OP, you already knew what you wanted to do. Fine. I don't know why you posted this nonsense "problem in two separate threads and I don't care. Own your life choices and move on.

OP here. I prefer to keep my life private from my employer. I don't want them to think I am depressed because I have to live away from my husband. It could be used against me.

Anonymous wrote:OP, you clearly already made up your mind before you posted. You want to stay in DC. You don't care about being with your husband. It's weird and doesn't speak well for your marriage, but why do you care what we think?
You had your mind 100% decided before you posted a single word. You only came on here hoping for people to agree with you and tell you what a smart choice it is. MAYBE it is a smart financial choice. But finances aren't everything. You like being "single" in DC -- nothing wrong with that, except YOU.ARE.MARRIED.

The fact that your own employers, who you've known for 2 months, don't even know you're married -- wow. That speaks volumes about you, and not in a good way.

Agreed! Especially the part about your employers not knowing you are married.

OP, your salary is fine and if it's enough for you to live on then great. It's still not some high paying position. If you work anymore than 45 hrs/week you are making less than $15/hr. I don't know where you were looking for jobs but I have interviewed in Atlanta and surrounding areas and there are well paying positions there.

I tried finding a job last year when we both moved to GA. I was there for 2 months and then had to relocate back to DC. I've been here for 9 months.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP there are well paying jobs in Georgia, particularly in Atlanta. I've interviewed for some of them. $3000 a month is less than 700/week, so it's not like you are making some tip top salary in DC. And $3000/semester for health insurance is ridiculous. I was paying a little more than that ($800/month0 for an individual policy in New York state, which is notoriously expensive for Health Insurance.

I know how tough it is to go through school and be a poor graduate student, but being apart from eachother for such a long time is hard on anyone's relationship.

OP here. My salary is GREAT. I actually only have 2 years experience as a nanny. I'm also worried about being considered a job hopper. I stayed at my previous nanny job for 2 years
and started a new nanny job 2 months ago. I'm really happy with the current family and I feel like if I leave now it may impact my future employment options. My current job doesn't even know that I am married. How long does a typical nanny stay at a job? I think it's about 1 year or so, right? I don't want to create a job hopping history.

Working and/or living in Atlanta would be hard. I would have to buy a car, which I really don't want to do. I plan to use the UGA bus to get around once I rejoin my husband. I tried finding a job in Athens and Atlanta and didn't have any luck. The families in Atlanta were not offering anything more than $10/hour and I didn't feel like any of them were going to be a good fit for me. I would have to break my apartment lease in DC and leave my current job , which would mean I couldn't use them as a reference. I am very happy with the ways things are going so far. They treat me like a partner in raising their baby and not just an employee. I like that they value my knowledge and experience and often ask me questions. I've had jobs where I left because they treated me more like a teen babysitter or micro-managed me or the dads just gave me a CREEPY vibe. It's really hard to find the perfect fit and I guess I'm scared because I was unemployed in GA and I have had a lot of bad nannys job in the past.

OP, you say the above, in bold, but in your very first post you wrote this:

This week I came to visit him and applied for a FT nanny position. The job sounds perfect. MB/DB are both working at the university and they live within walking distance to/from my husbands apartment.

I smell a troll.

OP, you clearly already made up your mind before you posted. You want to stay in DC. You don't care about being with your husband. It's weird and doesn't speak well for your marriage, but why do you care what we think?
You had your mind 100% decided before you posted a single word. You only came on here hoping for people to agree with you and tell you what a smart choice it is. MAYBE it is a smart financial choice. But finances aren't everything. You like being "single" in DC -- nothing wrong with that, except YOU.ARE.MARRIED.

The fact that your own employers, who you've known for 2 months, don't even know you're married -- wow. That speaks volumes about you, and not in a good way.

Anonymous wrote:OP there are well paying jobs in Georgia, particularly in Atlanta. I've interviewed for some of them. $3000 a month is less than 700/week, so it's not like you are making some tip top salary in DC. And $3000/semester for health insurance is ridiculous. I was paying a little more than that ($800/month0 for an individual policy in New York state, which is notoriously expensive for Health Insurance.

