There's no one way to sleep train, and two of the big names, Ferber and Weissbluth, don't recommend sleep training until closer to 5 months. That said, Ferber's book has a section on night weaning that we found very helpful. But--if you take away a feeding, there will probably be crying, because it sounds like the baby is used to eating at that time and is very hungry then.

While babies may, in the abstract, be capable of sleeping through the night at four months, every baby is different. My ped said that if my baby was waking up and hungry, that meant she needed to eat.

Anonymous wrote:You need to cluster feed @ beg of night, also remember that you need to stick with one method as consistency is key. So whichever you and MB feels most comfortable with.

+1

Of course they contradict each other, there is no "right" way to sleep train, just what works for a family and a child. Talk to your MB about which sleep philosophy she's comfortable with, be prepared to educate her on the differences if she hasn't looked into it herself, and then go back to that book or that system and stick with it for a week or two. If it isn't working then, re-evaluate the child's (and family's) needs.

You need to cluster feed @ beg of night, also remember that you need to stick with one method as consistency is key. So whichever you and MB feels most comfortable with.

I've gotten babies on daytime sleep schedules but this is the first time during the night. I've read a few books but they contradict each other, that's why i came here for advice. If i rock her when she starts to stir (not fully cry, wake up) and get her back to sleep i can usually get her to hold off longer to eat. Once she's back asleep i put her back in her crib and get up to three more hours between feeding. that was mbs suggestion but i worry it will make her need constant soothing during the night vs a bottle

^^^yes this^^

Also go in with your own ideas too in case they are unsure or undecided.

OP is this your first time sleep training an infant? You should be reading books - specifically the ones that align with your boss' views on sleep - to learn the techniques for this.

Anonymous wrote:I just feel it's something mb wants because she's mentioned how the pediatrician has said there is no need for her to need to eat during the night so i don't want mb to think I'm not doing my job. They don't want the others in the house to wake up from the crying

This is un realistic, a baby cries, and crying during sleep training is completely normal. I would sit down and make a plan, and then sit down with MB&DB and go over their expectations. A little crying/disruption in the beginning to creat healthy sleeping habits goes a long way!

I just feel it's something mb wants because she's mentioned how the pediatrician has said there is no need for her to need to eat during the night so i don't want mb to think I'm not doing my job. They don't want the others in the house to wake up from the crying

OP, if the parents aren't pushing it and don't want her to cry, then it doesn't sound like anything needs to change... Four months is really really young still.