Anonymous wrote:How can I take OFFENSE at someone who cannot spell the word?

Oh shut up.

How can I take OFFENSE at someone who cannot spell the word?

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Anonymous wrote:Isn't this why nannies get end of the year bonuses and other 'perks'? Nannies don't get bonuses because they did their job. They get paid because they do their job. Bonuses is a sign of appreciation because the nanny was flexible, did things outside of their normal activities, etc. People sacrifice alot in many professions so why do nannies get bent out of shape every-time something changes even slightly? Yet they still expect 2 weeks holiday pay, paid time off, free food, they probably run errands on the job, paid holidays, a birthday gift (well, most lol), etc etc.

Most nannies would never make it in the real world, that must is clear.

You have such a low opinion of nannies because you can't afford to hire one? Who can't make it in thre real world?

What? If that's the best you can do then why bother responding? And for the record I could afford a nanny and a housekeeper if I wanted to but most are not worth the money. No offence.

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I agree. There is nothing wrong with occasionally needing to stay late at work. What bothers me is when a parent does so without even clearing it with me, or so much as a text to let me know what's up. That is disrespectful, and not something I tolerate. If earning a bonus means letting you walk all over me, keep your money. I'm not your bitch.

+1 If it's occasional and I don't have plans I understand and will gladly stay but bosses need to realize I have a life and sometimes I have plans just like with any other job except being a nanny we just can't leave.

Anonymous wrote:Most people in the real world don't get bonuses either.

Stop talking as if nannies don't work in the real world. It's insulting and elitist.

Most people in the real world don't get bonuses either.

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Anonymous wrote:Isn't this why nannies get end of the year bonuses and other 'perks'? Nannies don't get bonuses because they did their job. They get paid because they do their job. Bonuses is a sign of appreciation because the nanny was flexible, did things outside of their normal activities, etc. People sacrifice alot in many professions so why do nannies get bent out of shape every-time something changes even slightly? Yet they still expect 2 weeks holiday pay, paid time off, free food, they probably run errands on the job, paid holidays, a birthday gift (well, most lol), etc etc.

Most nannies would never make it in the real world, that must is clear.

If there were some committee overseeing the distribution of bonuses and "perks" to the nannies who went above and beyond, you might have a point. Back in the real world the two do not correlate often enough.

+1 I have been a nanny for 5 years. I have glowing references, my bosses tell me they love me constantly, and they have all cried upon our parting which have all been amicable. Yet I work for very middle class families for whom a nanny is a stretch to begin with and I have NEVER gotten a bonus. Last year was the first year I received a gift ($10 gift card and picture of the baby) I know that I am appreciated, but I also know that laying down to be walked on all year does not correlate into some big payout at the end of the year.

Anonymous wrote:Isn't this why nannies get end of the year bonuses and other 'perks'? Nannies don't get bonuses because they did their job. They get paid because they do their job. Bonuses is a sign of appreciation because the nanny was flexible, did things outside of their normal activities, etc. People sacrifice alot in many professions so why do nannies get bent out of shape every-time something changes even slightly? Yet they still expect 2 weeks holiday pay, paid time off, free food, they probably run errands on the job, paid holidays, a birthday gift (well, most lol), etc etc.

Most nannies would never make it in the real world, that must is clear.

If there were some committee overseeing the distribution of bonuses and "perks" to the nannies who went above and beyond, you might have a point. Back in the real world the two do not correlate often enough.

Anonymous wrote:Isn't this why nannies get end of the year bonuses and other 'perks'? Nannies don't get bonuses because they did their job. They get paid because they do their job. Bonuses is a sign of appreciation because the nanny was flexible, did things outside of their normal activities, etc. People sacrifice alot in many professions so why do nannies get bent out of shape every-time something changes even slightly? Yet they still expect 2 weeks holiday pay, paid time off, free food, they probably run errands on the job, paid holidays, a birthday gift (well, most lol), etc etc.

Most nannies would never make it in the real world, that must is clear.

Not all nannies get paid bonuses at the end of the year, even IF they have been super flexible and accommodating to the parents. Remember the holiday bonus threads where parents would say that the nanny should be thankful for a $50 gift card? Well when working for a family like that, they don't get a flexible nanny in return. My time becomes more important to me and while I will stay late when necessary, I will not be flexible for just anything when it doesn't get shown to me that it is appreciated.

My DB usually comes home first, and he's usually home 10+ minutes before 6pm (which is when my shift ends). We use this time to check in about the day and discuss anything about tomorrow. A perfect example of being respectful: today he texted me at 5:15 to ask if I could stay late, saying if not, no problem, he'd leave then and be back on time. I didn't have anything I couldn't miss, so I of course agreed to stay late.

I don't think I would be able to work for anyone who did less than that* because sometimes, rarely, I cannot stay late, and I would expect that to be respected and recognized by my bosses.

*I make an exception for Fri/Sat date nights, when I let parents know that I anticipate a loose end time.

If you want a nanny who is at your disposal 24/7 who has no life of her own, then by all means be willing to pay out the ass for it. Otherwise, be respectful of her time as you expect her to be of yours.