Anonymous wrote:OP, has your nanny always lived in NYC? If yes, it will be hard for her to understand how dependent people here are on their vehicles until she gets here, and then she will be very unhappy. If by "she does not drive" you mean she doesn't have a license, I would suggest you subsidize housing in Bethesda. If she has a license but no vehicle, help her purchase one. If both of these options are cost-prohibitive, hire a local nanny and transition your "love affair" nanny to a friend you hang out with when you visit each other's city.
I totally agree with all of this.