Anonymous
Post 10/02/2013 00:56     Subject: Let's talk about annoying things SAHM's have said to you
haha I like the op.
Anonymous
Post 10/02/2013 00:48     Subject: Let's talk about annoying things SAHM's have said to you
The idea of being totally dependent (financially) on another person just scares the crap out of me. I just cannot get past it.
Anonymous
Post 10/02/2013 00:40     Subject: Re:Let's talk about annoying things SAHM's have said to you
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I am a career nanny who expects a nice ring and will be staying home with my children. If I discuss my complaints with my friends, however minor they be, that is my business. You should worry about your own life.


Be realistic. I have nanny friends who have become so caught up in the lifestyle of their employers, they expect to have the same when they get married. They are in their mid-late 30's and are all single because they're so picky and have such unrealistic expectations.

I have a nice home with my partner who values the fact that I want to stay at home with our future children. He also makes enough to buy a nice, not over the top ring. I am being realistic. Maybe you should worry about your life and stop judging me and others.


That's fine, but it's not realistic. To make a partner responsible for your financial future is risky. They may lose their job, leave you, or become disabled. This is why responsible adults make sure they can provide for themselves and their children. This is also why aspiring to be a SAHM is foolish.

But you are correct. You can do what you want, even if its irresponsible and unrealistic.


OP here: love your post. that's so true. she nailed it! in my world, women work outside of the home.


You don't work outside the home! You simply work inside someone else's home. Why would you assume that I am unable to support myself if need be. I support myself now. I am educated. If I choose to be a SAHM because that is where my passion lies, then that is MY business. I am no less than you because I am choosing a different path than you. I have options to work outside the home if I choose, utilizing my degree. What are you plans for your future? Do you plan to be a nanny for long? Are you young and still in school, yet know everything? How is your life so grand that you feel compelled to judge others?


Don’t be ridiculous. You know what I meant by saying women who work outside of the home. Stop being so full of shit.I will neither confirm nor deny my future plans, but I will say that your plans are NOT realistic. It may seem stupid to you now, but there's a lot of shit that could happen, so strap the fuck in, because we're gonna go pretty deep.

First, a word about my grandmother. She is a nice old lady who loves to work, and perhaps my favorite of her many quirks was to comment loudly whenever my sister said she wanted to be a SAHM and marry a rich guy. My grandmother was SAHM until her husband died at age 30. She had to support a her children on her own after gf passed away. "Always make sure you can provide for yourself", she would say. My grandmother is right, of course. It could be PT or FT, but I think everyone needs to work.

You seem like you have everything all figured out too. That's fine. You should do whatever the fuck you want with your life, but since I've met tons of SAHM's, let's go ahead and predict your future. You will probably become depressed after a few years. Why? Because SAHM's are more socially isolated and under more stress than working moms, which increases their chances of being depressed. I've met so many depressed SAHM's in this area who would def be happier if they would just get a damn job.

The days creep by for me and I only work PT (not that I don't love my charge, because I truly do and find him nothing short of amazing), but going for stroller walks with other nannies, toting him and his heavy, bulky, awkward car seat around, changing diaper after smelly diaper and feeling my brain atrophy a little more every day is totally not going to cut it for me in the future.

The awesome things about my job now are: the pay, my charge is cool, the hours. And I've just been cut off from my parents and need PT work since I am a student. Being a nanny is definitely one of the better options.







hahahah love the adult words OP.



Anonymous
Post 10/02/2013 00:28     Subject: Let's talk about annoying things SAHM's have said to you
yep. thank you. i did 7 years with 3 under 3. thank God i finally got a job and outta this house.... pretty sure i'd never have made it another year. i need my own money not my husbands.
Anonymous
Post 10/02/2013 00:15     Subject: Re:Let's talk about annoying things SAHM's have said to you
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
I am a career nanny who expects a nice ring and will be staying home with my children. If I discuss my complaints with my friends, however minor they be, that is my business. You should worry about your own life.


Be realistic. I have nanny friends who have become so caught up in the lifestyle of their employers, they expect to have the same when they get married. They are in their mid-late 30's and are all single because they're so picky and have such unrealistic expectations.

I have a nice home with my partner who values the fact that I want to stay at home with our future children. He also makes enough to buy a nice, not over the top ring. I am being realistic. Maybe you should worry about your life and stop judging me and others.


That's fine, but it's not realistic. To make a partner responsible for your financial future is risky. They may lose their job, leave you, or become disabled. This is why responsible adults make sure they can provide for themselves and their children. This is also why aspiring to be a SAHM is foolish.

But you are correct. You can do what you want, even if its irresponsible and unrealistic.


OP here: love your post. that's so true. she nailed it! in my world, women work outside of the home.


You don't work outside the home! You simply work inside someone else's home. Why would you assume that I am unable to support myself if need be. I support myself now. I am educated. If I choose to be a SAHM because that is where my passion lies, then that is MY business. I am no less than you because I am choosing a different path than you. I have options to work outside the home if I choose, utilizing my degree. What are you plans for your future? Do you plan to be a nanny for long? Are you young and still in school, yet know everything? How is your life so grand that you feel compelled to judge others?