I know how tough it is to go through school and be a poor graduate student, but being apart from eachother for such a long time is hard on anyone's relationship.

OP here. My salary is GREAT. I actually only have 2 years experience as a nanny. I'm also worried about being considered a job hopper. I stayed at my previous nanny job for 2 years
and started a new nanny job 2 months ago. I'm really happy with the current family and I feel like if I leave now it may impact my future employment options. My current job doesn't even know that I am married. How long does a typical nanny stay at a job? I think it's about 1 year or so, right? I don't want to create a job hopping history.

Working and/or living in Atlanta would be hard. I would have to buy a car, which I really don't want to do. I plan to use the UGA bus to get around once I rejoin my husband. I tried finding a job in Athens and Atlanta and didn't have any luck. The families in Atlanta were not offering anything more than $10/hour and I didn't feel like any of them were going to be a good fit for me. I would have to break my apartment lease in DC and leave my current job , which would mean I couldn't use them as a reference. I am very happy with the ways things are going so far. They treat me like a partner in raising their baby and not just an employee. I like that they value my knowledge and experience and often ask me questions. I've had jobs where I left because they treated me more like a teen babysitter or micro-managed me or the dads just gave me a CREEPY vibe. It's really hard to find the perfect fit and I guess I'm scared because I was unemployed in GA and I have had a lot of bad nannys job in the past.

My husband is an international student and they actually force him to have health insurance through the university.

Again, my post made no sense thanks to autocorrect.

I was trying to say that health insurance cannot be that expensive for a student. Maybe you both should look into other options.

So wasn't supposed to be in the above post

Anonymous wrote:If the University is truly charging that much for health insurance for you, there are more affordable options out there. A quick search in ehealthinsurance.com brought up several options.

+1. There is so no health insurance is that expensive for a student. You could easily get a job down there if you wanted to. Put your mind to whatever you want. I can't imagine being away from my boyfriend just for a job.

If the University is truly charging that much for health insurance for you, there are more affordable options out there. A quick search in ehealthinsurance.com brought up several options.

OP there are well paying jobs in Georgia, particularly in Atlanta. I've interviewed for some of them. $3000 a month is less than 700/week, so it's not like you are making some tip top salary in DC. And $3000/semester for health insurance is ridiculous. I was paying a little more than that ($800/month0 for an individual policy in New York state, which is notoriously expensive for Health Insurance.

I know how tough it is to go through school and be a poor graduate student, but being apart from eachother for such a long time is hard on anyone's relationship.

OP here. I love this post.

"You guys are cruel and frankly way more idiotic than OP. She posted a long rant and all you dumbasses can focus on is the fact that she's married. She wants to work to save money so she can go back to school next fall, to actually rejoin her husband. But hey that is irrelevant to you idiots, as long as she's glued to her husband's side, who cares if she's unemployed and living on $100 a month?

It boggles the mind how moronic people can be on this site."

This person really nailed it! Thanks

Anonymous wrote:Your husband has a little lady-friend in GA. That's why he doesn't care if you stay in DC

This is so not true. I am happy that I can support him and send funds from DC from time to time. He is super poor in GA.
He lives off $200 for food per month and doesn't have any spare $ for anything else. We were on foods stamps for 2 months
because I couldn't work and his salary is so low.The PhD fees and health insurance eat up all his income. These comments make
me so sad. I really love my husband very much. I wish I could be with him and have a normal married life.
I don't even have health insurance right now and we def couldn't afford it in GA. The university wanted to charge $3000 per semester
for me to be added onto to his plan. His take home pay was really $1500 when he did his masters, but for PhD after they take out uni fees, health
insurance and it's about $900 /month. rent is around $700. The biggest issue is probably that we don't own a car and nanny jobs don't pay well in GA.
Right now I am make $3000/month and I am so happy with the money I can save.