Anonymous
Post 06/06/2013 21:21     Subject: Nanny lunches
Anonymous wrote:We've always said to please help yourself to anything you find, but our nanny has always brought her own lunch - from my experience, that's a typical arrangement. I think it's standard to say "help yourself" but not to seriously mean it literally and definitely not standard to have a live-out adding things to the grocery list beyond the very basics.

Honestly what most MBs are going to mean by "help yourself to anything" is that of course a nanny is free to have what she's feeding the kids, help herself to juice/water/milk/sodas, or even have a snack now and then. I imagine they don't literally mean to make yourself every single meal and add things to the grocery list.


Yes, I agree many people don't mean what they say. However, in a professional setting such as this it would help everyone out to be straightforward and honest with your language.
Anonymous
Post 06/06/2013 20:49     Subject: Nanny lunches
I alwayws bring my lunch
most of the famys to hom i worked they do not have food in thier firg
Anonymous
Post 06/06/2013 15:00     Subject: Nanny lunches
We've always said to please help yourself to anything you find, but our nanny has always brought her own lunch - from my experience, that's a typical arrangement. I think it's standard to say "help yourself" but not to seriously mean it literally and definitely not standard to have a live-out adding things to the grocery list beyond the very basics.

Honestly what most MBs are going to mean by "help yourself to anything" is that of course a nanny is free to have what she's feeding the kids, help herself to juice/water/milk/sodas, or even have a snack now and then. I imagine they don't literally mean to make yourself every single meal and add things to the grocery list.
Anonymous
Post 06/06/2013 14:24     Subject: Nanny lunches
Anonymous wrote:Cheap parents don't provide lunch for their nanny.

Nice and honest parents provide it.


Oh give me a break w/ the entitlement. And how exactly would honesty tie into providing meals?

Ridiculous.
Anonymous
Post 06/06/2013 14:22     Subject: Nanny lunches
Anonymous wrote:I'm a nanny ,I take my my lunch and water with me when I go to work.
You don't have obligation to feed your nanny,if she's live with you of corse you have to do,clear?!!
Good lack with your new nanny!!


Lol lol good luck to YOU!
Anonymous
Post 06/06/2013 12:29     Subject: Nanny lunches
I am a live out nanny. Mb tells me I am more than welcome to eat their food, but I prefer to bring my own. Mb has taken note of the food I bring and has started buying those items and telling me she bought them for me. It's a nice gesture, and I appreciate it.
However, I think just providing shelf space in the fridge and pantry is fine.
Anonymous
Post 06/06/2013 11:33     Subject: Nanny lunches
Cheap parents don't provide lunch for their nanny.

Nice and honest parents provide it.
Anonymous
Post 06/06/2013 11:26     Subject: Nanny lunches
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:We have a live out nanny and she has always brought her own lunch. She is welcome to space in the fridge, shelves, any storage. She is also welcome to the snacks and drinks we have on hand, and of course, to make a lunch with what is on hand if she forgets her lunch.

That said, lunch is definitely not included as a perk in our contract and is not standard and not provided.

A stipend or a specialized list of food for nanny's lunch would be over the top. If she were a live in, of course, it would be different.


We do exactly this, and I agree that a stipend of commitment to buy the nannies preferred groceries would be over the top--just another form of compensation. A lot of nannies will tell you that providing lunch is standard, but fewer and fewer MBs seem to be doing it these days.

That's odd. Among the people I hear from, it is standard practice to invite the nanny to "please make yourself at home". For those who fear being taken advantage of, I am afraid that speaks to the poor quality of nannies they hire. They are compelled to nickel and dime every little thing. It must be exhausting by the end of the day. How do they get any office work done?


+1

I am the only nanny I know who doesn't get meals provided by my employers. I don't mind personally, but you're wrong to say it isn't standard.
Anonymous
Post 06/06/2013 10:16     Subject: Nanny lunches
When I first started my current job, mb asked if there was anything I wanted her to keep in the house. I told her I was fine. I usually bring my own lunch, and when I don't, I buy it while dc and I are out and about for the day.

Mb has told me in the past that I'm welcome to leftovers, etc. while I'm there though.
Anonymous
Post 06/06/2013 07:29     Subject: Nanny lunches
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:We have a live out nanny and she has always brought her own lunch. She is welcome to space in the fridge, shelves, any storage. She is also welcome to the snacks and drinks we have on hand, and of course, to make a lunch with what is on hand if she forgets her lunch.

That said, lunch is definitely not included as a perk in our contract and is not standard and not provided.

A stipend or a specialized list of food for nanny's lunch would be over the top. If she were a live in, of course, it would be different.


We do exactly this, and I agree that a stipend of commitment to buy the nannies preferred groceries would be over the top--just another form of compensation. A lot of nannies will tell you that providing lunch is standard, but fewer and fewer MBs seem to be doing it these days.

That's odd. Among the people I hear from, it is standard practice to invite the nanny to "please make yourself at home". For those who fear being taken advantage of, I am afraid that speaks to the poor quality of nannies they hire. They are compelled to nickel and dime every little thing. It must be exhausting by the end of the day. How do they get any office work done?
Anonymous
Post 06/06/2013 07:07     Subject: Nanny lunches
I'm a nanny ,I take my my lunch and water with me when I go to work.
You don't have obligation to feed your nanny,if she's live with you of corse you have to do,clear?!!
Good lack with your new nanny!!
Anonymous
Post 06/06/2013 00:39     Subject: Nanny lunches
Oops. Should have said "a stipend OR commitment to buy the NANNY'S preferred groceries..."
Anonymous
Post 06/06/2013 00:37     Subject: Nanny lunches
Anonymous wrote:We have a live out nanny and she has always brought her own lunch. She is welcome to space in the fridge, shelves, any storage. She is also welcome to the snacks and drinks we have on hand, and of course, to make a lunch with what is on hand if she forgets her lunch.

That said, lunch is definitely not included as a perk in our contract and is not standard and not provided.

A stipend or a specialized list of food for nanny's lunch would be over the top. If she were a live in, of course, it would be different.


We do exactly this, and I agree that a stipend of commitment to buy the nannies preferred groceries would be over the top--just another form of compensation. A lot of nannies will tell you that providing lunch is standard, but fewer and fewer MBs seem to be doing it these days.
Anonymous
Post 06/05/2013 22:18     Subject: Nanny lunches
I buy basic sandwich, salad and other stuff that nanny eats (buy it for our lunches). We have picky eaters so I don't expect her to eat what they eat. Sometimes she brings stuff, but mostly makes a sandwich or something simple. It isn't a typical work environment, so I always provide food.
Anonymous
Post 06/05/2013 22:13     Subject: Nanny lunches
Live-out career nanny here, I bring my own lunch and have access to their pantry if needed. I may grab an occasional snack of theirs or share the childrens' apples, but I also share my food with the kids. I think you can get into trouble offering to supply food for a nanny. If she works late on occasion or for other sitters, I think you should offer food.