Don’t be ridiculous. You know what I meant by saying women who work outside of the home. Stop being so full of shit.I will neither confirm nor deny my future plans, but I will say that your plans are NOT realistic. It may seem stupid to you now, but there's a lot of shit that could happen, so strap the fuck in, because we're gonna go pretty deep.

First, a word about my grandmother. She is a nice old lady who loves to work, and perhaps my favorite of her many quirks was to comment loudly whenever my sister said she wanted to be a SAHM and marry a rich guy. My grandmother was SAHM until her husband died at age 30. She had to support a her children on her own after gf passed away. "Always make sure you can provide for yourself", she would say. My grandmother is right, of course. It could be PT or FT, but I think everyone needs to work.

You seem like you have everything all figured out too. That's fine. You should do whatever the fuck you want with your life, but since I've met tons of SAHM's, let's go ahead and predict your future. You will probably become depressed after a few years. Why? Because SAHM's are more socially isolated and under more stress than working moms, which increases their chances of being depressed. I've met so many depressed SAHM's in this area who would def be happier if they would just get a damn job.

The days creep by for me and I only work PT (not that I don't love my charge, because I truly do and find him nothing short of amazing), but going for stroller walks with other nannies, toting him and his heavy, bulky, awkward car seat around, changing diaper after smelly diaper and feeling my brain atrophy a little more every day is totally not going to cut it for me in the future.

The awesome things about my job now are: the pay, my charge is cool, the hours. And I've just been cut off from my parents and need PT work since I am a student. Being a nanny is definitely one of the better options.











Anonymous
Post 10/02/2013 00:05     Subject: Let's talk about annoying things SAHM's have said to you
I'm not a SAHM or working mother but if I had a choice I would most DEFINITELY raise my own kids instead of having a nanny, esp after seeing all the uneducated, judgemental, low class nannies on this board. No offence.
Anonymous
Post 10/01/2013 23:18     Subject: Re:Let's talk about annoying things SAHM's have said to you
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
I am a career nanny who expects a nice ring and will be staying home with my children. If I discuss my complaints with my friends, however minor they be, that is my business. You should worry about your own life.


Be realistic. I have nanny friends who have become so caught up in the lifestyle of their employers, they expect to have the same when they get married. They are in their mid-late 30's and are all single because they're so picky and have such unrealistic expectations.

I have a nice home with my partner who values the fact that I want to stay at home with our future children. He also makes enough to buy a nice, not over the top ring. I am being realistic. Maybe you should worry about your life and stop judging me and others.


That's fine, but it's not realistic. To make a partner responsible for your financial future is risky. They may lose their job, leave you, or become disabled. This is why responsible adults make sure they can provide for themselves and their children. This is also why aspiring to be a SAHM is foolish.

But you are correct. You can do what you want, even if its irresponsible and unrealistic.


There are many ways for a responsible SAHM to protect herself and her kids against these risks. Many SAHMs spent years building a career before leaving to have kids, and they could go back to that career should they want or need to. Others who were less established before having kids might struggle in the short run should something happen to the primary breadwinner, but if they are reasonably smart and hard working, they will find a way to enter the workforce and earn a living if they need to. Responsible SAHMs also know the importance of life and disability insurance, not to mention maintaining an emergency account that can be accessed by her alone. Some SAHMs also have trust funds or other family money.

In other words, stop assuming that everyone else is in the same financial situation that you are in, and shares the same values. There are many ways to provide for our children, and being a SAHM is among them. It is a sad day for feminism when working women start bashing women who choose and can afford to stay home with their kids.

--A working mom
Anonymous
Post 10/01/2013 23:11     Subject: Re:Let's talk about annoying things SAHM's have said to you
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
I am a career nanny who expects a nice ring and will be staying home with my children. If I discuss my complaints with my friends, however minor they be, that is my business. You should worry about your own life.


Be realistic. I have nanny friends who have become so caught up in the lifestyle of their employers, they expect to have the same when they get married. They are in their mid-late 30's and are all single because they're so picky and have such unrealistic expectations.

I have a nice home with my partner who values the fact that I want to stay at home with our future children. He also makes enough to buy a nice, not over the top ring. I am being realistic. Maybe you should worry about your life and stop judging me and others.


That's fine, but it's not realistic. To make a partner responsible for your financial future is risky. They may lose their job, leave you, or become disabled. This is why responsible adults make sure they can provide for themselves and their children. This is also why aspiring to be a SAHM is foolish.

But you are correct. You can do what you want, even if its irresponsible and unrealistic.


OP here: love your post. that's so true. she nailed it! in my world, women work outside of the home.


