Anonymous wrote:Nanny Needs Help With Biting, Pinching & Hair Pulling One-Year-Old:

The parents play a lot rougher with their one-year-old than I do. She thinks hair pulling and pinching is funny and the parents haven't discouraged this. Today after the unpteenth time of removing her hand from pinching me she got mad and bit me! I told the parents and they suggest an eye for an eye thing. That if she bites me hard, I bite her hard back and same for pinching and hair pulling. I need suggestions on how to stop this behavior when the parents don't seem to mind.

Parents seem to be causing this behavior.
How many sitters has the baby had so far?

Anonymous wrote:Use your firm and serious voice to say "no pulling hair" as you remove her hand. The second time you remove her - set her in her bedroom or the far side of the playroom and walk away. She'll get the message within a week or two but you have to be consistent and unemotional.

The parents need to learn this to.

She seems to know nothing about what's typical for a one year old.

Anonymous wrote:Why do you think she's had a number of nannies?

The child is acting pretty typically for her age.

You don't know very much about children. I hope you aren't a nanny.

It doesn't sound like the child is acting typical in all ways. If the child had parents that discouraged this behavior, then the child would know it is not acceptable and while it might occasionally happen, it wouldn't be a daily (or multiple times daily) thing.

I do agree that the OP doesn't seem to be very good at her job if she had to ask how to stop this behavior from happening. Kids can learn how to NOT do stuff with nanny but if parents allow it, to still do it with them. That's why we sometimes hear parents complaining about different things, like how their child won't go down for a nap/bedtime without them doing X while the nanny can get them down just fine.