship with your nanny. Our nanny knew I was good for it, and when I came back to the realm of dealing, I paid her the overtime. I also forgot to pay our mortgage, car payment, water bill, etc. When you lose someone you care about, bills are the last thing on your mind. In your case, it has beeen TWO DAYS. Give the woman a break. If she hadn't given you your regular paycheck, that's one thing, but give her a couple of days to get herself together and then if she hasn't given you the overtime, you can ask for it.

As a practical matter, if you get paid by a direct deposit check or a payroll service, then your MB would not have had time to make a change as those need to be made a week in advance. It sounds like you are paid a paper check, so perhaps that isn't applicable, but just a thought.

Look, I agree that you should be paid, but I guarantee you, your MB has 1001 other things she is dealing with. Please let her grieve for two days.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm an MB here and you absolutely 1000% deserve to be paid for the time you worked and then some. Especially given how you came in at 4:30am to help her. I also think her offended reaction is strange BUT everyone deals with grief differently and if she was close to her aunt this could be a very hard time for her. Not to mention her husband is out of town so she's dealing with this alone. I'm not saying it's an excuse to not pay you but it's an excuse to maybe wait for the next pay check. Especially since she's never been like this before. When will DB be home and is he pretty reasonable? Maybe you could mention to him that you worked 25 extra hours that you didn't get paid for. You know MB is having a rough time so you didn't want to bother her about it but could he please make sure you get paid for those hours with your next pay check.

I agree with what you're saying but please stop lying and saying you're an MB.

OP here, how do you know this poster is lying. MB, DB, and nannies frequent the board. Don't be presumptuous.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm an MB here and you absolutely 1000% deserve to be paid for the time you worked and then some. Especially given how you came in at 4:30am to help her. I also think her offended reaction is strange BUT everyone deals with grief differently and if she was close to her aunt this could be a very hard time for her. Not to mention her husband is out of town so she's dealing with this alone. I'm not saying it's an excuse to not pay you but it's an excuse to maybe wait for the next pay check. Especially since she's never been like this before. When will DB be home and is he pretty reasonable? Maybe you could mention to him that you worked 25 extra hours that you didn't get paid for. You know MB is having a rough time so you didn't want to bother her about it but could he please make sure you get paid for those hours with your next pay check.

I agree with what you're saying but please stop lying and saying you're an MB.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm an MB here and you absolutely 1000% deserve to be paid for the time you worked and then some. Especially given how you came in at 4:30am to help her. I also think her offended reaction is strange BUT everyone deals with grief differently and if she was close to her aunt this could be a very hard time for her. Not to mention her husband is out of town so she's dealing with this alone. I'm not saying it's an excuse to not pay you but it's an excuse to maybe wait for the next pay check. Especially since she's never been like this before. When will DB be home and is he pretty reasonable? Maybe you could mention to him that you worked 25 extra hours that you didn't get paid for. You know MB is having a rough time so you didn't want to bother her about it but could he please make sure you get paid for those hours with your next pay check.

I agree with what you're saying but please stop lying and saying you're an MB.

Anonymous wrote:I'm an MB here and you absolutely 1000% deserve to be paid for the time you worked and then some. Especially given how you came in at 4:30am to help her. I also think her offended reaction is strange BUT everyone deals with grief differently and if she was close to her aunt this could be a very hard time for her. Not to mention her husband is out of town so she's dealing with this alone. I'm not saying it's an excuse to not pay you but it's an excuse to maybe wait for the next pay check. Especially since she's never been like this before. When will DB be home and is he pretty reasonable? Maybe you could mention to him that you worked 25 extra hours that you didn't get paid for. You know MB is having a rough time so you didn't want to bother her about it but could he please make sure you get paid for those hours with your next pay check.