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Anonymous wrote:Again, I feel a lot of is has to do with health and how good of an eater the infant or toddler is. By toddlerhood, most children know when they are full and I would never force a toddler to sit and clear a plate. However, the same cannot a be said for an infant with a bottle. Some infants just have a hard time enjoying drinking from a bottle or nursing and it is imperative to make sure the baby is getting enough calories and nutrition for the day.

Hence the recommendation for MD communication.

I do not feel that would be my place if MB has already spoken with pediatrician and has relayed that message on to me. In past positions, I have accompanied led apts, in my current position, MB brings DC to apts. I would take what MB has instructed and feed in the manor she has decided was best as long as it seemed plausible.

Force feeding a five month old seems "plausible" to you? Would you at least expect more information?

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Anonymous wrote:Again, I feel a lot of is has to do with health and how good of an eater the infant or toddler is. By toddlerhood, most children know when they are full and I would never force a toddler to sit and clear a plate. However, the same cannot a be said for an infant with a bottle. Some infants just have a hard time enjoying drinking from a bottle or nursing and it is imperative to make sure the baby is getting enough calories and nutrition for the day.

Hence the recommendation for MD communication.

I do not feel that would be my place if MB has already spoken with pediatrician and has relayed that message on to me. In past positions, I have accompanied led apts, in my current position, MB brings DC to apts. I would take what MB has instructed and feed in the manor she has decided was best as long as it seemed plausible.

Force feeding a five month old seems "plausible" to you? Would you at least expect more information?

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Anonymous wrote:Again, I feel a lot of is has to do with health and how good of an eater the infant or toddler is. By toddlerhood, most children know when they are full and I would never force a toddler to sit and clear a plate. However, the same cannot a be said for an infant with a bottle. Some infants just have a hard time enjoying drinking from a bottle or nursing and it is imperative to make sure the baby is getting enough calories and nutrition for the day.

Hence the recommendation for MD communication.

I do not feel that would be my place if MB has already spoken with pediatrician and has relayed that message on to me. In past positions, I have accompanied led apts, in my current position, MB brings DC to apts. I would take what MB has instructed and feed in the manor she has decided was best as long as it seemed plausible.

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Anonymous wrote:Again, I feel a lot of is has to do with health and how good of an eater the infant or toddler is. By toddlerhood, most children know when they are full and I would never force a toddler to sit and clear a plate. However, the same cannot a be said for an infant with a bottle. Some infants just have a hard time enjoying drinking from a bottle or nursing and it is imperative to make sure the baby is getting enough calories and nutrition for the day.

Hence the recommendation for MD communication.

Anonymous wrote:Again, I feel a lot of is has to do with health and how good of an eater the infant or toddler is. By toddlerhood, most children know when they are full and I would never force a toddler to sit and clear a plate. However, the same cannot a be said for an infant with a bottle. Some infants just have a hard time enjoying drinking from a bottle or nursing and it is imperative to make sure the baby is getting enough calories and nutrition for the day.

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Anonymous wrote:My DD was born at 5lbs and for the first 6 months we had to monitor every single ounce that went into her. I pumped and our wonderful nanny was right with me with our schedule. Yes, we had to get every ounce that is in the bottle into DD take sure she was gaining weight and healthy. Sometimes she acted as if she didn't want it, but with persistence, she began to suck again. This is not "force feeding". If the milk or formula is in a bottle and baby is drinking it herself, this is just making sure she is getting what is required. Force feeding would be hold a baby's mouth open and pouring it down her throat! That would be abuse! Keeping a schedule and being persistent during feeding times, making sure each ouce is taken is defintiely reared in some situations. Luckely today, because of that persistence, DD is a healthy thriving baby girl and is up to 50th percentile for height and weight.

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I'm 11:19 and this is what I was trying to say - and clearly can be true for babies being fed formula or breast milk!

Anonymous wrote:New MB to this thread here, I generally believe in baby led feedings when a child is healthy and thriving. Of course, medical concerns ALWAYS come first. That said, this is just my own parenting style and I completely support the decisions other parents make as for as scheduling. My best friend has twins and I know they had a pretty strict feeding schedule for at least 7 months. Today, her twins and my son are the same age (almost 2) and all three kids are happy, healthy, well adjusted, good eaters. each parent has their own style and its your job as a nanny to follow the patents wishes in the feeding schedule. If you feel really strongly about it, than the family is probably not a good match for you.

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Anonymous wrote:"Forcing" a baby to finish every oz. in every bottle borders on child abuse. This is never an acceptable option for a 5 month old infant. Why don't you think the nanny should have an opportunity to discuss this issue with the baby's pediatrition?

I think we aren't taking OP's word here, because she didn't give us a whole lot of relevant information.

How do you force a baby to eat if they're not hungry? I've held a bottle there for 10 minutes, baby never started sucking because he wasn't hungry... so... I'm having a hard time visualizing exactly what it is OP is describing. Some more information might garner her more sympathetic posts.

You've never seen a child being force fed your world? I have. The way I have seen parents force feed a baby, is they keep shoving the bottle into the baby's mouth until the baby finally starts to suck the nipple. All this after the baby has repeatedly refused the bottle.[/quot
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Why are people afraid of the nanny getting any medical advice from the pediatrician? If the doctor that the parent has chosen, can support the Mother's feeding method (forcing the complete consumption of the entire contents of each and every bottle), the nanny would have less apprehension about causing harm to the baby.


Seems to me that we may have here a nanny who wants to maintain some level of admirable professional standards. Presumably that should include,
"do the child no harm".

Personally, I would specifically want that kind of nanny for my child. By the same token, it's appropriate to acknowledge here that not every parent desires a professional nanny, for said reason. Some parents may prefer a lower priced warm body nanny, who will simply obey parental requests at every turn. This is what's otherwise known as a "high-maintance nanny". You can't trust her to know what it is you'd want her to do in any given senerio, unless you have specifically spelled it out for her, and she remembers exactly what you told her. Alternatively, you can compile a nanny manual for her to refer to, assuming she has adequate reading skills in English. Each parent has different priorities when selecting a caregiver.

I am a very professional nanny and have consulted with pediatricians many times, which is why I would knew that this is not harming a child. I still would follow MBs direction as she is the child's parent and my employer. A professional nanny does not mean they can go against parent wishes.