You don't work outside the home! You simply work inside someone else's home. Why would you assume that I am unable to support myself if need be. I support myself now. I am educated. If I choose to be a SAHM because that is where my passion lies, then that is MY business. I am no less than you because I am choosing a different path than you. I have options to work outside the home if I choose, utilizing my degree. What are you plans for your future? Do you plan to be a nanny for long? Are you young and still in school, yet know everything? How is your life so grand that you feel compelled to judge others?
Anonymous
Post 10/01/2013 23:01     Subject: Let's talk about annoying things SAHM's have said to you
Anonymous wrote:Let's talk about how annoying it is to always be surrounded by judgment - whether you're a nanny, a WOHM, a SAHM, a single parent, a childless couple, etc...

Life is hard, for all kinds of people, in all kinds of ways that can't be seen from observing them in a coffee shop.

MYOB and stop judging.


+1. Grow up, OP.
Anonymous
Post 10/01/2013 21:15     Subject: Re:Let's talk about annoying things SAHM's have said to you
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
I am a career nanny who expects a nice ring and will be staying home with my children. If I discuss my complaints with my friends, however minor they be, that is my business. You should worry about your own life.


Be realistic. I have nanny friends who have become so caught up in the lifestyle of their employers, they expect to have the same when they get married. They are in their mid-late 30's and are all single because they're so picky and have such unrealistic expectations.

I have a nice home with my partner who values the fact that I want to stay at home with our future children. He also makes enough to buy a nice, not over the top ring. I am being realistic. Maybe you should worry about your life and stop judging me and others.


That's fine, but it's not realistic. To make a partner responsible for your financial future is risky. They may lose their job, leave you, or become disabled. This is why responsible adults make sure they can provide for themselves and their children. This is also why aspiring to be a SAHM is foolish.

But you are correct. You can do what you want, even if its irresponsible and unrealistic.


OP here: love your post. that's so true. she nailed it! in my world, women work outside of the home.
Anonymous
Post 10/01/2013 20:03     Subject: Re:Let's talk about annoying things SAHM's have said to you
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
I am a career nanny who expects a nice ring and will be staying home with my children. If I discuss my complaints with my friends, however minor they be, that is my business. You should worry about your own life.


Be realistic. I have nanny friends who have become so caught up in the lifestyle of their employers, they expect to have the same when they get married. They are in their mid-late 30's and are all single because they're so picky and have such unrealistic expectations.

I have a nice home with my partner who values the fact that I want to stay at home with our future children. He also makes enough to buy a nice, not over the top ring. I am being realistic. Maybe you should worry about your life and stop judging me and others.


That's fine, but it's not realistic. To make a partner responsible for your financial future is risky. They may lose their job, leave you, or become disabled. This is why responsible adults make sure they can provide for themselves and their children. This is also why aspiring to be a SAHM is foolish.

But you are correct. You can do what you want, even if its irresponsible and unrealistic.
Anonymous
Post 10/01/2013 13:45     Subject: Let's talk about annoying things SAHM's have said to you
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I am a career nanny who expects a nice ring and will be staying home with my children. If I discuss my complaints with my friends, however minor they be, that is my business. You should worry about your own life.


Be realistic. I have nanny friends who have become so caught up in the lifestyle of their employers, they expect to have the same when they get married. They are in their mid-late 30's and are all single because they're so picky and have such unrealistic expectations.

I have a nice home with my partner who values the fact that I want to stay at home with our future children. He also makes enough to buy a nice, not over the top ring. I am being realistic. Maybe you should worry about your life and stop judging me and others.
Anonymous
Post 10/01/2013 13:24     Subject: Let's talk about annoying things SAHM's have said to you
I don't think it's necessarily bad to be picky when choosing someone you want to spend the rest of your life with. But not all men want a wife who wants to be a stay at home mom. That's okay, it's their prerogative ... Just like being a homemaker is yours.

Besides, who cares how big your boss' wedding ring is? Or how often she works out? Or what kind of car she drives? It's fine to aspire to be a homemaker. But it's obnoxious and superficial to aspire to be a homemaker with a huge rock, a personal trainer and a Mercedes.
Anonymous
Post 10/01/2013 13:09     Subject: Let's talk about annoying things SAHM's have said to you
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I am a career nanny who expects a nice ring and will be staying home with my children. If I discuss my complaints with my friends, however minor they be, that is my business. You should worry about your own life.


Be realistic. I have nanny friends who have become so caught up in the lifestyle of their employers, they expect to have the same when they get married. They are in their mid-late 30's and are all single because they're so picky and have such unrealistic expectations.

What do you mean by picky?
Anonymous
Post 10/01/2013 12:46     Subject: Let's talk about annoying things SAHM's have said to you
Anonymous wrote:I am a career nanny who expects a nice ring and will be staying home with my children. If I discuss my complaints with my friends, however minor they be, that is my business. You should worry about your own life.


Be realistic. I have nanny friends who have become so caught up in the lifestyle of their employers, they expect to have the same when they get married. They are in their mid-late 30's and are all single because they're so picky and have such unrealistic expectations.