Anonymous wrote:That fact that you cried about it and felt the need to apologize blows my mind...please nannies all over the world-we need to stop letting MB and DB's speak to us any kind of way and treat us like their puppets and slaves!

It's really getting out of hand and maybe we need to read the definition of what a nanny is, because theses people have it twisted and turning the meaning into such things as: PERSONAL SLAVE, STAY-AT-HOME MOM'S PERSONAL BITCH, and in OP's case, FUCKING ALARM CLOCK!!

Being yelled at by a boss isn't specific to nannies. There are plenty of nasty people in this world, some yell at their nannies, some yell at other employees. I've been yelled at and made to cry before by a "boss" (I was as student) but standing up to him/her wasn't an option but the fact that I didn't doesn't perpetuate the problem other people have with their bosses.

OP - don't let this poster make you feel bad about the way you handled the situation. I think your DB was so wrong and totally out of line but your reaction was understandable. I do think you could consider talking to MB and DB about it when the situation has calmed down though because it was really inappropriate of him and you should make sure it doesn't happen again.

Anonymous wrote:Novelist.

stop posting on every thread "Novelist"!

If you think they are a novelist, move along. No one is forcing you to read the thread!

PP, yes in theory it would be great if nannies felt they could speak up when they are treated that way. I"m sure OP would have loved to tell DB boss off when he was speaking that way to her. However, it is basically putting their livelihood at stake. DB could turn around and fire her right then and there for speaking up for herself. It sucks. I'm an MB and I have no idea what I would do if my husband spoke like that to our nanny. Probably strangle him and then make sure that he never was alone with the nanny again. And I'd probably give OP a small bonus for a "sorry my husband is an asshole"

Anonymous wrote:That fact that you cried about it and felt the need to apologize blows my mind...please nannies all over the world-we need to stop letting MB and DB's speak to us any kind of way and treat us like their puppets and slaves!

It's really getting out of hand and maybe we need to read the definition of what a nanny is, because theses people have it twisted and turning the meaning into such things as: PERSONAL SLAVE, STAY-AT-HOME MOM'S PERSONAL BITCH, and in OP's case, FUCKING ALARM CLOCK!!

That fact that you cried about it and felt the need to apologize blows my mind...please nannies all over the world-we need to stop letting MB and DB's speak to us any kind of way and treat us like their puppets and slaves!

It's really getting out of hand and maybe we need to read the definition of what a nanny is, because theses people have it twisted and turning the meaning into such things as: PERSONAL SLAVE, STAY-AT-HOME MOM'S PERSONAL BITCH, and in OP's case, FUCKING ALARM CLOCK!!

Let it go.

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Anonymous wrote:Your DB was mad at himself and took it out on you. Chances are he will calm down and apologize. On another note, I have walked in some mornings and my MB/DB have overslept. I have no problem walking in and waking them up lol. They have always appreciated it, but we have a very friendly casual relationship and I lived with them before I got married.

See, I know he was just taking his anger out on me, and usually he is more polite. I guess he thought I would come in and wake him up, but to me that felt like breaking a boundry.

It doesn't matter WHAT he thought, he has absolutely no reason to speak to you that way. He should have apologized that day or immediately the next time he saw you in person for his behavior. Have some pride in yourself, come on. Set some boundaries here, you are no one's slave or servant and you don't need to allow yourself to be berated at work.

If this is a real story, you need to have a backbone! I would not allow ANYONE to speak to me that way! This is insane! I would without a doubt tell them that you would like to have a meeting with them at their earliest convenience and explain to them that you do not feel that it is your responsibility to look after them and their schedule. Also tell them that you are respectful to them and that you expect the same in return. Then, I would start looking for a new position as it will not hurt to keep an eye out. You do not deserve to be treated this way.

Anonymous wrote:Your DB was mad at himself and took it out on you. Chances are he will calm down and apologize. On another note, I have walked in some mornings and my MB/DB have overslept. I have no problem walking in and waking them up lol. They have always appreciated it, but we have a very friendly casual relationship and I lived with them before I got married.

See, I know he was just taking his anger out on me, and usually he is more polite. I guess he thought I would come in and wake him up, but to me that felt like breaking a boundry.

I agree with everyone else. I also recommend that if you talk to them, don't allow the wife to smooth things over. Confront him personally, with or without her there.

As a female nanny, I would never approach a man in his bedroom. It's none of your business when/if he gets up and goes to work. Good luck, and keep us update, OP.

You need to talk to MB & DB about this ASAP or you will continue to get treated this way. You should sit down with them and tell them that you would like to talk about what happened yesterday. Tell them that as a nanny, you have never been responsible for "waking up a parent" and that you did not feel comfortable going into their bedroom, knowing he was still home as he very well could have been sick or staying home that day. I personally would not be comfortable going in and "checking on" a parent in the morning to see what was going on/why they hadn't left. It is not part of your job to make sure DB is up and ready for work on time. He is a grown adult. You need to get this resolved ASAP or they are going to continue to treat you this way.

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Anonymous wrote:Run, don't walk. If it were me, I would have made some sort of rude comment about it doesn't take much skill level to set an alarm...

Exactly. He showed his true face and he seems like a nasty piece of work. There is NO excuse for the way he treated you and if I were you I would give my notice because I bet this is a preview to things to come.

Agreed. If you're not ready to leave then make it very clear that you will not be treated like that. The fact that MB apologized for him speaks volumes. He is going to walk all over you and it sounds to me like MB is accustomed to smoothing things over. Is that how you want to spend your days.. waiting for a selfish jerk to lose his cool because you didn't take care of HIM?

Personally, I would be out of there.

Anonymous wrote:Run, don't walk. If it were me, I would have made some sort of rude comment about it doesn't take much skill level to set an alarm...

Exactly. He showed his true face and he seems like a nasty piece of work. There is NO excuse for the way he treated you and if I were you I would give my notice because I bet this is a preview to things to come.

Your DB was mad at himself and took it out on you. Chances are he will calm down and apologize. On another note, I have walked in some mornings and my MB/DB have overslept. I have no problem walking in and waking them up lol. They have always appreciated it, but we have a very friendly casual relationship and I lived with them before I got married.

It's not you job to babysit adults.