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Anonymous wrote:Yes, it does matter. I wouldn't say I'm drop dead gorgeous by any means but I'm attractive on an average level with a fashion forward style.

When I go on interviews I wear very little make up and dress business casual. I conduct myself as a professional but down play my looks as much as possible. Unfortunately, my weight always catches the attention of new mothers and can affect my chances. I'm very a fit skinny (think yoga body with boobs) and everyone feels the need to mention my weight and how they "will never be that skinny again." It's draining trying to reassure these women and down playing my looks to make them feel better.

I think you missed the point of this post. No one cares what body type you have, how much makeup you wear, and how you feel when you have to "reassure" these women. I highly doubt they're as obsessed with you as you think they are.

Never said they are obsessed nor do I take Pity on myself. I just realized that looks matter and if your at either extreme, too pretty or overweight( in an unhealthy way) it will affect how ppl judge you. I gave my experience which is interactions with what I perceive as slightly insecure first time mothers. If its right after birth some feel uncomfortable in their new bodies so they comment (way too much) on weight. I've met plenty of beautiful MBs who could walk a runway, comment on my appearance. So I dress simply at interviews so I don't get judged on my looks whether its positive or negative. Your experience, personality and education should be the only factor but its not.

Anonymous wrote:Yes, it does matter. I wouldn't say I'm drop dead gorgeous by any means but I'm attractive on an average level with a fashion forward style.

When I go on interviews I wear very little make up and dress business casual. I conduct myself as a professional but down play my looks as much as possible. Unfortunately, my weight always catches the attention of new mothers and can affect my chances. I'm very a fit skinny (think yoga body with boobs) and everyone feels the need to mention my weight and how they "will never be that skinny again." It's draining trying to reassure these women and down playing my looks to make them feel better.

I think you missed the point of this post. No one cares what body type you have, how much makeup you wear, and how you feel when you have to "reassure" these women. I highly doubt they're as obsessed with you as you think they are.

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Anonymous wrote:Yes, it does matter. I wouldn't say I'm drop dead gorgeous by any means but I'm attractive on an average level with a fashion forward style.

When I go on interviews I wear very little make up and dress business casual. I conduct myself as a professional but down play my looks as much as possible. Unfortunately, my weight always catches the attention of new mothers and can affect my chances. I'm very a fit skinny (think yoga body with boobs) and everyone feels the need to mention my weight and how they "will never be that skinny again." It's draining trying to reassure these women and down playing my looks to make them feel better.

LOL. Sure, PP.

Totally with you!

Anonymous wrote:Yes, it does matter. I wouldn't say I'm drop dead gorgeous by any means but I'm attractive on an average level with a fashion forward style.

When I go on interviews I wear very little make up and dress business casual. I conduct myself as a professional but down play my looks as much as possible. Unfortunately, my weight always catches the attention of new mothers and can affect my chances. I'm very a fit skinny (think yoga body with boobs) and everyone feels the need to mention my weight and how they "will never be that skinny again." It's draining trying to reassure these women and down playing my looks to make them feel better.

LOL. Sure, PP.

Most kids I have met have decided if someone was nice based on how they treated the kids and if it was not a "fake act" being put on. Kids know when someone is faking being nice to them, and they usually do not care about looks as much as adults do when they are not in a group setting like a classroom, where peer's might affect how they end up feeling about a person.

I saw a Frontline episode that cited the studies. The above is actually not true. Children of different races and SES all consistently chose the more attractive person. They described the unattractive person as mean, not nice etc etc. The experiment was part of a research study looking at how biology drives our perception of beauty. Its less cultural than you think and the attraction to people with more symmetrical features and healthy height/weight correlates with those individuals statistically being less likely to carry genetic flaws or higher risk of diseases. Millions of years ago it served the purpose of choosing mates that would produce offspring more likely to survive to mate themselves. Its still hard wired into us.

Anonymous wrote:Yes, it does matter. I wouldn't say I'm drop dead gorgeous by any means but I'm attractive on an average level with a fashion forward style.

When I go on interviews I wear very little make up and dress business casual. I conduct myself as a professional but down play my looks as much as possible. Unfortunately, my weight always catches the attention of new mothers and can affect my chances. I'm very a fit skinny (think yoga body with boobs) and everyone feels the need to mention my weight and how they "will never be that skinny again." It's draining trying to reassure these women and down playing my looks to make them feel better.

Woe is you.

Yes, it does matter. I wouldn't say I'm drop dead gorgeous by any means but I'm attractive on an average level with a fashion forward style.

When I go on interviews I wear very little make up and dress business casual. I conduct myself as a professional but down play my looks as much as possible. Unfortunately, my weight always catches the attention of new mothers and can affect my chances. I'm very a fit skinny (think yoga body with boobs) and everyone feels the need to mention my weight and how they "will never be that skinny again." It's draining trying to reassure these women and down playing my looks to make them feel better.

Sadly I think it makes a difference all too often, in all kinds of setting.

- Less than perfect MB, w/ fantastic nanny who isn't the prettiest, skinniest, or youngest candidate I interviewed but who is the reason my family functions.

It probably makes a difference for the wrong kind of people.

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Anonymous wrote:Its pretty common for obese Americans to just think they are overweight because they are not morbidly obese.

Your point being?

Not the PP you quoted but i'm guessing she wrote that comment because of a previous poster who said 'overweight and obese' are not the same thing and to stop placing them in the same category (not the exact wording but something to that effect).

Ok but regardless of what these theoretical people believe about themselves, there is a very marked difference between being overweight and being obese and being morbidly obese. Factually, statistically, medically... So I still don't see her point tbh.

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Yes, it affects your chances of being employed by certain people - those are the ones you don't really want to work for, though.

MB here and I agree with this.